Ladydrib Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I've run into a particularly difficult time in the healing process. I know the pain will come and go. But I'm hurting so bad right now. Really it's a stabbing pain in my heart and a dull sick pain in my stomach, like someone is sucking my soul out of me. I'm trying to do things to make it stop but it's not going away. Just not sure how to cope.
mercy Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I've run into a particularly difficult time in the healing process. I know the pain will come and go. But I'm hurting so bad right now. Really it's a stabbing pain in my heart and a dull sick pain in my stomach, like someone is sucking my soul out of me. I'm trying to do things to make it stop but it's not going away. Just not sure how to cope. What are you doing?
Author Ladydrib Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 What are you doing? Went for a walk. Did some work for work. Went to my nieces game. But I feel like a dying zombie no matter what I do. Now I'm laying around in pain. It's nearly unbearable today.
mercy Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Some days will feel that way. Let it wash over you then release it. It's ok to have bad moments. But they are just moments. Sounds like you had a good day. 1
AnotherRound Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I hate times like that. I'm sorry you're having one. It's times like those that I wish life had a freakin' fast forward button bc I KNOW it will get better, and I just want to hurry up and get there. But, it doesn't work like that, obviously. The only way to heal, and process, is to... well, just feel it. Sometimes, I think that we humans have this need to just get past things that we forget, we can't get past them until we've processed them. That processing sucks, bc it hurts, but it truly is the only way. Give yourself a time limit on how long you can feel the pain. And then, after that is up (say, 20 minutes to cry, scream, flail, whatever gets you past it) get focused on something else more positive. By incrementing it, you are making it much more manageable. It's something you are probably going to have to chip away at, and I totally understand the impatience and the frustration with just wanting it to be done. But, you KNOW that it will get better. The the pain and hurt won't last forever, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. So, be in the tunnel for a moment, and then remind yourself of that light at the end. It may take some traveling to get to the light, but you WILL get there. I personally read, get massages, play with my dogs, etc. to distract myself. Then, when I need to process, I journal, cry, look at pictures, and just feel it. I don't like it, but I know it's necessary. Hope it gets better for you soon... grieving is so painful and so uncomfortable. But so necessary. 3
Author Ladydrib Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 When dealing with unbearable pain of any kind the best technique I have found is to just try and get through the next little while. It reminds you that you can live through it and that it'll be ok. Sometimes you have to actually count out the seconds for this to work, and you could just have to start over when you reach the "end" but it does work. You just count through the panickey moments and it'll be ok. I promise. I'm sorry you are hurting. Thank you.
Tirai Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 What helped me a lot was Baggage reclaim blog. Lot to read. Take care hun, it does get better!
sad puppy Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 The pain you feel is nature's way of letting you know the toxins and poisons are leaving your life. It is a reminder to you, of what you will have in your life, if you start up again with MM. These men are toxic, and bring pain, confusion, and hurt into your life. Your present pain is temporary, it will be difficult, at times, you will move through it. Although this pain is but temporary, your freedom and happiness lie just on the other side. Keep swimming for it. It's there, waiting for you.
Author Ladydrib Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 The pain you feel is nature's way of letting you know the toxins and poisons are leaving your life. It is a reminder to you, of what you will have in your life, if you start up again with MM. These men are toxic, and bring pain, confusion, and hurt into your life. Your present pain is temporary, it will be difficult, at times, you will move through it. Although this pain is but temporary, your freedom and happiness lie just on the other side. Keep swimming for it. It's there, waiting for you. Thank you so much. This makes total sense. 1
Author Ladydrib Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Feeling so much better today. Thank you all for your comforting words and good advice! I look forward to the day when I'm 100% me again, all the time. One step at a time. Progress. :-) 1
EmptyHeartGirl Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Glad to hear you are feeling better. The best thing to do is try to distract yourself. Do you have friends? Call one up and go for coffee or lunch. Treat yourself to a spa day. I know how hard it is, you just have to keep telling youself you deserve better,and you will get it when the time is right. Best of luck!
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