Necromancer Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 One girl told me " There is something special about you, it's like you have this kind off attitude or something ". Like Thawholigan has been talking about, being more sexy with attitude, movements... I believe it does work. But it's rare to find guys who are like that. Clearly what i was saying was striking her fancy at least. So what's your take on this?. 2
utterer of lies Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 How'd you get so many posts? Reading reveals additional information when performed carefully. 3
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Reading reveals additional information when performed carefully. Oh, pfffft. I'm blonde. (I'm not kidding you, I just mentally thought I was typing, "I'm blind" and it came out "I'm blonde" instead. )
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Settling into your natural rhythm with a few augments attached. Bravo - you're starting to get it
KungFuJoe Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It's not like this is some big secret. Of course your personality can enhance you. Hell...it can make or break you.
monkey00 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I believe the word you're trying to describe is swagger. Women are attracted to guys who have this 'it' factor, some have it, some don't. 1
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I believe the word you're trying to describe is swagger. Women are attracted to guys who have this 'it' factor, some have it, some don't. And anyone can get it
kae Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 it`s witty(smart dude) it`s funny(fun dude) it`s laid back(sincere dude) it`s calm (emotionally stable dude) very attractive ..
jobaba Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Like Thawholigan has been talking about, being more sexy with attitude, movements... I believe it does work. But it's rare to find guys who are like that. Clearly what i was saying was striking her fancy at least. So what's your take on this?. If she considers you within the physical realm of what is attractive to her, then it can really spark something. If you are not, then your attitude and SWAG will seem comical to her or you will seem like a d@uchebag.
Author Necromancer Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 If she considers you within the physical realm of what is attractive to her, then it can really spark something. If you are not, then your attitude and SWAG will seem comical to her or you will seem like a d@uchebag. True, out going girls who I find unattractive can sometimes be really annoying. But we can't please everybody.
Author Necromancer Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 How'd you get so many posts? Haha, this stuff works even better than i expected!.
The Way I Am Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I think that you're correct there is an attitude that makes a guy sexy. From ThaWholigan's posts, I'm pretty sure he's got it. Many guys on LS would do much better taking his advice. I think a lot of guys fail because they try to have it but don't really understand what it is. They mistakenly think that sexy attitude and confidence mean acting like the dbags on reality TV. They get frustrated and angry trying to feign confidence, trying to be something that they're not -- something they think women want. And they come off as phony and cocky rather than sexy.
threebyfate Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It's not attitude or swagger. It's called having a personality and interests. 2
threebyfate Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I'm going to guess you never turned down a possible suitor with similar or admirable personality traits and interests over looks right? Any idea what a false dilemma is? It's when there's only two options presented, forcing the perceiver to pick one when realistically, there are many more options. It's a rhetorical trick. Attraction includes all elements, whether assorted physical, intellectual and emotional traits. The weighting of each will vary per individual. But when you add them together, they will equal attraction. 2
threebyfate Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It's not attitude or swagger. It's called having a personality and interests. You are stating a man's attitude and personality are what make him sexy.The above is what I've stated. Don't attempt to misrepresent what I've stated.
Author Necromancer Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Actually, from what i've seen the guys who act most "cool and confident" are the ugly/short/fat/bald ones trying to impress girls. I see these guys on my college campus flirting with women, "gaming" them, wearing the coolest new clothes, act like they're invincible. The reaction from women? "That guy is so annoying!" Women hate ugly confident guys. Romantic confidence without something tangible (physically speaking) to be confident in is not going to get you anywhere. Personality is way overrated when attracting women, it only factors in way later. I don´t live in USA, so this is a bit different here. There are many wanna be losers out here. I believe if you are idiotically confident and average looking that some women will fall for it. (1/10?) And yes its overrated when attracting women (there are many other factors that matter more) . But we still have to be the best person we can be.
phineas Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 And anyone can get it I have it. Only when I have low interest in the woman. LOL! So i'm not afraid of screwing anything up & can be myself. Then they usually want me. Go figure. I'm learning to trick myself into thinking of all the positives of being single in order to not care if I screw it up & it seems to be working. 2
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I have it. Only when I have low interest in the woman. LOL! So i'm not afraid of screwing anything up & can be myself. Then they usually want me. Go figure. I'm learning to trick myself into thinking of all the positives of being single in order to not care if I screw it up & it seems to be working. Being able to relax into your natural rhythm is key . You're also quite a fit guy aswell, so I'd imagine that the synergy between your physical stature and attributes matched with your growing ease with your natural expression will likely make you look more attractive, particularly to women who resonate on your frequency. The same thing has been happening to me recently, almost overwhelmingly, like I'm not completely ready for it almost!
Author Necromancer Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 So is this just a dodgy way of saying yes to my question? You are stating a man's attitude and personality are what make him sexy. I asked you if there has ever been a man who had a great attitude and personality that you did not find sexy. When you say that personality is the beginning and end of your attraction to a man, you are being dishonest, unless of course you have never friend-zoned or rejected a man who you loved as company but not for sex. This makes me kinda sad, since i have had female friends who thought i was a really great guy but where not attracted to me physically. If i would have been better looking, i would have rocked their world.
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 This makes me kinda sad, since i have had female friends who thought i was a really great guy but where not attracted to me physically. If i would have been better looking, i would have rocked their world. Like I always say, if it's a problem, you can always improve your physical appearance. Doesn't mean you have to obsess about it, but you can still do it and increase your chances.
threebyfate Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 So i'm not afraid of screwing anything up & can be myself.Is it possible that when you're being yourself, women find you more attractive since you're relaxed? 1
jobaba Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 This makes me kinda sad, since i have had female friends who thought i was a really great guy but where not attracted to me physically. If i would have been better looking, i would have rocked their world. And it will KEEP HAPPENING if you let it. I can guarantee that it will. Over the course of three decades for me. Express interest early, low investment...
Author Necromancer Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 And it will KEEP HAPPENING if you let it. I can guarantee that it will. Over the course of three decades for me. Express interest early, low investment... The problem is most of the time i fallen for friends who i didn't see as a romantic interest at start. But they where fine looking and good company so felings grew. I take your words.
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