justgowt Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 i've been talking to this girl on a depression website just cause i want someone to talk to. We had some back and forths, but eventually her attitude was way too pessimistic and i didn't enjoy talking to her that much. I know we're on a depression site but the goal is kind of to try to look forward and at least try to think positive and get better. But it's all fine and good, i just got turned off a bit and didn't want to talk to her anymore. Then she messaged me with a kind of needy message asking why I don't talk to her anymore. I just said i'm not that social, and she said ok.. A week later out of the blue she just started messaging me with a flirty tone. I found it amusing so i played along, then she straight up said she wants to basically have sex with me and if i fly down to her, which i easily could because of my job, we'll ****. so what do i do. my life is a wreck. i'm not an ugly guy, i just have a shy and withdrawn personality riddled with insecurities. and i did sort of like receiving attention from her. But when i look at her pictures... well, she has some facial deformities and her face has an odd shape.. i'm just not attracted. I do want to have sex with her if i'm really really horny and desperate... which I guess i am. what to do. ??????
Author justgowt Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 we're talking about sex and what she'd do to my dick and as a horny desperate guy it's driving me a bit crazy even if she's not attractive physically...
Art_Critic Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 You looking for a yes or no answer ? Since you have used inflammatory words to describe her I think the answer should be no.. duh.... Next....
Author justgowt Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 there is no "next" for me at this point in time. It's her, or no sex. and yes, i did use inflammatory words.. i'm not a good person.
Bristolius Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Leave her alone. If she's struggling with depression she does not need someone who thinks she's "ugly" messing with her head. 3
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Its a trap you fool. She's trying to entice you w sex to get you to visit her...hoping that after you sex herup it'll turn into a relationship...she's desperate and depressed. Its too far to go just for sex...you're going to be disgusted however like most men be unable to pass up an easy thing and stick it anyway like if you sticking it in a jar w maggots...you'll make the same face but internally, you're not going to like it...but your penis will be ok w it...but what if she gets knocked up or starts acting like a crazy pers...still worth it then and shell want to kiss you...are you ready to pucker up? Choice is yours...but nothing comes for free. 2
Author justgowt Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Its a trap you fool. She's trying to entice you w sex to get you to visit her...hoping that after you sex herup it'll turn into a relationship...she's desperate and depressed. Its too far to go just for sex...you're going to be disgusted however like most men be unable to pass up an easy thing and stick it anyway like if you sticking it in a jar w maggots...you'll make the same face but internally, you're not going to like it...but your penis will be ok w it...but what if she gets knocked up or starts acting like a crazy pers...still worth it then and shell want to kiss you...are you ready to pucker up? Choice is yours...but nothing comes for free. she lives really far away from me... it's not like my life is at risk if she turns clingy or crazy. i don't know man. ****, i don't know. i feel so ****ing horny at the prospect of easy sex. this is the first time i might get to have sex with a girl. i've never been offered like that before.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 she lives really far away from me... it's not like my life is at risk if she turns clingy or crazy. i don't know man. ****, i don't know. i feel so ****ing horny at the prospect of easy sex. this is the first time i might get to have sex with a girl. i've never been offered like that before. Then live and learn. The offers on the table, It's up to you.
Art_Critic Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Then live and learn. The offers on the table, It's up to you. Don't you think that a person of self describes themselves as desperate when it pertains to having sex with a severely depressed and "ugly person" is also suffering from some depression themselves ? He met her on a Depression Forum.. You are basically cheering him on to go use someone not in their right place of mind with the caveat that he live and learn.. If this thread is indeed real then he is setting himself up to become more depressed after he uses her and then putting her into a possible tailspin with her own depression. He should be telling her no.. end of story 3
Mrlonelyone Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 On the one hand taking advantage of a person suffering mental illness is not ethical. On the other hand: My cousin had a saying "*ssy doesn't have a face" meaning turn off the lights. Sex is a natural anti-depressant. Having sex might just perk you both up a bit especially if you become FB's.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Don't you think that a person of self describes themselves as desperate when it pertains to having sex with a severely depressed and "ugly person" is also suffering from some depression themselves ? He met her on a Depression Forum.. You are basically cheering him on to go use someone not in their right place of mind with the caveat that he live and learn.. If this thread is indeed real then he is setting himself up to become more depressed after he uses her and then putting her into a possible tailspin with her own depression. He should be telling her no.. end of story They're both not in a position to make wise decisions...he's craving sexual satisfaction and she's craving affection and attention. Not cheering him on, they both seem to be adults and will do what they want anyway. The offer on the table means she's put in there, and he can accept...remember she's the one that threw out the line, they're both guilty regardless of what happens here. I think you think we have more control and influence than we actually do in some situations...as with most cases, you can only provide people with insight and hope they make the best decisions for themselves. At the end of the day they're going to do what they want and they're both at fault for this. 2
irin Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 no, no, no, she maybe "ugly" but shes still human and has feelings. this "If she's struggling with depression she does not need someone who thinks she's "ugly" messing with her head."
