Mariana345 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Hello!!! I have come to tell all of you that it gets better Had a blasting weekend!!! The best in a long long time. I had a trip with this friend from the university (now is friend with benefits ). We went out of town, stayed in a beautiful hotel with a lake and had a really great time together. At first I missed "him", and even had a guilty feeling (don't know why, "he" left me after all, I can do whatever I want) but since I have this great companion it was really easy to let go and enjoy!! I was scared that what I was doing will ruin my chances (yes, we had sex) but it felt really great having this closeness with someone else, wich I thought I will never have again. "He" was my first real everything, and having the intimacy that I had with him take us a lot of problems and time... Well, he ruined it, but I now know that I can have it again, even with someone else. I figured it out that the ex wasn't the best "thing" of my life. He was great, I have to admit it, I really loved him and the memories that I have with him will always be precious to me. But he definitely wasn't the best of my life. I have amazing friends, a great family, the greatest opportunity knocking at my door, and the best years of my life in front of me. I have people who trust me, have faith and are proud of me, not like "him". The world is bigger, the world is brighter and no matter if he will come back or not, I will be happy. I still do miss him. I can't erase the love of 5 years. But now is like it is frozen, I still love him but is not a warm feeling and not NEED "him" in my life. If he wants to come back or not doesn't bother me anymore. I see what a big world we have and all the things that are waiting for me! I settled too soon, and I had always resented it. Now I can have it all! And if he doesn't want to come with me, well, I will have more things to do then So, for all of you... It really does get better (I'm about 3 months after BU). The pain is hard, but the world keeps spinning and if you don't hop up you will miss it, more than you miss your EX... Go out and live. Life is short, and good things happen when you less expect them. Be the best you can be, you will atract the correct "things" in your life Good luck to everyone!!
geegirl Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) I'm sorry if I sound like a Debbie Downer but only 7 days ago you posted about how much of pain you are in and how your heart is broken. You now have a FWB that is paying you attention and everything now seems great. You've just masked and distracted your pain with an FWB. I have a strong feeling that you will attach to FWB, get hurt and you'll struggle the pain of dealing with unresolved issues from your ex and the possible rejection of an FWB situation. FWBs are never a good diversion when you haven't fully dealt with your break-up. Good luck to you and I do hope everything works out for you. Edited September 10, 2012 by geegirl
Author Mariana345 Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) Yes, I know that I was doing terrible a week ago. That was because I got a message from my ex's stalker to hurt me and I bit the bait. It also helped me. Is not that I got this FWB and everything is fine, we had this weekend, he also finished a 8 year RS like 8 months ago, so we talked a lot about it. But it wasn't just him, it was this trip that wake me up You see, when I was with my ex we had this routine, every weekend we dated. The first years we went out and made a precious memories, but the last part of the RS become really boring and disappointing and I was feeling like I was missing something from life. He just wanted to stay home and do nothing... We are young, I wanted to do volunteer, to protest against animal abuse (i did a little, but wanted more) do something for the world!! But he just didn't want it. Also my friend encouraged me to pursue my dreams. And I realized that the world is bigget than I thought! if I had continued with my ex probably this weekend I had spend it in his house but instead I travelled and had a great time, knew other places and had different experiences! That was the last push that I needed to go study abroad, I was undecided, I just wanted to get back with him, but now I'm grabbing my life in my own hands. I know that if I want atention I can get it, if I want sex I can get it. If I want romance I can get it. Adventures? I can get it. I really don't NEED him... just wanted him in my life but if he doesn't want to be in it... I could get someone else who does. Or just enjoy my life by myself I was doubting myself too, but last night I, for the first time in 3 months, slept all night Edited September 10, 2012 by Mariana345
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