USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) Should everyone try to experience the "taste of wild oats" at some point in their life? For those who have experienced it, are you glad you did, and did you eventually get over it and seek out more meaningful relationships? And for those who entered into serious relationships without the oats, have you ever longed for that experience? Media has certainly glamorized sex and the lifestyle of the "player." although I understand that it's not a very fulfilling way to live, i sometimes get the desire to experience it, especially when I'm in a relationship. It stems from jealousy and resentment of many of my friends who live or have lived a promiscuous lifestyle and the curiosity of that lifestyle. A lot of people get a taste of it during college or in their early to mid 20's; likewise there are people who go eat oats after a divorce or ending of a long relationship. For example, when I was visiting NYC, I was in awe at the number of people out there, and it made me wonder who else was out there...and it made me wonder what else there was to experience. What are your thoughts on wild oats...? Edited September 9, 2012 by USMCHokie 1
snug.bunny Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Is someone having another gigs moment again... 2
Woggle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I experienced it in the years between marriages and it gave me back my mojo. 1
MrCastle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I think being a late bloomer and early failures put a big chip on my shoulder that I carry with me on a daily basis. I'm very much in the business of making up for lost time 2
BehindBlueEyes Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 What is wild oats? you mean trying different races of women or something? Gusee I'll have to google. 1
jobaba Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Should everyone try to experience the "taste of wild oats" at some point in their life? For those who have experienced it, are you glad you did, and did you eventually get over it and seek out more meaningful relationships? And for those who entered into serious relationships without the oats, have you ever longed for that experience? Media has certainly glamorized sex and the lifestyle of the "player." although I understand that it's not a very fulfilling way to live, i sometimes get the desire to experience it, especially when I'm in a relationship. It stems from jealousy and resentment of many of my friends who live or have lived a promiscuous lifestyle and the curiosity of that lifestyle. A lot of people get a taste of it during college or in their early to mid 20's; likewise there are people who go eat oats after a divorce or ending of a long relationship. For example, when I was visiting NYC, I was in awe at the number of people out there, and it made me wonder who else was out there...and it made me wonder what else there was to experience. What are your thoughts on wild oats...? I've never really wanted to be a player and even I did want to, I couldn't. I have enough trouble getting one woman to like me, let alone many at one time. I got out of a relationship when I was about 32 and I really wanted to go out there and swing. I had confidence from getting regular sex from a fairly attractive woman and though I knew women. Instead I found it rough and faced a lot of rejection. I felt like my game was a lot better, but the results were the same. A couple of my friends were really players in their mid-late 20s. They really got a lot of women. Others tried and got nothing. It's definitely something you could do I think Hokie. You have to pick your target demographic and just go for it.
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I think a lot of people would want/need to experience it for a variety of reasons. Some may desire the variety it offers, some are envious of those who can do it, some are too curious to let it lie, some can only find intimacy in doing so etc... Me personally, I could probably take it or leave it. I don't really have a strong urge to sow my wild oats - it may happen that way without my intention but I don't think it's likely anyway. 2
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Is someone having another gigs moment again... This is a great question. Im struggling to determine whether it's actually GIGS or not...or maybe I don't have a good understanding of what GiGS actually is. I'm not actually looking to "upgrade" from anyone, as I assume GIGS is. Rather, I just want to experience what I'd have to hear stories about every Monday morning from my friends. Maybe it's a validation sort of thing, or a competition with my friends. This is why I ask. What is it about oats that appeals to people...? 1
SJC2008 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 What is wild oats? you mean trying different races of women or something? Gusee I'll have to google. Basically being a man whore/slut for a brief period. Not permanently. This is a good subject. I sometimes wonder if I meet a great woman and fall in love will there be that urge to sew some oats? It's not like I hit on woman at the bar anyway or have enough game to get a ONS, so what difference should it make anyway? Part of a relationship is fighting temptation.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 I think being a late bloomer and early failures put a big chip on my shoulder that I carry with me on a daily basis. I'm very much in the business of making up for lost time Me too...and I agree that it does feel like I'm trying to "catch up" with my peers.
snug.bunny Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 What is it about oats that appeals to people...? Well, oats can be really creamy depending on how much milk you add. I suppose "creamy", in itself, is appealing... 3
MrCastle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 What is it about oats that appeals to people...? For me it's a two parter. For one, like I said, early failures served as fuel. It's like an athlete who loses a championship game, then uses that as fuel to win it next year. Second is I like the variety without commitment situation. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 This is a good subject. I sometimes wonder if I meet a great woman and fall in love will there be that urge to sew some oats? I would say that people should be wary of entering into relationships with those with little to no relationship or dating experience. My first girlfriend three years ago voiced this concern to me, and I quickly dismissed it as a non-issue because I didn't know any better. Looking back now, she was probably right. When you get to experience your first relationship or your first successful date, it makes you wonder what or who else is out there, especially as a late bloomer when your mind and emotions have a bit more capacity than as a kid. 2
SJC2008 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 likewise there are people who go eat oats after a divorce or ending of a long relationship. Yeah divorce can bring on some MAJOR oats. A group of my frineds ran a train on a middle aged women who just go a divorce lol. One of them went for seconds in the morning too! She must of had to release a demon or mabye it was her way of getting back at her ex?? Of course I wasn't there! I hate working weekends:mad:
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Me personally, I could probably take it or leave it. I don't really have a strong urge to sow my wild oats - it may happen that way without my intention but I don't think it's likely anyway. I thought this too way back in the way...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Yeah divorce can bring on some MAJOR oats. Yea, one of my good friends I work with just recently got divorced and is doing quite well for himself on match. He never wants to get married again... 1
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I think that people in relationships with people they truly care about aren't thinking about "what else is out there." Shame on you for continuing to lead that poor woman on. 9
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I thought this too way back in the way... I dunno. I want monogamy and a family. It appeals to me much more than a string of sexual encounters, I'd rather have a wife whom I love and have a string of escapades with her instead . 6
SJC2008 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I think that people in relationships with people they truly care about aren't thinking about "what else is out there." Shame on you for continuing to lead that poor woman on. Lead who on? So when you're in a R you've never seen some hot stud somewhere, and NEVER had a thougt of what you would do with him? Please tell me this.
threebyfate Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Hokie, why are you doing this? If you want to sleep around, then shut down your relationship and start whoring it up. There's just no purpose to chomping at the bit and cruel to lead someone else on. 5
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 I dunno. I want monogamy and a family. It appeals to me much more than a string of sexual encounters, I'd rather have a wife whom I love and have a string of escapades with her instead . Yea, I would like to agree. Perhaps it's the frustration of the distance in my relationship now that's making me think this way. But maybe not...
SJC2008 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Yea, I would like to agree. Perhaps it's the frustration of the distance in my relationship now that's making me think this way. But maybe not... I wasn't aware you met someone. When?
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Lead who on? His girlfriend. The older woman he's been with for quite some time.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Hokie, why are you doing this? If you want to sleep around, then shut down your relationship and start whoring it up. There's just no purpose to chomping at the bit and cruel to lead someone else on. If it were that easy, then I'd do it. But I don't know if I want to lose her to look for something that I might to even get or something that isn't what it's set out to be. And I flew her to DC two weeks ago to meet the family when I went home. I can certainly see it working out.
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 So when you're in a R you've never seen some hot stud somewhere, and NEVER had a thougt of what you would do with him? Please tell me this. I'm in a relationship right now, and he's 7,000 miles away (that's quite the distance, don't you think), and I NEVER EVER EVER think about "what else is out there." EVER. HE is the ONLY man I want. 4
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