I don't want to be the OTHER woman, I just want to feel pretty........

[Felicity]

OK....maybe you guys don't know but I broke up with my boyfriend about 12 days ago... but that's another story..

One day I went to eat at SUBWAY and I was sitting there, alone like always..(it was my lunch hour) anyways I saw this cute guy that was buying a sub and when he was leaving he kept looking at me.. I even thought he was going to talk to me but he left. later that day I was at work and like 4 hours later the same guy came an paid his taxes!!! I was like "oh my god!" hahaha it was really weird maybe it was coincidence" (or how ever you write it) anyways I helped him and he told me "are you the girl from subway?" and I said "yes i am!" haha he told lots of stuff like the if the next time he sees me again he was going to sit with me and I told him "ok that's coo" BUT there is a problem in his account I saw that he was with another girl (married) damn it! that's bad luck! ok titme passed like 3 weeks (this all happen when I was still going out with my ex) and TODAY I wasn't hungry and i swear i was going to the mall just to see and let time pass by....and I had my celk in my hand i was about to call my ex!!!!! but I thought about it and i said F*** him!..and suddenly i felt like going to subway and I went and when I was in line in front of me was this "married" guy YES! the same one! that is coincidence too.. blah blah he saw me, and waited for me and we ate together he told me that i was really pretty (he told me that the other day when he was paying his taxes) and yes he is married he told me and he is so cute.. and he invited me tomorrow to eat at a restaurant he was going to call me so we could meet there. I don't know if i should stop this from going somewhere.. or should i just go with the flow??? I think i need this, I need to forget my ex and my feelings for him, i need someone to tell me that i am still atractive and that someone wants to be with me... is cause this breakup made me feel like if I wasn't pretty anymore.. (ok i wanna cry again! but im not!!!) you know what i am going with him and if he asks me to go the next day i WILL accept. I need attention i really do..I just don't want to think about ir too much i mean its not like of i'm sleeping with him...im sure he wants that, but not me.. not at this point in time... not with a married man. oh man! what do I do?

 

A part of me wants to go with him but another part is telling me to think about it, it could be dangerous right? what if i fall in love with him? i'm gonna be the other woman!!!!!

 

FELICITY

[dudesomewhere]

[moimeme]

i need someone to tell me that i am still atractive and that someone wants to be with me... is cause this breakup made me feel like if I wasn't pretty anymore.. (ok i wanna cry again! but im not!!!) you know what i am going with him and if he asks me to go the next day i WILL accept. I need attention i really do

 

Oh, geeze. Snap OUT of it!!! This guy smelled you coming a mile away. Get hold of yourself. In moaning and whining about how you 'need' attention and being told you're pretty, you give away all of your power to others. Stand up and be your own human and don't hang your self-esteem on others.

 

 

You already know he's a jerk - a married man who puts the moves on other women. Is this the sort of person you really want in your life?

 

I realize that a lot of people preach that the way to get over a man is to get under a man - but if you must, at least pick a man that's not already committed. Or else you will need to be.

[Adunaphel]

I agree with dudesomewhere and moimeme, snap out of it.

You won't end up feeling pretty, you'll end up feeling cheap, feeling used, feeling *bad*.

[vanandme4him]

ok, let's cut the niceties...your mind is already made up about this. BUT YOU HAVE TO REGROUP....

 

Aside from the fact that dating some other woman's husband is not cool, and MORE important...is the ramifications of it on YOU!!! Trust me...I'm one of those OW, I know. It's horrible. You think you're insecure now, just wait until you get involved with a commited man. There are so many emotional/psychological pitfalls in a relationship like that.

 

but...it sounds like your hooked already. of your curious...just to see how far you'll go.

 

don't do it. i'm sure you are a beautiful woman and the next lucky guy that becomes a part of your life will tell you so.

[Debster]

I can't understand your train of thought. In order to feel better about myself I will be ok with hurting others. A selfish thought (or actions) like that is not going to make you feel better about yourself, it will actually make you feel worse.

[EC]

You know not matter what we say or how we say it the best teacher in life is experience. The problem with experience is it gives the test first and the lesson later.

 

It really bites. You need time alone to find out who you are. You have definite insecurities that you need to deal with and a committed man is going to just add to the problems. What are you going to do if you get attatched and his wife finds out and he cuts all contact with you because he doesnt wnat to hurt his wife. How do you think your self-esteem is going to be then? How alone do you think your going to feel then?

 

Save yourself the pain. Your on rebound mode right now and thats why your are feeling what your feeling. A woman that knows herself and what she wants does not need a man to tell her thats she's pretty and to make her feel wanted.

 

Also, all the time that you will waste (and yes I say waste because thats what your doing..wasting your time) on this man you could be out finding a man that will want to be with you and appreciate you for you and not have to hide behind his wife to do it.

 

Do not date this man it's wrong, you know it in your heart it's wrong. Think about this what if you found the man of your dreams and married him and he went and was scurring around wih another woman? Doesn't feel nice right?

 

Stay away, take sometime for yourself, being alone for a while is not that bad, and wait for the right man to find you. (preferrably not married)

[Grinning Maniac]

Well, everyone else who's posted has said the same thing I was going to say, so I've got nothing.

 

Anyone want to take bets that she'll STILL date this guy even though everyone's telling her "danger danger"? Anybody? Come on, you know you want a piece of this action. I'm betting 15 bucks she does.

 

*holds out bet-taking notepad*

[EC]

I'm putting down 5 bucks!

[tiki]

I'm in for ten.

 

Um, you deserve someone that can give you his full self. This man can't. Don't play with fire.

[fanou22]

You barely know the guy and you want to sleep with him simply because he told you you're beautiful?????

 

I apologize if I seem like coming down on you hard but only you can see yourself beautiful. Take it from an OW, run as far away and as fast as you can from him. If you don't, all these feelings will come back to haunt you tenfold. You will only be bringing destruction to yourself.