AlfOps21 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I'm in college and every single girl that I've been interested in has a bf, so I can't even actively try and pursue any of them. What I decided to do is just to try and take a glance at them and see if they react. Now today I felt half sick and didn't look my best but did glance technique. I only tried it on the girl I considered to be the most attractive. During the class I took a couple of glances and noted afterwards she was wrapping her hair around her fingers and I got her to half mirror my gestures. Now granted I haven't even talked to her, my question does that show that she's interested in me? What, if anything can I try next?
Titanwolf Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Interest =/= Friendly. Even if all the other girls are taken, it doesn't justify stealing. If you're doing this for an ego boost, you'll be disappointed in the end, because you'll find yourself being strung along. If you do manage to steal a girl away from her BF... well congratulations, you should be very proud of your achievement.
BassWalker Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 you can flirt back, he's a boyfriend not her husband, maybe she's looking for a change. she won't let it go any further than she wants. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 ^this First of all your just flirting and most people flirt without even thinking about it. It's like breathing or sneezing, a bodily function. Second all BS aside this much I know to be true. Unless you are married or legally entangled in such a way that it would take a court order to separate you, you are not in a committed relationship. Some people have been able to BS themselves into thinking otherwise, sorry, the truth is unless you put a ring on it either partner can quit at any time with no real consequences. Third, do you fear these women calling you a creep because you hit on them and they have a BF? Don't. All that means is that the woman is not interested in you. An interested woman will not let a mere BF stop her from having what she wants. An uninterested woman in today society calls any man she does not find hot a creep or something else like that. Your in college. These are grown women. Your not responsible for keeping their relationships together. There is no "sanctity" or institution to respect in those relationships. If they are going to leave their BF eventually anyway, and in college that's more than likely, they might as well leave him for you. Odds are their BF's are messing around on some level. TL;DR Flirting is a natural part of life like a reflex. Being married is a real committment but other relationships are not "sacred" and you don't have to deprive yourself because of them. Don't take their rejection hard in college everyone is a bit flaky so just do your thing.
bdash Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 If she saw you looking at her more than once she knows you're interested. The next step is to talk to her. Have a conversation, it doesn't have to be long, maybe 10-20 min. Get her number, or if you are feeling a little nervous (or you can't take that long) talk to her a time or two more. Then get it and text her. That said, a little advice on taken ladies going for you: Ive had girls go for me who had BFs. Usually they are looking for a change, or if they are super slutty, just some fun. Personally I found it a bit of a turnoff because unless I just wanted some casual fun I wouldn't want to know her. After all, if I got involved with her what is stopping her from leaving me in the same way? Certainly not her morals... So, I would say that if you can get a girl who has a bf, you have found a great F buddy, but make sure you don't date her.
Titanwolf Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Unless you are married or legally entangled in such a way that it would take a court order to separate you, you are not in a committed relationship. My uncle and his GF have been together in a committed relationship, for 32 years. My cousin and his wife were married for 2 years and then got divorced. Your logic is backwards and flawed. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 My uncle and his GF have been together in a committed relationship, for 32 years. My cousin and his wife were married for 2 years and then got divorced. Your logic is backwards and flawed. My parents have been married for 32 years. The difference is that it takes a legal proceeding to dissolve the relationship. No commitment means no consequences (other than emotional ones) for ending it.
Titanwolf Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 My parents have been married for 32 years. The difference is that it takes a legal proceeding to dissolve the relationship. No commitment means no consequences (other than emotional ones) for ending it. Fair enough, but commitment isn't about the consequences, it's about dedication and application. Marriage does not overrule other relationships just because the government has now told them they are suddenly committed to each other, through a piece of paper. That act of commitment itself is the dedication you show to your partner everyday, through struggles and empathy. 1
alysamartin001 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 My Friend continue start flirting, make sure some one impress with you. Today many social networking site are available. You can try here and start flirting.
Mrlonelyone Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Fair enough, but commitment isn't about the consequences, it's about dedication and application. Marriage does not overrule other relationships just because the government has now told them they are suddenly committed to each other, through a piece of paper. That act of commitment itself is the dedication you show to your partner everyday, through struggles and empathy. I see what you mean but really consequences is a huge part of commitment. Consider if you are not married to a woman and have a child with her and don't sign the birth cert. She never ask you too either. Things are good as long as you two get along. Then, one day, you come home and find her things your child's things gone, just gone. Not even a note left. Without that paper your committed woman could do just that to you. What's more there would be no legal recourse for you at all.
Titanwolf Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I see what you mean but really consequences is a huge part of commitment. Consider if you are not married to a woman and have a child with her and don't sign the birth cert. She never ask you too either. Things are good as long as you two get along. Then, one day, you come home and find her things your child's things gone, just gone. Not even a note left. Without that paper your committed woman could do just that to you. What's more there would be no legal recourse for you at all. I'm going to have to disagree with you on the 1st point but, that scenario you described would bother me a lot. That is highly unlikely to happen though, considering I don't plan to have kids. she could just up and leave me one day, but that's the whole point. Giving someone the option to do that, if they feel they have to. The fact that she can leave at any moment, but chooses to stay, says a lot more about her level of commitment to me, than a marriage licence ever will. My 0.02. I'm not going to derail the thread any longer though
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