Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Is it me,or did she change a lot? I had a crush and told her I liked her.Slowly she fell in love with me but we didn't get together cuz she wanted to focus on her studies till she graduated.But I Love her like ALOT.But lately I don't know why,but i feel like she's changed.We don't flirt like we used to,she doesn't initiate contact with me first.I told myself to stop overreacting but I can't.I feel as if I don't have any more interest in her anymore cuz she changed.but I don't know if it's just me that's overreacting.Theres something about her i can't let go,I want to continue loving her.Pls help im at a loss now!
january2011 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Perhaps you've fallen out of love? I suspect that you became addicted to how you felt about her and it's that "high" that you're looking for again. However, since you haven't been able to maintain the connection with her, that feeling is starting to die.
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Perhaps you've fallen out of love? I suspect that you became addicted to how you felt about her and it's that "high" that you're looking for again. However, since you haven't been able to maintain the connection with her, that feeling is starting to die. That Can be a possible reason.Do u think I'll still love her when I see her again?We are a long distance away and I see her next month.
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 ZeZhit, I thought we had sorted this in the other thread?? You don't need to keep posting like this - you need to see a professional about your profound insecurities. You need to quit obsessing like this....
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 ZeZhit, I thought we had sorted this in the other thread?? You don't need to keep posting like this - you need to see a professional about your profound insecurities. You need to quit obsessing like this.... I need more opinions
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Why do you need more opinions? What can you actually do about this situation, until you meet her? There is no practical solution to your dilemma in this moment, at all. More 'opinions' are merely going to serve to feed your anxiety, make you panic more, and leave you with far too many confusing options. Wait until you see her. You are too dependent on her being in your life - putting your own personal stability, onto her shoulders, as something she is somehow unconsciously responsible for, is wrong. Particularly as you may no longer be "IN love" with her. You have to deal with this excessive dependency.
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Why do you need more opinions? What can you actually do about this situation, until you meet her? There is no practical solution to your dilemma in this moment, at all. More 'opinions' are merely going to serve to feed your anxiety, make you panic more, and leave you with far too many confusing options. Wait until you see her. You are too dependent on her being in your life - putting your own personal stability, onto her shoulders, as something she is somehow unconsciously responsible for, is wrong. Particularly as you may no longer be "IN love" with her. You have to deal with this excessive dependency. Gah ur right..ok stopping now.
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Why do you need more opinions? What can you actually do about this situation, until you meet her? There is no practical solution to your dilemma in this moment, at all. More 'opinions' are merely going to serve to feed your anxiety, make you panic more, and leave you with far too many confusing options. Wait until you see her. You are too dependent on her being in your life - putting your own personal stability, onto her shoulders, as something she is somehow unconsciously responsible for, is wrong. Particularly as you may no longer be "IN love" with her. You have to deal with this excessive dependency. But do u think I'll still be in love with her when I see her ? I'm really scared I won't...omg...I hope it's just my mind playing tricks on me
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Stop it. See someone for your uber-anxiety, and co-dependence. You need help.
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Stop it. See someone for your uber-anxiety, and co-dependence. You need help. What's codependency anyway? I'm not dependant on her for my own survival.I can live perfectly ok without her.Im not blaming her for what I'm going through,it's not her fault.I do agree that I'm super anxious though
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 You said yourself that you can't let her go, you just can't, even though you believe at this moment, that you're not "IN love" with her. I suggested then, that keeping her hanging on, simply because you don't feel you can let her go, is not the right motivation. I also suggested waiting until you see her, to determine how you feel. Ask yourself - if you're NOT in love with her - what is scaring you about 'letting her go" and freeing her to find someone who does?
Author Zezhit Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 You said yourself that you can't let her go, you just can't, even though you believe at this moment, that you're not "IN love" with her. I suggested then, that keeping her hanging on, simply because you don't feel you can let her go, is not the right motivation. I also suggested waiting until you see her, to determine how you feel. Ask yourself - if you're NOT in love with her - what is scaring you about 'letting her go" and freeing her to find someone who does? I'm afraid to let her go because I know I will regret it
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Which is why we have said "Wait until you see her in person". See a doctor about your anxiety levels - but don't let them just fob you off with pills. There are many herbal remedies which work well... do some research. Rescue remedy, St John's wort, valerian, passiflora and many other Bach flower remedies and homeopathic products work well. Meditation is also excellent and neither religious nor spiritual, if that's not your bag. Meditation is calming the mind and easing the thought-traffic....
Author Zezhit Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Which is why we have said "Wait until you see her in person". See a doctor about your anxiety levels - but don't let them just fob you off with pills. There are many herbal remedies which work well... do some research. Rescue remedy, St John's wort, valerian, passiflora and many other Bach flower remedies and homeopathic products work well. Meditation is also excellent and neither religious nor spiritual, if that's not your bag. Meditation is calming the mind and easing the thought-traffic.... Good idea..thanks
Author Zezhit Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Which is why we have said "Wait until you see her in person". See a doctor about your anxiety levels - but don't let them just fob you off with pills. There are many herbal remedies which work well... do some research. Rescue remedy, St John's wort, valerian, passiflora and many other Bach flower remedies and homeopathic products work well. Meditation is also excellent and neither religious nor spiritual, if that's not your bag. Meditation is calming the mind and easing the thought-traffic.... Hey.Im fine now.Im back to loving her again.It was just a moment of confusion for me..I had been over thinking too much.Thanks
KungFuJoe Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Hey.Im fine now.Im back to loving her again.It was just a moment of confusion for me..I had been over thinking too much.Thanks Thank god. I was so worried that you wouldn't still be in love with her. I couldn't sleep at all last night! Glad you got it all figured out.
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