Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 months and she has 2 wonderful children. We were fine until a little situation called the baby daddy appeared. One night everything was fine i was supposed to go up and see her (she was sitting in with her close female friend). I had a gut feeling something was wrong she wasn’t answering my messages or my calls. So i messaged her informing her im on my way!! Suddenly the ex boyfriend has appeared drunk and is out cold on her bed!! (clearly red flag) she wouldn’t even let me in the house she came out and she had been drinking. I thought i would let it go as the understanding man i am i thought benefit of the doubt no problems. Right then i had ordered her daughter some movies and i decided as a good boyfriend i would deliver them as a surprise. As I’m walking up to the door bingo ex boyfriend is there. So we getting the talking i asked so when did you arrive? he said he has been there since last night ??!!!!!! at this point i was like ok so then i asked him in the last 3 months have you slept with her he claims all time time. Then he proceeded to tell me that 2 weekends ago she slept at his house. So naturally i double checked her messages with the date’s turns out we fought that day and she stopped messaging me around 10pm and only messaged me around 10am the next day. When i asked her about this she got so defence it was unreal telling me if i don’t trust her we shouldn’t have a relationship. Worse thing is she doesn’t respond to my messages quick enough if you call once every 5 hours good enough i don’t know what to think. Even on a good day i get a response once an 1hr i mean 60 seconds of someone’s day is not that hard to reply a text. I love her totally and i don’t want to lose her. Yet these things keep coming up and my gut is driving me crazy. Can somebody please tell me what to do because i don’t understand is she cheating ? Thank you in advance ......
Joaquin Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 OP, not wanting to sound rude, but are you a bit slow or something. Leave this girl now. She is no good. 1
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 no im not slow ,you say that but i need a thorough reason i love her and dont want to loose her but can i not fix the situation ? or is it done and dusted
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 No, you are slow. She is walking all over you, cheating right in front of you, let alone behind your back, and has done so repeatedly. What more of a 'thorough reason' do you need - ?! It's done and dusted. Let her go, and walk away. 1
road Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 no im not slow ,you say that but i need a thorough reason i love her and dont want to loose her but can i not fix the situation ? or is it done and dusted Slow? Any slower you'll be in reverse. Your the guy with 20 cars stuck behind him on a 2 lane road with double solid yellow lines wonderings why people are leaning on their horns for the last 15 miles. Your so slow when confronted with the evidence you have not finished the computation and come up with the answer for 2+2 yet. You're so slow other people have pointed this out already, that your GF is banging this guy all the time you have been dating her and you have not been able to comprehend what they have written. Besides being slow you want to get laid so bad you are willing to live in denial about your GF cheating on you.
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Slow? Any slower you'll be in reverse. Your the guy with 20 cars stuck behind him on a 2 lane road with double solid yellow lines wonderings why people are leaning on their horns for the last 15 miles. Your so slow when confronted with the evidence you have not finished the computation and come up with the answer for 2+2 yet. You're so slow other people have pointed this out already, that your GF is banging this guy all the time you have been dating her and you have not been able to comprehend what they have written. Besides being slow you want to get laid so bad you are willing to live in denial about your GF cheating on you. Im not in denail the ex boyfriend in crazy i mean crazy hes 30 and an alcoholic so i mean those terms he would say stuff like that. evidence of his behaviour hes turned up at 3am and tried to kick the door in using his motorbike. im not slow or desperate i just dont understand why a mother of 2 would let me meet her children and do that if she just wanted sex ? shes indicated she wants to move in together and be a family now what player in there right mind would do such things? and i have tried to let her go before and she has never given me a reason to doubt her this long ass replying business we have spoke about and she is trying but instead of insulting my intelligence could you help me.
