Do nothing or Do something?

[big bear]

So, I have been broken up for almost an year now. And the thing is I did not go for complete NC even once. The maximum it lasted was a month.

 

Now I have been drunk many times, called and fought and what not. Yesterday, I drank too much. Asked her to talk to me once and when she did not respond I started calling her.

 

Do not remember much after but I think I called her more than 100 times. She did not pick up though.

 

Woke up and felt so ashamed. How could I have so low esteem. Messaged her and apologized, she said OK and I thought that was the end of it.

 

So, got set for NC. It's her birthday in 3 days. I had convinced myself not to call or mail or do anything.

 

And then I come home she sends me a friend request on facebook. I had deleted her long back but did not block her.

 

What do I do?

About the birthday and about facebook?

 

I still love her but what I did yesterday has ashamed me. I do not want that to happen any more.

Edited September 9, 2012 by big bear

[The_Face]

Your chances sound decent. She friend-requested you, that should stand for something.

 

I wouldn't get hung up on the drunk dialing thing. It happened, it's over. And as it turns out, she seems okay after it. You obviously haven't ruined your image to her, or she wouldn't look you up and friend-request you. So move past your mistake (we've all been there) and look at the bright side. So stay postive.

 

I'd give her a call on her birthday, and keep it short, unless she wants to talk more, just wish her a happy birthday and don't apologize for the drunk dialing. Unless she brings it up. Make a quick apology and don't over-analyze it or apologize in too heavy of a way.

 

And I'd stop drinking, if I were you. Or, if you choose to still drink, make damn sure you hide your phone, or turn it off. Maybe let a friend hang on to it until the next morning, once you've sobered up.

 

You should feel good right now. Drop the shame and try to convey a stronger, better image of yourself to her whenever you do talk to her again. Remember, don't be overly apologetic, just move things forward and I'm sure she'll go along with it.

 

As for your relationship being salvaged, who knows about that? But it's definitely not ruined completely.

[big bear]

Shall I accept the friend request. It's on hold currently. I really don't want to, my profile is anyways open.

 

If I accept her, deleting her after sometime will again be tough.

[The_Face]

I vote "YES".

 

What's the worst that could come from it? Nothing!!

 

You do want her back, right?

[big bear]

Get a load of this.

 

I call her, she is talking to someone else. She calls me back. I wish her happy birthday and she is like thank you so much. Sweeter than syrup. I request her do cut a cake.

We did not cut it the last time. We were together but logistical issues. A cake was not cut.

 

So today I message her on FB, did you cut a cake. Bam!! She replies yes. I message so where did you go yesterday. And after that BLANK.

 

This is what she has been doing all along. Give a signal and then go cold. I am glad I did not accept her friend request.

 

This one has changed. I think that's what you call breadcrumbs!!

[Dblock10]

Get a load of this.

 

I call her, she is talking to someone else. She calls me back. I wish her happy birthday and she is like thank you so much. Sweeter than syrup. I request her do cut a cake.

We did not cut it the last time. We were together but logistical issues. A cake was not cut.

 

So today I message her on FB, did you cut a cake. Bam!! She replies yes. I message so where did you go yesterday. And after that BLANK.

 

This is what she has been doing all along. Give a signal and then go cold. I am glad I did not accept her friend request.

 

This one has changed. I think that's what you call breadcrumbs!!

 

sounds like she is being sly, probably seeing someone new