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I am angry at myself. But I am also angry at my friends.

 

I got divorced a few years ago. We were married for over 5 years. We had lot of common friends we used to meet often over parties and family occasions. Most of these were my friends - friends I made from my social or college/school circle; that became "our" friends. After divorce, I had to tell some of the common friends not to involve me in any social meetings if they invited him. It was painful, but I had to do it. I used to hear that they keep meeting him; but trying not to let me know. I was ok with that.

 

He remarried, has new family. I moved to a different place. I hear less and less about him. But every now and then I see my friends liking his pictures on facebook. I thought I would get over it. But even today, after all this time; I get mad. Real mad.

 

I was the one to walk out of the painful marriage. I expected my friends to abandon him too; over time - if not immediately. I see that he has deliberately kept in touch with them; or more - he has deliberately kept in that circle. That makes me more angry. I have maintained silence - never talked to my friends about him through and after divorce. I don't blame my friends, I blame him. What more, when I see these FB pictures, I don't see any other friends of him in those. That makes me feel like he stole my friends from me.

 

It hurts, even after all these years, I don't know how to deal with this.

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