sofrustrated25 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Hi all. I have a girlfriend who called me last night with what I consider red flags with the guy she's seeing. I want to give her good advice and lord knows I have my own marriage problems. She's recently divorced. Started seeing this guy about 3 weeks ago. He knew she wanted to take things slow. They haven't done more than kiss. However right after their second date, her mom had a stroke and she had to fly to be with her. The guy was understanding but hasn't asked about her mom once since she returned. Then last Friday... They were supposed to go out and her grandfather passed away. She flew out right away to help. He didn't do more than text and say be strong etc etc. So she flew home last night and called me because she said he hadn't returned her texts etc and then told her he fell asleep at 8:30 because he was held up all day watching football. (he's an addict of nfl) He wants her to come over tonight to watch a football game. So she thinks he's pretty uncaring and selfish and asked my opinion. My marriage is proof that I'm not one to ask... So I told her I'd post here
ChatroomHero Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 As a guy in that situation, I would probably text or call once and then not bring up those touchy subjects again. After 3 weeks of knowing someone it would be the last thing I would try to bring up with them after initial condolences etc. I would be annoyed if a girl texted me and expected after only 3 weeks that she was the only thing I had going on in my life and I was somehow supposed to always be available to return her text.
InJest Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Ditto, and ditto. Your friend is an idiot, and probably crazy too. The guy is probably wondering how interested she is in him, and is probably having doubts about how interested he is in her. If she gets this worked up, this early on over texting, then she's obviously very immature, and I would venture a guess that she's probably a nag, and would venture another guess that was a contributor to her divorce.
Balzac Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Recent divorce, death of a parent, nope, too much life drama. Nice of him to invite her over to watch the game but no way, bad timing in her life.
alysamartin001 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Your friend is really a big big fool.
Author sofrustrated25 Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Why is she a "big big fool"? She said she texted him today to apologize for all the drama underway in her life and asked him if it was too much for him. She told him it was fine if he wanted to take a step back. He said no he was fine... She didn't push it past that. But now she's considering getting more intimate with him. I'm concerned for her
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