The Way I Am Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Were you trying to get a rise out of him? And maybe hoping this would make him desire you more because of that? The only other thing I can think is, you were secretly hoping he said he didn't mind, to which you could go out with this other guy guilt free. I can't speak for the OP, but I'm gathering from what she's said is that she was not trying to make him desire her more but hoping he would say "no, don't go out with that guy". She was hoping to get that response to calm her fears that the guy she's seeing isn't that into her and is seeing someone else. OP, next time you want to know where you stand with a guy or if he's going out with just a friend or on a date, ASK him. Don't try to set up scenarios by which you can gage his responses. Here's hoping he'll forgive you this time. If he does, don't do it again.
The_Face Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I can't speak for the OP, but I'm gathering from what she's said is that she was not trying to make him desire her more but hoping he would say "no, don't go out with that guy". She was hoping to get that response to calm her fears that the guy she's seeing isn't that into her and is seeing someone else. OP, next time you want to know where you stand with a guy or if he's going out with just a friend or on a date, ASK him. Don't try to set up scenarios by which you can gage his responses. Here's hoping he'll forgive you this time. If he does, don't do it again. Well put. I guess I didn't consider that as an option. And good advice. When in doubt, just ASK. Open communication is very important for a healthy relationship. OP, you sound like you realize you didn't handle things in the best way, and I think that is a good thing for you to be able to admit. It shows your SO that you are willing to grow and work through things. So to answer your question, YES. I think admitting you were "being silly" does count for something.
Author ziggue Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) I can't speak for the OP, but I'm gathering from what she's said is that she was not trying to make him desire her more but hoping he would say "no, don't go out with that guy". She was hoping to get that response to calm her fears that the guy she's seeing isn't that into her and is seeing someone else. OP, next time you want to know where you stand with a guy or if he's going out with just a friend or on a date, ASK him. Don't try to set up scenarios by which you can gage his responses. Here's hoping he'll forgive you this time. If he does, don't do it again. Admittedly yes. That was, what I meant. Here's hoping that showing this little bit of insecurity did not scare him off. I have only done this kind of thing once and will never do it again. If he thinks I am like this normally after just one little incident then he did not know me as well as I thought he did. I made one little mistake. One I had apologised for. Meant it also. You can't just ignore and assume things. You gotta talk like what everyone says. Yes will ask him next time. Good advice from all. Feeling pretty annoyed wiyh myself. Should I ring him though before the end of the week or wait till he comes to me? Am giving him his space. Edited September 10, 2012 by ziggue
The_Face Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Feeling pretty annoyed wiyh myself. Should I ring him though before the end of the week or wait till he comes to me? Am giving him his space. Don't beat yourself up about it. From what you've said, you meant well. I'd only feel bad if you were telling him about this other guy to make him feel jealous, or to rub it in his face. But you weren't. Insecurity makes people do silly things. And like you said, if he thinks you are like this normally then he doesn't know you as well as you thought he did. Sure he'll come around. My advice would be to call him, by the end of the week, at the latest. Don't overanalyze what happened, it will only confuse the situation. It's really not as bad as it sounds. And if this guy knows you well enough, he'll see through your actions and know that nothing was meant to hurt him or confuse him. Stay strong, wait it out, give him his space. But by Friday I would imagine he should be ready to talk again, and if not, better that he run from something minor like this now, then something else down the road.
KungFuJoe Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I would text him again just to make sure he got your earlier texts.
kaylan Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 ^nah...give him time to respond and call him if he doesnt. No more texts. Have some actual conversation about how you feel.
TaraMaiden Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 I would text him again just to make sure he got your earlier texts. :laugh:
AlexDP Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Sent a text to this guy I have been seeing for two months. That I had gotten a text from a guy I know and he asked me to dinner and drinks during the week. What did he want me to say to him? Got no response. Guess that shows me where I stand then? To me that would sound like you're playing games and I'd probably respond the way he did. But there are so many factors to take into account..
Imported Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 (edited) Sent a text to this guy I have been seeing for two months. That I had gotten a text from a guy I know and he asked me to dinner and drinks during the week. What did he want me to say to him? Got no response. Guess that shows me where I stand then? Maybe you should make up your own ****ing mind on that choice. If I was into a girl and that came up, I'd want her to say no to the other guy, but I am not going to tell her what to do. I'd hope she'd come to that decision on her own. And I'd not have responded to you either. You asking him that was stupid and gamie. I hate girls that try to make me jealous. Edited September 11, 2012 by Imported
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