TheDovic Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Hi everyone, In the past year since my ex and I broke up I have dated a few girls, some of them really beautiful girls who I get on with amazingly! However there has just been no "spark" with any of them and I am always reminding myself they aren't my ex! When I met my ex (and my ex ex lol) I was so excited to see / speak to them but that excitement has now gone. I'm not sure if I've lost faith in relationships or if I'm just not ready to move on but it's concerning me. Prior to meeting my ex I know I would've been head over heals about at least two of these girls, but the excitement just isn't there!! Anyone experience anything like this or have any views on why it might be? Thanks
paperboy48 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I have the same issue....I look around on match.com and nobody really excites me. I keep looking to see someone who is a mirror of my ex. she's not there...I am still very much in love with my ex and the thought of someone else right now just does not excite me. 1
not-a-drive-by Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) Perhaps you haven't found the right girl yet, or you have, but you keep comparing them to your ex, so the spark never comes. Why? Because they aren't your ex and I believe the spark will feel and be different, because it's a different person. I am yet to experience any of that....because I am stuck in the trap of comparing guys I see with my ex . My friend said this to me the other day "if you are going to compare everyone to your ex, then you aren't exploring or giving yourself opportunities. So essentially, you are just digging your own grave...not one person is the same with another. Just remember that". Oh, it probably won't happen until you have moved on...seems like you haven't. Edited September 10, 2012 by not-a-drive-by 2
Author TheDovic Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Thanks guys. I know I'm not over my ex but I no longer want her back, and I don't see or speak to her anymore! And you're right, I do compare other girls to my ex but I don't know how to stop doing that. Maybe it'll just take time.... or maybe the right person!
TaraMaiden Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Your ex- is an ex- for a reason. Something didn't click. Give ladies a break, and just enjoy socialising. Establish what a lady is looking for in an encounter, because it helps to both want the same thing - a committed relationship. As someone said earlier today, never set up a relationship with someone who isn't looking for one. Or vice versa. if you try to forget about comparisons, and try to forget "long-term commitment and exclusivity" - someone may just come along that jingles all your bells... Life's too short to keep putting hurdles in front of yourself.....
bluefairy812 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Hi everyone, In the past year since my ex and I broke up I have dated a few girls, some of them really beautiful girls who I get on with amazingly! However there has just been no "spark" with any of them and I am always reminding myself they aren't my ex! When I met my ex (and my ex ex lol) I was so excited to see / speak to them but that excitement has now gone. I'm not sure if I've lost faith in relationships or if I'm just not ready to move on but it's concerning me. Prior to meeting my ex I know I would've been head over heals about at least two of these girls, but the excitement just isn't there!! Anyone experience anything like this or have any views on why it might be? Thanks i feel your pain, i am also comparing.. but to me it's just human nature and normal up to a certain extent keep your head high, there is an awesome person who will walk into your life and make you stop comparing soon enough.
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