Anybody else have this? Lots of strength from LS and then crumble later?

[Adamgem]

I am just curious. When things go wrong I tend to end up here... I read and read and recognise my situation for what it is. I feel strong and I am certain I no longer want him in my life.....

 

Then I see him again and I forget everything within a day or so. I am back to square one, more or less. (Unfortunately I can not access LS when he is around - or at least not easily).

 

Does anybody else relate to this?

[LaCurieuse]

Yes, and I am not suprised one bit. This forum is full of a bunch of people who don't know you or him. Full of people giving advice who are not in your life and who are emotionally detached from your relationship. So you read all these posts with big opinions and theoretical advice but then you go back to your real life, and you have in front of you a real human being whom you love. Not a bunch of typed words from people you will never meet.

 

Having said that I am certainly not against forums or its participants...hell, I am one!

[sad puppy]

Adamgem, you need to make up your own mind first. Buddha says "the mind is the forerunner of all things". That is your starting point. You need to feel it, embrace it, want to really move on and away from him, and the pain.

 

For many, once the pain is bad enough, you will then truly decide to move on. Or not. Your choice. You may have forgotten that you have power. The power to decide your life, the direction you want it to take, the quality of your relationships.

 

The sooner you commit to ending it with MM, the sooner you will be in a position to move forward, towards a happier life.

 

Leave the cheating man in the dust, he's not worth your pain.