maysj18 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I'm happily taken and have been for a couple of months. I go to college about half an hour from our town, so during the school year I live down here. It's a a very small campus and so everyone knows everyone. Well, my roommate and I are very close with the internationals (they usually hang out together) and have been for 3 years now. Well every year there are a few newbies added to the group and one of them is a cute, Swedish boy. He's very funny and endearing, but I'm obviously not interested. Well he added me on Facebook and told me that he and my longtime European friend want to cook dinner for me and my roommate. Now, I have no idea if this is a bad situation waiting to happen. Like I said we are a very tight knit group, so the 4 of us hanging out isn't weird, but I worry about the nature of the situation. I know I can keep it friendly, but I don't want to lead anyone one; however, am I right to assume this is a double date? If so, what should I say or should I roll with it until he directly says something that crosses the line? P.s. our longtime friend I mentioned is pretty smitten with my roommate.
ja123 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) It sounds like a double date. Why don't you excuse yourself from the situation? If you want to make it really clear to him as to why you're not partaking in the meal, then tell him straight up that it sounds like a double date and you don't want to be in a situation where you might lead him on or give him false expections. Edited September 9, 2012 by ja123
Author maysj18 Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 It sounds like a double date. Why don't you excuse yourself from the situation? If you want to make it really clear to him as to why you're not partaking in the meal, then tell him straight up that it sounds like a double date and you don't want to be in a situation where you might lead him on or give him false expections. I agree. Their culture is just so much different than our's here in America and I have a hard time reading them. They're much more outgoing, flirty, and affectionate..but it doesn't really mean the same thing. I can't believe I feel so bad when I love my boyfriend so much. I just feel so bad turning people down that are really making an effort, lol.
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