AlexCross Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 months and she has 2 wonderful children. We were fine until a little situation called the baby daddy appeared. One night everything was fine i was supposed to go up and see her (she was sitting in with her close female friend). I had a gut feeling something was wrong she wasn’t answering my messages or my calls. So i messaged her informing her im on my way!! Suddenly the ex boyfriend has appeared drunk and is out cold on her bed!! (clearly red flag) she wouldn’t even let me in the house she came out and she had been drinking. I thought i would let it go as the understanding man i am i thought benefit of the doubt no problems. Right then i had ordered her daughter some movies and i decided as a good boyfriend i would deliver them as a surprise. As I’m walking up to the door bingo ex boyfriend is there. So we getting the talking i asked so when did you arrive? he said he has been there since last night ??!!!!!! at this point i was like ok so then i asked him in the last 3 months have you slept with her he claims all time time. Then he proceeded to tell me that 2 weekends ago she slept at his house. So naturally i double checked her messages with the date’s turns out we fought that day and she stopped messaging me around 10pm and only messaged me around 10am the next day. When i asked her about this she got so defence it was unreal telling me if i don’t trust her we shouldn’t have a relationship. Worse thing is she doesn’t respond to my messages quick enough if you call once every 5 hours good enough i don’t know what to think. Even on a good day i get a response once an 1hr i mean 60 seconds of someone’s day is not that hard to reply a text. I love her totally and i don’t want to lose her. Yet these things keep coming up and my gut is driving me crazy. Can somebody please tell me what to do because i don’t understand is she cheating ? Thank you in advance ...... Is she cheating ? Does a wild boar chit in the forest?
truth_seeker Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 The best revenge would be for you to sleep with her ex-boyfriend! Seriously, you were just a transitional lay until the ex came back into her life. She knows what she's got in you, and will play you accordingly. It's hard when you have feelings, but you need to be strong and cut all ties with this messed up woman. 1
karnak Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Im not in denail the ex boyfriend in crazy i mean crazy hes 30 and an alcoholic so i mean those terms he would say stuff like that. evidence of his behaviour hes turned up at 3am and tried to kick the door in using his motorbike. im not slow or desperate i just dont understand why a mother of 2 would let me meet her children and do that if she just wanted sex ? shes indicated she wants to move in together and be a family now what player in there right mind would do such things? and i have tried to let her go before and she has never given me a reason to doubt her this long ass replying business we have spoke about and she is trying but instead of insulting my intelligence could you help me. Listen, man: I have a work colleague who's divorced from his wife (they have a teenage daughter). He's still single but she has a new man. Yet, every once in a while, she decides to call the ex-husband to **** with him and cheat on her new boyfriend. She doesn't want anything else from her ex-husband except his cock. Messed-up, right? Well... unfortunately that's how some people work. I agree with what some people are saying. Your girlfriend knows you inside out. And she's using that emotional knowledge to manipulate you. Be careful around her and pay attention to what she does and not to what she says.
road Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Im not in denail the ex boyfriend in crazy i mean crazy hes 30 and an alcoholic so i mean those terms he would say stuff like that. evidence of his behaviour hes turned up at 3am and tried to kick the door in using his motorbike. im not slow or desperate i just dont understand why a mother of 2 would let me meet her children and do that if she just wanted sex ? shes indicated she wants to move in together and be a family now what player in there right mind would do such things? and i have tried to let her go before and she has never given me a reason to doubt her this long ass replying business we have spoke about and she is trying but instead of insulting my intelligence could you help me. Can't insult what you don't have. This woman has shown that she does not know how to have healthy relationships. Wishing well never make her change. Count your blessings that you have not knocked her up yet. Go out the door find the nearest mountains, then run for it. You through your postings have shown that you do not know how to have a healthy relationship. If you did you would of given up this girl faster then the French did in WWII. 1
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 If you did you would of given up this girl faster then the French did in WWII. LMAO!! Quote of the day!!
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Can't insult what you don't have. This woman has shown that she does not know how to have healthy relationships. Wishing well never make her change. Count your blessings that you have not knocked her up yet. Go out the door find the nearest mountains, then run for it. You through your postings have shown that you do not know how to have a healthy relationship. If you did you would of given up this girl faster then the French did in WWII. So i figure i will let things play out then, catching a cheater is the best revenge her knowing that shes been caught. im seriously contemplating bugging her house so then when flawless evidence is there i will just say thank you and go. Eat your heart out.!!! no i can have a healthy relationship its just i have faith in her that is useless really whats the point thinking that when clearly love is blind. i get your point thought but i want to catch her in the act red handed sweet joy
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Well, tell you what, just ask her if you can watch. Because you have been shown in every other possible way that she is getting it on with another guy - right under your damn nose! I figure if she's this blatant, she won't say no to a spectator - !!
