mizzat Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 We have been dating since we where verry young.And well we got married when we where you been married for 4 years been together for about 8 years but the past 2 years have been verry rough.I do love my wife verry much we are seperated have for about a week why does it have to be so hard she hasnt said its over or if it will be okay again.I have made alot of mistakes as a husband and said i would do things that i didnt fall through with i know.But i asked her if i went off track to let me know. well long story short i was needing some advice when do u move on? how can u when u see her everyday to take her to work and pick her up?
Author mizzat Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 welcome mizzat:) do YOU want to move on? Has she said shes done? no she hasnt said that and no i don't but i know shes scared to be around me everytime she is she is falling for me even tho she wants time for me to learn what i did is what i have picked up from her its hard to see her everyday have to tho her vehicle issues and our son
Author mizzat Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 alot of the issues was me playing games to much and getting really addicted acting childish when i should of been a man and loved my woman. i know that if i dont act straight then i will lose her forever i have dropped all my games case my wife and son mean to me more than they ever did.
riverratt Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 At this point you need to realize what you did. It seems you have. Whether she accepts the changes as genuine is going to be up to her. If she doesn't then all you can do is look in the mirror and know you have improved yourself. Be as patient as possible but don't play games, no pun intended. Don't make promises you can't keep.
Author mizzat Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 At this point you need to realize what you did. It seems you have. Whether she accepts the changes as genuine is going to be up to her. If she doesn't then all you can do is look in the mirror and know you have improved yourself. Be as patient as possible but don't play games, no pun intended. Don't make promises you can't keep. i do know that i have dont i have relaized what ive done she knows im trying but this went on for 2 years for the lack of communication that we had between eachother i guess
2sunny Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 i do know that i have dont i have relaized what ive done she knows im trying but this went on for 2 years for the lack of communication that we had between eachother i guess Then figure that until she sees your CHNGED behavior for at least two years - she may not trust that you've really changed. Be consistent. Be kind. Be supportive to her. Be a great father. Don't make empty promises - just show changed behavior - be the best you - you can be.
Author mizzat Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Then figure that until she sees your CHNGED behavior for at least two years - she may not trust that you've really changed. Be consistent. Be kind. Be supportive to her. Be a great father. Don't make empty promises - just show changed behavior - be the best you - you can be. i know its just so hard no having her here i miss her so much i have my son to help me cope till she finds her own place
2sunny Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 i know its just so hard no having her here i miss her so much i have my son to help me cope till she finds her own place Thinking of yourself isn't going to make this get better. Stat thinking and doing for others. Thinking of yourself is what got you into this mess.
Author mizzat Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Thinking of yourself isn't going to make this get better. Stat thinking and doing for others. Thinking of yourself is what got you into this mess. ok we are getting mixed signals here my wife left my son with me she went to stay with a friend she still come arounds sees our son shes said shes not sure if she wants to work it out or not the only thing i have done is not think of myself in this situation i didnt force her out she could of stayed here but she left to go stay with a friend to clear her mind its only been about a week so far so it came out of nowhere and all of sudden by the time i knew what was going on it was to late. i know i dont deserve for her to come back to me i help her out anyway i can money i take her what ever she needs.
2sunny Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 ok we are getting mixed signals here my wife left my son with me she went to stay with a friend she still come arounds sees our son shes said shes not sure if she wants to work it out or not the only thing i have done is not think of myself in this situation i didnt force her out she could of stayed here but she left to go stay with a friend to clear her mind its only been about a week so far so it came out of nowhere and all of sudden by the time i knew what was going on it was to late. i know i dont deserve for her to come back to me i help her out anyway i can money i take her what ever she needs. Ok. Thx for clarifying. It didn't come out of no where... You stated yourself you ignored her for two years. You knew you were ignoring her - yet you just kept doing it knowing it hurt her. She may need consistent behavior from you - for years- to be able to trust you again. Clearing her mind could be a good thing... Be patient. Get counseling - gaming is much like a drug addiction. A counselor could give you clarity.
riverratt Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 i do know that i have dont i have relaized what ive done she knows im trying but this went on for 2 years for the lack of communication that we had between eachother i guess Hang in there..I am just coming out of a 20 year marriage..It's tough.
Author mizzat Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Ok. Thx for clarifying. It didn't come out of no where... You stated yourself you ignored her for two years. You knew you were ignoring her - yet you just kept doing it knowing it hurt her. you clarity. Not trying to start a fight i didnt know i was ignoring her the lack of communication all she had to do is say one thing to me before it came to this. And she understands that now but 2 years of ignoring her and making her feel alone makes her not know if its a truth or a lie
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