damyst Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 So here is what has happened. My gf has said that she loves me very much and that I am the only guy that she has truly ever loved and actually cared how her actions effect me but she is confused in life right and not sure what she wants from life at the moment. She is 23 and Im 31. She says that she doesnt want to lose me because of what I said previously. She says that I am great and an amazing person and wants to be my wife and that she wants that a lot but again feels like that there are things she needs to get in order before she could do that. We ultimately see us as our future with kids, home and all that that entails. I guess Im just wondering what I should do....let her come to me when she feels the time is right or what. Thanks in advance for the help and insight.
KathyM Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Sounds to me like she's not ready to make a permanent commitment at such a young age. Many people aren't. I guess if you really want to marry her in the future, you're going to have to wait for her to be ready to make that commitment. You're kind of at a different stage in life right now than her. You are 31 and feel you're done with the single life and ready to commit to one person for a lifetime. She is only 23 and not yet at that stage. You're going to have to be patient and wait for her to come to that stage of wanting a lifelong commitment to you. A lot of people aren't ready to at that age.
Author damyst Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 I don't mind waiting that's not a problem, I guess I'm wondering if I should just hang back and let her initiate contact and how to keep that romance and intrigue there. I mean I have been just going out and doing my own thing at the moment and taking meditation classes and working on me.
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