Author justgowt Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 we just basically had cyber sex. Talked in detail about what we would do to each other if we met up. It got me really horny and when I masturbated and finished, I felt disgusted and grossed out and was almost in disbelief that I said all those things to her. But prior to that, I really would have liked to have sex with her... 1
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Have her come visit you. That way if you went to go visit her and she changes her mind, you wouldn't have wasted your time and money. 1
jobaba Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I'm picturing OP showing up at the girl's house with cigarettes and liquor, and Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC coming out from behind the curtain. "I want you to have a seat..." 4
somedude81 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I'm picturing OP showing up at the girl's house with cigarettes and liquor, and Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC coming out from behind the curtain. "I want you to have a seat..." I wasn't aware he was talking to an underage girl.
MercuryMorrison1 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I wouldn't do it...Even if I were desprate for sex. All that'll happen is you will waste alot of money on a plane ticket to fly there and have unsatisfying sex with someone you don't find attractive in the first place. And as everyone else is saying, neither you nor her are in the right state of mind to make any judgement calls like this right now. I gaurntee you that someone will wind up hurt though, most likely her...She seems to be craving attention and I do beleive that her invitiation to have sex is just a ploy to get you closer to her. If you go have sex and then leave the next day never to see her again she'll most likely be devistated. But hey...I assume you are both consenting adults and she did put the offer on the table, so do you whatever you want. As its already been said, live and learn.
SJC2008 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I'm picturing OP showing up at the girl's house with cigarettes and liquor, and Chris Hansen from Dateline NBC coming out from behind the curtain. "I want you to have a seat..." LOL I love it when he reads the transcript back to them! He's got a stick up his ass tone but it goes good for that show, makes it even funnier.
bac Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 we're talking about sex and what she'd do to my dick and as a horny desperate guy it's driving me a bit crazy even if she's not attractive physically... She is a depressed girl. There is a great chance she has serious mental problems. She is emotionally unstable. Therefore, the big picture of the adventure is that after terrible/or OK sex, you will get many many emails where she states that she is going to kill herself unless you call/emal/f...k her again. Also, she might visit you and she is going to be very aggressive unless you do what she wants you to do. 1
AlexCross Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 You need to muster up some social skills before losing your virginity young man. Taking advantage of a girl who depressed to begin with can have severe repercussions. 2
Author justgowt Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 i don't have any experience with women... can someone tell me what's happening? we had the dirtiest session where she and i kept talking what we'd do to each other if we met up. she said she was feeling so horny and had to masturbate. i said the same thing, and we kept typing to each other during this. Then afterwards, she started saying that she wants to make sure i genuinely like her before we do anything together, and she doesn't want to have sex with just anyone, and she values her virginity and is willing to mess around with me but not full on sex. At this point, i figured i had a chance to lie to her and tell her how special she is to me. but I just told her the truth that i'm just looking for sex, and i guess that turned her off. Is this how women are? they're actually really really horny, but they're just suppressing it? And for the record, i'm in my early 20s and she's almost in her 30s.
AlexCross Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 i don't have any experience with women... can someone tell me what's happening? we had the dirtiest session where she and i kept talking what we'd do to each other if we met up. she said she was feeling so horny and had to masturbate. i said the same thing, and we kept typing to each other during this. Then afterwards, she started saying that she wants to make sure i genuinely like her before we do anything together, and she doesn't want to have sex with just anyone, and she values her virginity and is willing to mess around with me but not full on sex. At this point, i figured i had a chance to lie to her and tell her how special she is to me. but I just told her the truth that i'm just looking for sex, and i guess that turned her off. Is this how women are? they're actually really really horny, but they're just suppressing it? And for the record, i'm in my early 20s and she's almost in her 30s. Whats happening is your thinking with the wrong head. I know you want to lose your viriginity but its not wise to do so with someone with emotional issues. Trust me. One night of you having sex could lead to her having more issues then you bargained for. Ever hear the phrase nothing in life is free ?
Leigh 87 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) You have a good paying job. Why not go to a hooker who is moer attractive? I am not advocating hookers, but if you're truly that desperate for sex, you would go to a hooker. It's their job. Edited September 10, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
Author justgowt Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) ive been to hookers.. when i say im a virgin, i mean ive never had sex with a girl who wants me. hookers are no fun.. i want someone who's truly lusting for me Edited September 10, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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