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Well, tell you what, just ask her if you can watch. Because you have been shown in every other possible way that she is getting it on with another guy - right under your damn nose! I figure if she's this blatant, she won't say no to a spectator - !! do your comments have to be so cruel? really whats the point in you even posting a reply if all that comes out your mouth is not useful ??
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Your question was Is she cheating? You gave us all manner of bits of evidence. we said - yes, she is cheating, big time, and how. Now you're back-pedalling and saying, well, I need to get proof. YOU DON'T NEED PROOF. Listen. With all the evidence you have at your immediate disposal, really 'catching her in the act is both futile and unnecessary. It doesn't matter that the guy is a low-life-loser. If he's told you he's sleeping with her, and has been staying there, and he just got out of her bed, and has as good as told you that you are being cuckolded - getting any other proof is completely immaterial. Take it from him - take it from us. you are simply setting yourself up for a sucker-punch if you pursue this a second longer than necessary. We don't know how else to tell you.... Or how to get through to you. This, darling, is a complete no-brainer....
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Your question was Is she cheating? You gave us all manner of bits of evidence. we said - yes, she is cheating, big time, and how. Now you're back-pedalling and saying, well, I need to get proof. YOU DON'T NEED PROOF. Listen. With all the evidence you have at your immediate disposal, really 'catching her in the act is both futile and unnecessary. It doesn't matter that the guy is a low-life-loser. If he's told you he's sleeping with her, and has been staying there, and he just got out of her bed, and has as good as told you that you are being cuckolded - getting any other proof is completely immaterial. Take it from him - take it from us. you are simply setting yourself up for a sucker-punch if you pursue this a second longer than necessary. We don't know how else to tell you.... Or how to get through to you. This, darling, is a complete no-brainer.... Well i think im getting the point now.. it will be hard ending it but i think your right. why is this **** so painful nevertheless theyres nothing i can do.. used and abused
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Big breath... and ..... release. OK. Now go up to my first post, and read the signature link: "All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide." it's basically how you survive the break. Because break - you must.
Joaquin Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Op, you aren't the first or last person to get suckered into this kinda stuff. You've got yourself caught in-between two people who aren't done with each other. How did you get there? You were lied to. Girls lie. So do guys. It's selfish and horrible, but it's also sometimes an unfortunate part of getting to know someone new. It's not your fault at this point. However, ignoring the **** you now know will be your fault. You want the fairy tale, and she knows it. She's playing you like last years Xmas number 1. 1
Author Bountyman Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Big breath... and ..... release. OK. Now go up to my first post, and read the signature link: "All-New Caliguy No Contact Guide." it's basically how you survive the break. Because break - you must. thank you tara
road Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Well i think im getting the point now.. it will be hard ending it but i think your right. why is this **** so painful nevertheless theyres nothing i can do.. used and abused Tara, is on the money. Your story is not special or unique. We have seen your story played out countless times before. You never married her, never had kids with her. This is the best time to walk away from her. There have been many other men in your foot steps that did not leave but stayed and married their cheating GF. Years later they post how they discovered their GF cheated on them before they married them. Now sad to say how they have cheated since then. Some 1 OM, some multiple OM, some knocked up by the OM only not finding out that their child was not their's but an OC. We don't take joy in being harsh with you. We don't want you marring her and coming back here with new regrets.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 i don’t understand is she cheating ? Thank you in advance ...... She is cheating and you know it. Just dump her skeezy ass and move on.
Author Bountyman Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 that monstrosity has been revoked !! you should of seen her water works but chin up and the bitch admitted it all honestly... right now picture this shes apparently pregnant !!! jesus how on earth does this **** get any more akward. but i was always strapped so this is some next bollocks!!! on a serious note thanks to everyone who helped me see the light.... no matter how cruel it seemed sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind thanks !!!
road Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 that monstrosity has been revoked ............................................................................................ right now picture this shes apparently pregnant !!! ........................... but i was always strapped so this is some next bollocks!!! Bangers and mash where did you learn English? Some are only versed in english.
Author Bountyman Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Bangers and mash where did you learn English? Some are only versed in english. shall i try in english then dear road ? shes apparently telling me shes pregnant !!! and i always used protection so shes is talking utter nonsense !! is that better
TaraMaiden Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Or you could go backwards.... "S'ounds! she is with child and as surely as the sun rises and sets I cannot foreswear paternity for yea, verily did I ensure prevention of issue!"
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