TheBigQuestion Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) Hokie, you're clearly not satisfied in this relationship. It is possible to become emotionally attached to someone while still understanding that life circumstances and logistics will get in the way. Contemplate your options deeply. Make no hasty decisions, and pay no mind to people who post primarily to piss you off or get a rise out of you. Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Woah...there was a "thing"? lol The ****... It was more like a close friendship.....for a brief period in time I thought most people on here knew anyway.... 2
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) Hokie, you're clearly not satisfied in this relationship. It is possible to become emotionally attached to someone while still understanding that life circumstances and logistics will get in the way. Contemplate your options deeply. Make no hasty decisions, and pay no mind to people who post primarily to piss you off or get a rise out of you. Well, I understand the viewpoints I've received from folks on this thread that I should get out of the relationship. To be honest, if I were an outside third party, I'd probably recommend that the poster leave the relationship too from a purely rational standpoint. But I know that emotions can get in the way and make it difficult to make the seemingly "right" decision. Making the hasty, knee-jerk reactions were what caused her and me to go back and forth with breakups and reconciliation. She really is a great woman; if she wasn't, I wouldnt have given this much thought. Edited September 14, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MrCastle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It was more like a close friendship.....for a brief period in time I thought most people on here knew anyway.... I'm pretty new here.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 It was more like a close friendship.....for a brief period in time But now we're archnemeses in this ongoing soap opera that is LS.
kaylan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It was more like a close friendship.....for a brief period in time I thought most people on here knew anyway.... riiiiight....didnt know Hokie made visits down under
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 riiiiight....didnt know Hokie made visits down under Heh, I see what you did there. ES is from Australia, which is nicknamed the land "Down Under" and going down under is a euphemism for performing oral sex. Kaylan, you're so clever with your words.
TheBigQuestion Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Well, I understand the viewpoints I've received from folks on this thread that I should get out of the relationship. To be honest, if I were an outside third party, I'd probably recommend that the poster leave the relationship too from a purely rational standpoint. But I know that emotions can get in the way and make it difficult to make the seemingly "right" decision. Making the hasty, knee-jerk reactions were what caused her and me to go back and forth with breakups and reconciliation. She really is a great woman; if she wasn't, I wouldnt have given this much thought. As a detached observer, my recommendation is to end the relationship. The difference is I don't feel like you should be drawn and quartered for having thoughts and feelings you can't really help.
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 But now we're archnemeses in this ongoing soap opera that is LS. Yes....and me and Star were the biggest enemies on LS and then became besties for a bit too, but looks like she doesn't like me anymore Hokieeeee you are still my friend right?
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Hokieeeee you are still my friend right? I suppose that can be arranged... :laugh:
Negative Nancy Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) I'm in a relationship right now, and he's 7,000 miles away (that's quite the distance, don't you think), and I NEVER EVER EVER think about "what else is out there." EVER. HE is the ONLY man I want. That's how I feel too. Hokie, thinking about your numerous old threads, you've always had external validation problems. I think this is where it stems from with you. Let the old woman go, you're not really into her which was obvious from the beginning, and you're not doing anything to restore faith in your own gender. If women threw themselves at you, I don't think you'd be able to resist at this point. Come to think of it, I as well thought you were single. So all this online flirting with ES was going on while you still were in a relationship? Wow, that's highly inappropriate (I have another word in mind but don't want another infraction) and you should really re-evaluate your own moral code and values. Edited September 9, 2012 by Negative Nancy 4
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 That's how I feel too. Hokie, thinking about your numerous old threads, you've always had external validation problems. I think this is where it stems from with you. Let the old woman go, you're not really into her which was obvious from the beginning, and you're not doing anything to restore faith in your own gender. If women threw themselves at you, I don't think you'd be able to resist at this point. Come to think of it, I as well thought you were single. So all this online flirting with ES was going on while you still were in a relationship? Wow, that's highly inappropriate (I have another word in mind but don't want another infraction) and you should really re-evaluate your own moral code and values. As I understand, they were broken up at the time. Hokie was in an on and off relationship for months. Our thing was during the off period as I said before. 1
kaylan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 is online flirting with someone you never met (during a time when you were single) that serious? Come on guys. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Hokie, thinking about your numerous old threads, you've always had external validation problems. I think this is where it stems from with you. Sure, because I didn't start getting it until later in life... If women threw themselves at you, I don't think you'd be able to resist at this point. Would anyone be able to resist if they never experienced women (or men) throwing themselves at them?
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 is online flirting with someone you never met (during a time when you were single) that serious? Come on guys. No, I never took it that seriously. However, if I was in a serious relationship and my bf was engaging in that level of online flirting/correspondence, I would not like it at all. But given that Hokie was single at the time - I don't see a problem.
kaylan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) ^Thats what Im saying...I dont see the problem with it if he was single. Edited September 9, 2012 by kaylan
Negative Nancy Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 But I'll be honest and probably guess that I'd try to hold onto her longer than I should based on her looks. Surprise, surprise....
Negative Nancy Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 As I understand, they were broken up at the time. Hokie was in an on and off relationship for months. Our thing was during the off period as I said before. Well then - let me point out that he got a little bit of external validation and a taste of "oats" () then - albeit virtual, but flirting is somewhat of a taste nevertheless. And where is he standing now? Has it re-solidified his relationship with his woman? No, he is STILL wondering... I think he needs to get out. Hokie, how do you think your woman would feel if she read this thread... 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 This woman is probably smarter than you think... 1. She KNOWS or should know the risks with getting involved with a 20 years younger man. 2. She already knows that he has wondered about "wild oats" before. 3. She can't have anymore kids and she has already been married. Why is he "wasting her time" and it's cruel to do because of her age? I actually think that time wastage would be worse if she was 25-40 and hoping for kids. So I am sure she is well aware of this and still choosing to proceed with the relationship. 1
mesmerized Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 That's why I try to avoid men with low self esteem. They're not necessarily with you because they find you a great match but because they dont see themselves capable of getting anything better. 4
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 That's why I try to avoid men with low self esteem. They're not necessarily with you because they find you a great match but because they dont see themselves capable of getting anything better. I definitely agree with this.
KungFuJoe Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Anyone with low self esteem should be avoided...male or female. They make for the WORST partners. They are the ones that belittle you, are overly jealous, and cheat on you. Confidence (not cockiness) is the attribute people should be looking most for in a partner. That and integrity. 1
mesmerized Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 And it seems (at least based on ls) that certain ethnicities/races of men are the ones with the lowest self esteem. I should keep that in mind when dating.... 1
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Anyone with low self esteem should be avoided...male or female. They make for the WORST partners. They are the ones that belittle you, are overly jealous, and cheat on you. Strangely enough, it is the insecure women whom popular PUA guidance seem to advocate targeting...
Negative Nancy Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 That's why I try to avoid men with low self esteem. They're not necessarily with you because they find you a great match but because they dont see themselves capable of getting anything better. Exactly. It was more like a close friendship.....for a brief period in time Nice backpedaling 1
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