domple Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Hi Everyone, Saw my girlfriend for the first time in a week. In a nutshell she has been taking hormone therapy as she went to hospital for her ovaries. Basically they over prescribed and last week she flipped out and had transferred her issues from an abusive ex onto me. She asked me to give her space and we met up for the first time. She said that she still wanted to be with me and sees a future and wants to fight this but in the mental space shes in she doesnt want me near her or to talk about it. She asked me to give her 2 more weeks (we would chat on teh phone every other day and she said that every day shes been slowly getting better since the meds but again it has reactivated the emotions from the ex onto me. She is seeing the phycologist on the 19th which is ages away. I dont know what to do. I really like her and I know she wants to be with me. I am hoping with time and the hormones normalising she will be ok in the next week or 2 (thsi week she said she literally just went to work and then straight home and locked herself in house). She said she wanted me to keep in contact and to use msn and call on the phone but she said today that her ex used to use msn as well and continually pester her and every time i talk to her it gets to her. She is sending me mixed messages such as I want you to contact me and then pushing me away. Mind you its literally only been a week but it has felt forever.
oracle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Id give it some more time... I agree with what she is doing (space). Being gay I know a few transgender people, specifically FTM (female to male conversion. I had a discussion with one 2 weeks ago.. She (HE) has had chest surgery and been on Testosterone for about 6 months now. He said its hard to imagine what a difference testosterone has over estrogen. Its completely changed and leveled out his personality. He said when you compare it back to being a female with normal estrogen levels you seem like a batty emotional mess. So.. I can only imagine what additional estrogen would do to a woman's mental state.. probably like a roller coaster. Hang on and ride it out a bit longer.
Author domple Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Thanks oracle, I will try and wait for her but it just hurts that she wants to be with me but wants no contact, and knowing that even though the hormones may have exacerbated the problem but it has opened up a can of worms and that can take even longer to fix.
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