julia_tran123 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Hey guys, So after thinking and thinking and thinking .. i have decided that i don't want to lose someone who has shared so much of my life, who knows me very well and who i can't lose contact with. So i called him last night, and we talked, and i explained everything to him, i explained how its funny how we aren't talking to each other much (because we used to talk everyday), and i told him that i i don't want to lose someone who knows me so well and who have shared so much together. He was really good with the conversation, he was calm and agreed with what i was saying and he felt the same way. He said he didn't want to lose me because we know so much about each other that we are more than good friends. Yes, i know i may have said this too soon to him .. but i really couldn't bare sitting another day without telling him how i felt about this. After i told him it was like a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders. We talked about the breakup, where we both agreed that we didn't break up over a fight, but it just happened. He said that in a way he is excited to find himself again ... (WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?) He told me that he hasn't stored away anything that i gave him - they are still in his room, he said he's not holding on to the memories but he said he finds it upsetting and sad to store them away. (WHAT DOES THIS MEAN)? After the conversation, i felt happier and relieved, however .. i am still not 100% sure if i could be his "good friend". I told him that, what if one day we started dating another person .. what do we do then? and he said that when that time comes we will deal with it. He said that, but i am not looking for anyone for a while. In a way, i don't know if i could be his friend, but i really want to be comfortable to just pick up the phone and chat (like last night)... and in order to do so i have to be his friend? He said he will send me a txt today .. I still have strong feelings for him, and sometimes i do want us to try again, but then the other half is telling me that yes what we had was something special and it was something that i never felt before .. but .... I'm not sure if i could see a proper future with him. Is this feeling normal?
ja123 Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 I'd say the feeling is normal. You both obviously still care a lot for the other. However, you should go pick up your things and go no contact for a few months. Make the break, do the greiving and then go back to see if being friends is a possibility. Some people can be friends with their exes, many others can't.
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