Norse Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 So I have been talking with this girl about 2 months now. Finally after countless failed attempts to meet up with her on her part... we did, everything went well. Had a great date and everything clicked, and there was no awkward moments, hit a "home run" on the very first date. She ended up texting me back first the next morning, we've just been texting since. I keep trying to meet up with her again, but I'm having no luck, she's always has some kind of reason she can't, and believe me I've formulated a lot of possibilities on why that is in my mind. I get a lot of mixed signals because she seems interested, tells me I'm very sweet, great, calls me pet names etc... however when I go to meet up with her she always has some reason she can't. I don't know if it's all about the chase as they say but it seems like I'm doing all the chasing, one day for the laugh of it I didn't text her at all and sure enough she did text me first... However I figure maybe she got the wrong impression of me considering we hit a "home run" on the first date? I figured I would explain that to her that I was genuinely interested in her beyond that. I was considering asking her what she thought/felt about me since she always asks me what I feel about her... I'm just looking for some advice on what I should be doing, or where I'm going wrong. I'm so confused...
ja123 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Yes, I think you should tell her that you are interested in her for more and ask her if she feels the same way.
MrCastle Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 How physical have you gotten? Hugging? Hand holding? Make out? Is she aware you guys went on a date or does she think it was just a meeting between friends? Make sure she sees you as a dating prospect and not a friendly text buddy. One easy way to help determine that is when you're planning to see her again, maybe say something like "so for our next date, I was thinking we can go to..." Something that lets her know she is going on a date with you. If she sneezes at the word "date" or displays any type of behavior not typical of her character, you have your answer. I've had pet names and all that other stuff with girls before. I was nothing more than a text buddy.
Author Norse Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 We were as physical a man and women could get lol.
truth_seeker Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 We were as physical a man and women could get lol. Talk to her for 2 months. She is aloof. She sleeps with you on the first date. Now she reverts back to being aloof and you have to do all of the chasing. All you are to her is a random f-buddy. She likes to know for her own ego that you're still interested in her with your texting. When you didn't text, she got worried, texted you, just to make sure you were still interested in her. FYI - you're not the only guy she is doing this with. You're just an option on her phone.
Author Norse Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Lol... I was thinking she stereotyped me since the first date reached that level, but maybe that's what she was looking for. So you are suggesting I stop trying to invite her out to dinner, movies, etc?
truth_seeker Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 If you like her company, like to sleep with her, and don't get emotionally attached to her, you should continue to invite her out. If you want her as a serious girlfriend, then no.
Author Norse Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Well i do want her as a girlfriend, but i don't want to assume anything either, I can conjure all of these thoughts like being suggested in my head, and I have before with things assumed and made a fool out of myself, and felt stupid afterwards. But I mean can I just randomly text "hey I've been kind of wondering, what are you looking for in a man, like a friend with benefits, or a relationship", and I'm not sure what consequences even asking that could entail...
InJest Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) You need to stop initiating contact with her, and just be short when she contacts you. You also need to be actively pursuing other women too. She's clearly not interested in anything serious, so telling her how you feel will push her away. Edited September 10, 2012 by InJest
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