neveragain2493 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I dated my ex for almost 3 years. He cheated on me, put me down about my appearance, and never really gave me affection. A week before we broke up, I slept with someone else and realized I needed to end our relationship. Our breakup was very calm, and he understood, so it seemed all right. I texted him a week later to check on him, and he was just plain hateful. He told me he never cared about me like I did about him, and when I suggested we be friends and see what happens, he flat out said no. About a month after the breakup, I couldn't get him out of my head, so I texted him one last time. It was even worse this time. He told me that he didn't love me even though he tried to make himself, and he constantly wanted to be with someone else. He then said he wasn't going to "waste his sleep on things that had no importance to him," so I got angry and texted back, "I guess our relationship didn't have much importance to me either if I spent the last week of it sleeping with ______." He texted back and said, "I wish you luck in your future endeavors. I'll remember the good times but am also forced to reflect on all the bad that overshadow the good. Let me know when you need help choosing a baby name." Ever since then, I've started talking to other guys and completely forgot about my ex; in fact, I'm relieved he's out of my life. Out of mere curiosity tonight, I looked at his FB messages, and he messaged one of his friends (who is also my friend). He told her that he saw us talking (on one of MY pictures) about having a party together soon. He said, "you better invite me instead of her. I was your friend first." She said, "Can't you just be civil?" and he said, "No. I can't enjoy myself with her there," and then he made a joke about coming after me with a beer bottle. It kind of freaked me out, honestly. So my question is, if our breakup was so mutual like he says it was, why is he so angry? Is he egotistical? Is he angry that I've moved on and hooked up with other guys while he still hasn't gotten any? Is he bitter? Is he angry that I go out and have fun with my friends while he doesn't do anything on the weekends (he told his friend this himself)? If it's said and done, it just baffles me that he's acting this way.
CptSaveAho Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 lol...............really? you slept with someone else then ended the relationship and you wonder why hes angry. not only that, you continue to text him after the fact.
Sav Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Dont get it. Why are you on his fb? If I interpreted this correctly, you went onto his fb and checked his msgs right. Why are you snooping around if you're over him 1
SoulSearcher22 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Why is he angry? Lol, girls are something else
Author neveragain2493 Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 He cheated on me the entire last year of our relationship, and I'm in the wrong because I cheated on him the week before I broke it off? I paid for everything and did the giving in the relationship while he was telling me he wasn't sure he loved me and that he'd pay more attention to me if I lost weight. Yes, what I did was wrong, but quite frankly, he deserved it, and he has no right to be angry when what I did was only a fraction of what he did.
TaraMaiden Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Yes. Classic case of biter bit. He dolled it out, but couldn't take it when you shoved it back. Nasty piece of work, carrying hateful resentment with him. Let him do that to his heart's content. you don't need to wonder about what he's doing, why and how. you just need to put him behind you, wonder at your own attitude in taking him back all those times, and maintain your dignity and get on with life. dumped guys keep bitter a lot longer than women do. Women seek solutions out of bitterness. Men seem to find solace in prolonging it. As you can see by the comments in this thread. Don't get me wrong - women can be bitches too - and TbH, cheating on him doesn't give you added value or a position of right. But drop it. Move on, and learn. 1
lovebug1234 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 move on and let him go. he's not worth the energy.
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