Scared Posted July 22, 2004 Posted July 22, 2004 Hey everyone. I'm not sure what I need whether it be advice or comforting. I've read some post of others and the help and advice given was very informative, so maybe someone can tell me what todo. I met my g/f about a year ago we moved in together about 1 month later. While we where living together I was chatting with another girl over MSN. She's a good friend and at one point in time I did have feelings for her and as so she. The conversations got pretty bad. My g/f had read one of the logs and pretty much that's when things started to go bad. I understand that I was chatting with her and that it would still be considered cheating. I'm not sure why I chatted with her but I did and I will regret it for the rest of my life. Anyway, we managed to patch things up for about 5 months and got engaged, it came up once in awhile during the 5 months when we argued and such. I don't blame her for not trusting me. I went out with a group of friends recently and the girl I was chatting with on MSN was there also. I never spoke to her, I was there outta respect for my friends b-day. My g/f shows up with a group for pub crawl and saw that I was there with her. She didn't like that too much. We got into a large fight and she ended up moving back home with her parents. That's kinda the history of it. It's been 3 days now. We talked it over and such. She still loves me and wants to be with me but she says her love for me is different. We're trying to take it slow and maybe start from the beginning but in our conversations she seems hesitant, she wants to but she doesn't. She says she maybe wants to try to explore different things and maybe see other people. In her heart I know she loves me and still cares for me. I also love her and care for her and don't want to lose her. What is she feeling right now and what does she want? Does she want to just cut her loses and move on? Should I accept the fact that I screwed up and move on? Or should I just give her some space and take it slow like she wants? Sometimes you just don't realize what you have until it's gone. I love her alot and would do anything to be with her. I never meant to hurt her and I never meant for this to happen. If someone can give me some advice that would be great.
popvix Posted July 22, 2004 Posted July 22, 2004 She obviously doesnt like the idea of having a man who maintains relationships (close or not) with women who she regards as a threat ... some people are just jealous like that. Its up to you whether or not you want to respect the person she is and not upset her (break off contact with these women friends) or decide if this aspect of her character is something that is simply just incompatible with yours. Best of luck.
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