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ziggue Established Member

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Sent a text to this guy I have been seeing for two months.

 

That I had gotten a text from a guy I know and he asked me to dinner and drinks during the week. What did he want me to say to him?

 

Got no response.

 

Guess that shows me where I stand then?

Joaquin Established Member

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Why put that **** on a guy.

 

Like if he says don't go you make him out to be some kind of control freak.

 

And if he says go for it, you get a free pass to be with other guys, making him a doormat, and you are left feeling that he isn't into you.

 

You put him in an impossible situation to which the only sensible answer would have been, your a game player, goodbye!

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ziggue Established Member

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I just want to know where I stand that's all. Is there anyway of fixing it?

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Sent a text to this guy I have been seeing for two months.

 

That I had gotten a text from a guy I know and he asked me to dinner and drinks during the week. What did he want me to say to him?

 

Got no response.

 

Guess that shows me where I stand then?

 

Yes, I have to ask... what was your exact motivation?

 

I mean, if you've been 'seeing' this guy for 2 months, was it 'exclusive'?

Has he been seeing other ladies?

When was the last time you went out with him?

If you're seeing someone and it's exclusive, isn't the answer already in your head?

TaraMaiden Established Member

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If you want to know where you stand - ask: "Where are we with this, so far?"

Don't dangle another date under his nose!

 

And if you can text - RING!!

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ziggue Established Member

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He was doing it to me! He was saying he was having dinner with a friend tonight and it was driving me crazy wondering if it was a date or not. Worse not knowing whether it was male or female. Hence the text.

 

Feel like I buggered it up now. Anyway of fixing this?

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Also if he says no wouldn't that be a good thing? Then I would know where I would stand?

 

Just sick of feeling confused and not knowing what his intentions are. Keep getting played by guys and sick of it.

 

After hearing he was going out to dinner with someone tonight. That added to the confusion even more.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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F.uc.king mind-games.

Just ring him!!

 

TALK!!

Or don't people do that any more - ?!

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kaylan Established Member

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Sent a text to this guy I have been seeing for two months.

 

That I had gotten a text from a guy I know and he asked me to dinner and drinks during the week. What did he want me to say to him?

 

Got no response.

 

Guess that shows me where I stand then?

??? Why would you do this?

 

Id be sooooo turned off if a girl I was seeing asked me this. You should know how you feel about us. I shouldnt have to decide that for you. I wouldnt know how to respond to you, but Id mostly likely say "um...ok...I dont decide your plans for you" and leave it at that.

 

Based on what you decided to do, Id react accordingly. You should know better OP. Im assuming youre not interested in the other guy. Why couldnt you have simply told him no thanks and not bring it up to the guy you are seeing? If anything, Id say its a possibility that hes not responding because of what you said to him, and you therefore caused where you stand at the moment.

 

Its also possible this is being over thought and that you should simply call instead of texting him if you wanna know how he feels and if you wanna share how you feel.

 

PS - him having dinner with a friend is not the same as you saying some guy asked you out. I go out to grab dinner with my good bros sometimes. Why play games OP?

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ziggue Established Member

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I ended up apologising and then said I ended up saying no and that I felt silly for even saying anything.

 

No was not interested and ended up telling him that and that I would never go out with anyone else while being with someone. I wish I had never said anything now and probably ruined it for good.

 

That is all I can do for now. Should I ring tomorrow? Just feel so stupid! Nothing else I can do and will probably never hear from him again.

 

Definitely not a game player. Hope that this last message showed him that. Just an idiot!

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Probably have just lost a good guy over this. Just wanna fix it. :(.

kaylan Established Member

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Last message?

 

Stop texting and actually talk to him.

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He was doing it to me! He was saying he was having dinner with a friend tonight and it was driving me crazy wondering if it was a date or not. Worse not knowing whether it was male or female. Hence the text.

 

Feel like I buggered it up now. Anyway of fixing this?

 

Did he say friend or date?

Because you clearly indicated date.

 

If he never talks to you again take this as a learning experience.

 

If more dropped people for this kind of crap maybe people would learn not to play these games.

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mesmerized Established Member

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Your consequent texts were even worse. You truly have no game. Wait for him to get back to you now. Don't text again!

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F.uc.king mind-games.

Just ring him!!

 

TALK!!

Or don't people do that any more - ?!

 

People are getting more stupid by the minute. Biting their fingernails, wondering this and that.

 

Just ASK! What's the fear?!

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just leave him be for now; what's done is done. if he's still interested then he will contact you. if not, it's a learning experience as others have said.

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Your consequent texts were even worse. You truly have no game. Wait for him to get back to you now. Don't text again!

 

Yes this.

Her 2nd batch of texts were pretty much admitting she was playing games.

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Ugh... this was hard to read. Definitely don't text him again!

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well the damage is done...hopefully it is nothing major between you two, but for the future, I would suggest that in any relationship, the answer should just be obvious and that is, you shouldn't need to tell your partner anything because you're not gonna go on a date with someone else while dating him/her....

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i have to ask, if you had no intentions of taking up the date with the other guy (and yes, it is a date) then you should have said no privately to him and left it there.

 

MAYBE you could have told your current guy that you had an offer but you turned it down, and play that as a hint to him that you only have eyes for him.

 

Otherwise you just made yourself look silly without intending to.

 

I hope he doesn't ditch you for it though! Fingers crossed...

 

:)

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ziggue Established Member

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I did have no intention and yes realizing how sillyI looked. Even admitting that to him. Should have re worded it differently. So annoyed with myself. The guy is smart and bet he saw right through it. Know not to act so stupid next time.

 

Yeah. Hopefully not. Hopefully he knows me well enough now that I don't normally get like this and does not write me off. Was just confused that's all.

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Definitely sounds like you have some insecurity over him going out with others, maybe a little paranoia, as well. Even with that being said, I am confused as to what you were hoping to accomplish with telling him about this other guy.

 

Were you trying to get a rise out of him? And maybe hoping this would make him desire you more because of that? The only other thing I can think is, you were secretly hoping he said he didn't mind, to which you could go out with this other guy guilt free.

 

Good luck to you. Hopefully this doesn't break your relationship. Regardless of the outcome, you might want to try and get over these feelings of insecurity. I would worry that you may feel that way again at some point, when he wants to go out again. And you would hate for this to happen a second time.

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Guess that shows me where I stand then?

 

I think you even asking him that showed him where he stood...

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Yeah was acting a little insecure. I agree.

 

I apologised and everything. Admitted I was being silly. Wouldn't that count for something? I told him I also said no.

 

Just hope things work out and he does not get the wrong idea.

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Yeah was acting a little insecure. I agree.

 

I apologised and everything. Admitted I was being silly. Wouldn't that count for something? I told him I also said no.

 

Just hope things work out and he does not get the wrong idea.

 

OP? Are you posting with two different profiles?

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