Your CORE issues (baggage)

[blue_jay_bird]

Also, everyone has CORE issues (baggage). There is no one that's perfect. That's where acceptance comes in. Accepting a person for who they are. If you can't then its your responsibility to leave the relationship, not hang around and wait for them to change or them to end it.

 

The thing is i want to change, i want to not have these issues. And i feel i can over come them. I'v started therapy, and i believe i will change. NOT Doing this for him, or for him to come back.

 

Has anyone left you because you have issues?

Edited September 9, 2012 by blue_jay_bird

[IST]

Well my being bipolar probably didn't help.

 

I don't know for sure though it was probably a combination of several things and feelings and all that complicated ****.

 

At the end of the day it didn't work and we've both moved on. Now it's a learning experience for my next relationship.

[Regrets58]

Guess so,in my case it's a tendency to be sulky/moody.Recent ex found

that hard to handle.Can't say I blame her,it is a very unattractive and

damaging trait.

Had warnings and tried to change but not enough to save things.

I paid the ultimate price though.

Will work very hard to prevent that behaviour in the future.

[oracle]

At first I thought I did somethings wrong and made mistakes.. but over a year or so and lots of therapy i realized. No - i did nothing wrong, there isn't anything wrong with me, and I wouldn't undo or change anything I did.

 

People can't really change who they are. You can change behaviour or your belief system, but core traits are really set.. unless you have a medical conditions that can be adjusted with medication.. in which case please do.