blutoj Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Okay, I don't really want to tell him off, I'm just extremely pissed at the way things ended and I would love to give him a piece of my mind.* Okay, here's my story... We'd been dating for over 2 years. We were happy, in love, compatible, etc. You know, your ideal couple? Or so I thought. Anyway, out of the blue one day he says he thinks we should break up. Naturally, I was devastated.* * * * "Why would you do this? I thought we were doing okay. I thought we were in love. What went wrong?" * * * * * *I was that annoying ex girlfriend. Begging for another chance. Trying to fix some wrong that I was unaware of. Anyway, his reply was: * * * *"you're a wonderful person. I really respect you. I think we made a great couple. But nothing lasts forever. I really like you, I just don't like the way we relate to each other anymore."* I guess that made sense. We were in our senior year. And I guess I let the stress of applications, getting the best grades, and figuring out what to do with my life was getting in the way of our relationship. I'll admit. I was a little bitchy. So sue me, break up with me. Whatever. Anyway, fast forward. I let it all go and had a great summer. Not a single date, or any other love interest. Not that I really minded.... As it turned out, this guy is going to the same college as me. Whoot. He texts me out of the blue and asks me to meet him for lunch. I thought it was weird, but accepted his invitation. When we met up, he told me how much he missed me, how I was such a wonderful girl, how he felt like an idiot for letting me go.... Yadda-yadda-yadda. He asked me for another chance. I figured, "what the hell?" It's not like I'm seeing anyone else, and I did really love him at one point.* So for about 2 weeks, he was the sweetest guy. He kept telling me how wonderful I was, how much he missed me. And I actually started to feel something for him again. But then, he tells me he's not into me. At all. These were his words. "I don't love you. I doubt I ever will. I feel nothing for you, just slight attraction. I love you as much as I love my friends. And I don't love my friends. I respect you. I just don't want to fool you into thinking something more will happen."* So there I was, feeling like the biggest dumb ass in the world. He gave me all that good stuff, "let's still be friends, we can still date, but not really date."* So I walked away. I started to cry, and made up some excuse about needing to be somewhere so he wouldn't see my tears... Again. His last words to me were, " I'm here if you need me. Let me know when you'll need to see me again." This was a week ago. I've not contacted him, and he's not contacted me. What should I tell him? How should i tell him? I don't want to walk away from this with him thinking he has something over on me. I want him to know how low he is. I want him to know that I don't want HIM. Not the other way around. I want him to feel rejected.* It's his birthday in a few days. Should I tell him something? Like "happy birthday dillhole." Idk. I just want to leave this with the upper hand, you know? Anyway, I just want some opinions on this. Maybe discussions amongst yourselves. You can use my story for your general amusement.*
Mike_d Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 don't see where there is anything to do or say. the guy isn't in to you, leave him be and give him all the space in the world. being pissy with him is just an excuse to stay in contact, you don't need that.
oracle Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 He did you a favor.... Learning experience.. LEARN FROM IT, and don't do it again. History always repeats itself. If he left you before, leaving you again is even easier. When we don't have it we idealize it. People get caught up on both ends of the pursuer / distancer scenario. He missed you for a bit cause he didn't have you around for awhile.. Then he got you back and remembered why he didn't want you. If you haven't already, read my thread at the top of the section
not-a-drive-by Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 being pissy with him is just an excuse to stay in contact, you don't need that. I agree. Sometimes I get really frustrated and angry with my ex about how things just ended out of the blue and without giving "us" another chance and feel the need to text or call to tell him off. But that will do nothing to change the situation and will push him further away. The last thing that I want is to push him further away. So I stop and cry it out. Or post on LS my frustrations. Afterall, sending that text is an excuse to contact him and get that attention (even though it will be negative). You know, just to be able to text back and forth again , and not completely disappear from the face of the earth from them.
TaraMaiden Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 How should i tell him? I don't want to walk away from this with him thinking he has something over on me. I want him to know how low he is. I want him to know that I don't want HIM. Not the other way around. I want him to feel rejected.* Actions speak louder than words. Find a new guy friend and hang on his arm. It doesn't necessarily need to be a relationship. Just get a guy friend to hang on to, by the arm. It's his birthday in a few days. Should I tell him something? Like "happy birthday dillhole." Idk. I just want to leave this with the upper hand, you know? Oh stop it. Get over yourself hunny, You're both young, it's not the end of the world. Really, in 5 months' time this won't matter.
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