aevf39 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) my boyfriend and i have been together for 2.5 years. it was long distance and on and off for a bit. we just reconnected after a break and started to take things slow, but when i visited him i messed up totally and brought up another girl when i was drunk. and i was totally dramatic.. our relationship has changed a lot recently. i find that i have become needy, which is horrible i know, but a lot of it has to do with serious things we have been through together. during our discussion the next day, i said how things have changed. i used to be the busy one and now he is. he used to be more affectionate and now i am. because he is in grad school and working full time, he said he just doesnt think he wants a relationship. he said he doesnt have time. also, he agreed that things have changed and does not know if we work anymore... i have come to the conclusion that because we are so young (22 and 24) that maybe we both just need time to be selfish and i do need to grow up and become independent and find myself again, but i do still want a future with this guy. we have been through a bizarre amount of stuff and have made it work no matter what. i get that things have changed, but i love him. he said he loves me, but sometimes that isnt enough. no matter what has happened he has come back to me, but i dont know if i have finally gone too far by letting myself get to a place where i dont have a grasp of myself. i dont know what to do exactly besides work on myself, but how do you let go of what you thought the future held? and am i stupid to want him? Edited September 9, 2012 by aevf39
ja123 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Well, it sounds like the relationship has run its course. Try not to beat yourself up for acting how you did in front of him. You're only human, and you were probably reacting to what you know deep, down in your gut: "It's over." You're sad. This is very sad. How to get over it? Well, no contact for starters. And take the time to grieve your loss, but keep busy in the meantime so you don't become depressed. Working on yourself, and investing in yourself and your skills is the best thing to do. You've got a lot of living ahead of you. Things will get better.
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