AD1980 Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 No joke....if I had tons of money, Id travel around the country meeting guys like you and showing you how to meet some ladies. Sure rejection is part of the game, but I really do sympathize for dudes who reach their 20s and 30s without having any luck. I was a slight late bloomer myself, but have really come into my own over the years. (By slight late bloomer I mean I lost my virginity at 18...even though most guys and girls I knew lost it at 14, 15, or 16. So I was the butt of some jokes back then. So though its not on the same level as many other guys, I still can relate just a tad) Theres nothing keeping me from thinking that I couldnt take some of you lads shopping, groom yall up, and have you meet some decent women who are at least within your league. Youll get there buddy. Id say find a good guy friend and go under his wing and learn the trick of the trade. I appreciate it..i dont think groomings my problem i dress pretty well maybe im just not attractive facially Im just deatlgy afraid of approaching radnom women and am also very sensitive to rejection..Maybe if i had prior sucess rejection woulnt sting so much but it just reinfocres to me that women arent attracted to me when it happens..
TheBigQuestion Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 On some level I agree but the woman also has to realize that sex to a man is different than it is for a woman and accept that. Once a woman truly accepts that she can focus on truly weeding out the men that just want sex. Most people up to a certain age have trouble with the whole sex and feelings thing but that is more about based on experience. I agree. On a related note, I've never really understood it when women claim that a guy "used" them for sex. I don't agree with using blatant lies and deception (i.e. openly saying you want a relationship but then bolting once you have sex with the woman), and that type of behavior, genuine "using," is a relatively rare phenomenon once you get past the 10th grade. However, I really have a hard time understanding how so many women, even with all the information out there today, still assume well into their 20s and 30s that if a guy happens to have sex with her, he is genuinely interested in a relationship with her. Sometimes, sex just happens, and if the woman gives consent, she is a willing participant. She was not "used." If you continue to have sex with a guy and you both fail to communicate what you really want, or explore if the type of relationship you want is different, the burden lies with both parties, not just the men. Women may be pickier than men when it comes to what they look for both in terms of sexual partners and relationships, but make no mistake, "sex for sport" is far, far more common among women than they will let on. Women rarely feel a need to brag about their sex lives, and they tend to be very selective as to whom they reveal the true extent of their promiscuity due to the fact that society will generally judge them more harshly for having a, shall we say, "pliant" attitude towards sex. Sure, a lot of women do associate sex with strong emotions, but a very large portion, greater than most men and even a lot of women acknowledge, have attitudes toward sex that do not differ all that much from men's. The moral of the story? Always take what a woman tells you about her own sex life and what she claims women are like sex-wise with a grain of salt. 1
phineas Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Men should just learn to ask women out for a date & to stop paying attention to women who don't want to date. Really, it is that simple. 1
KungFuJoe Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 People in general should be as picky as they are capable of. Now the hard part is knowing what you are capable of. Everyone has "limits" based on their own appeal. You have to have a good sense of self. No self esteem issues and no over inflated egos. The rest comes with experiences with dating and relationships. Some people are naturally better at this than others and will be more suitable at finding the right partner. The ones who aren't...well those are the ones who are still single after a very long time or are in unhappy relationships. Generally speaking. There are exceptions of course, just like anything in life.
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