bolase Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 How might nerdy guys might show their interest, if they are in fact interested?? There is a quite nerdy guy at my work (not working directly with me) who I think is funny, has an amazing set of values, and is cute. He's confident and sometimes very direct, sometimes grumpy or passive aggressive and a bit jumpy and weird. Sometimes in emails we will joke around teasingly, other times he will reply 'regards, X'. Forgive my odd assessment.. can't put my finger on it but I am noticing myself noticing him more. I get the vibe from him that he's not used to hitting on women.. the way he dresses, carries himself is certainly not with regard to females so far as I can tell! He has never mentioned a girl or ex girlfriend and it did cross my mind that he could be gay. I sent him a random sms the other night after we went out in a group, just something random, not a question or a Hi, and he never replied, but he's been more friendly to me since then and have noticed him looking at me a few times. Thanks for any insight!
january2011 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I'd move on: If he was interested he'd have replied.Dating a guy from work has the potential to get very messy and looks unprofessional, especially if you're in the same department. Your company may even have a policy against it.
Author bolase Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 1) totally think so too 2) we're in separate departments and theres no company policy against it. plus you share so much in common with people at work that I think it also makes a lot of sense..
Joaquin Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) I wouldn't write him off just yet. You need to get him out of the work environment, and see how he is with you. I for one never try things on with girls at work, but on work night outs, I see it as game on. Try to encourage him to make a move by being slightly in his physical space, say by gently touching his arm when talking, hold a stare for a few seconds, try to get sitting next to him. If he recoils in horror, you can assume he isn't interested. He could be a good guy that is treading carefully at work, and that is smart, not stupid. Edited September 9, 2012 by Joaquin
GirlontheLam Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I saw good luck! Invite him out to a couple of group outings, and take his temperature. Be attentive towards him while in the group and feel him out.
Els Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 IMO, text is the MOST comfortable medium you could offer a shy or socially-awkward person. If he didn't take the bait and answer at all, I think it is safe to guess that he isn't interested for whatever reason (he doesn't date at work, or you aren't his type, or he isn't looking to date now, etc).
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