Brokendude Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 After 2 months of solid and pain staking NC i finally ran into my ex who dumped me after 2 yrs of relationship she saw me and she was hysterical crying as i stood there with a smile almost fully healed simply because i stayed strong and improved every aspect of my life. The words i regret the breakup came out of her mouth and every sacrifice and hard work i put into myself felt sooo justified....she said me completely not contacting her made her realize my value and strength and just missed me. We talked and she wanted to reconcile, i still live her but i said when im ready. She said the silence was so deafening that last week she started driving by my house hoping shed see me. I was devastated by this breakup but decided to hold my ground, and i am living proof that nc and staying positive and investing in urself pays off, hope this inspires many who r hurting here. Wherever her and i go from here ill be careful but im just so damn proud of myself for never giving up on myself 9
Dblock10 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 excellent news dude. did you delete her from fb? what is your plan now
Author Brokendude Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 Hey dblock hope ur coping well man its been a while. Ya i blocked her in fb the minute she ended it w me. I didnt say a word to her for the next 2 months and took care of business, she was so shocked at my progress man and it was a gratifying feeling that i did this for myself. I still have lots of work to do. The plan for now is if she really wants to get back im gonna leave the door open and not rush into anything, im gonna make her earn it coz she took me for granted when she dumped me, i still love her and we clicked so well and didnt skip a beat but i told her it has to moe on my pace and she agreed.
Dblock10 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 yeah man i have "mentally" let go of my ex (i think) and feel i am in a better place now that i've been nc for a month. she is still on my fb though and no doubt seeing a profile pic change etc may hurt, but.. i feel she isn't a genuine person and has nothing to offer me for now in my life so the sense of urgency to keep reminding her of my existence has stopped or pulled back massively. I guess i'm seeing things for how they actually are instead of how id had "hoped". dont get me wrong i had a pang of missing her today, but then a pang of "actually it might feel good to not care anymore" well i hope what ever you do it makes you happy, its amazing to have an ex say these nice things. harder if they walk away again.. but you know the score, your ex did walk all over you and i know your a smart guy. at least logic is flowing through your head.. i still think about talking to my casually, but ive come to the realisation she has her life, i have mine, and tbh i just want my own happiness, i hope she does realise what she has lost and yeah having her think about me would be nice. but feels like too much water has gone under the bridge now, if we are to meet in the future then it would be fate
Gab09 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Hoorah for your success buddy! It just makes my day. I am so glad to see a survivor! Hoping to earn that badge myself some day. We need a place to just put all this success storys at.. They are very encouraging. 1
Shotputter Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 you've inspired me so much . I just blocked my EX on facebook finnally and i have a date with a really beautiful girl tonight. So happy for you man.
Dblock10 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 shot, what made you do that (or what was your rationale?) i agree success stories welcome always
RogerWallace111 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Good work ! I just went through very similar ****. 3 months of nc I initiated, ran into her at a party, she lost it and ran off sobbing. I agreed to talk to her, she told me how much she'd missed me, wanted to call but didn't want me to turn her down. She made all sorts of super sincere promises so I gave her another shot. After 10 days she ended it again, because it "didnt feel right". Not saying that as some douchey warning, as all situations are different and hopefully things go beautifully with you two. We kind of jumped immediately back into our **** like we'd never been apart (against all classic advice, but we couldn't keep away from eachother). You're smart to make her really prove it. Be very tactful and and take your time. After getting several reconfirmations that my ex "wanted it more than anything", and "knew we could make it work" I was satisfied. Though I know she meant it in the moment, it was ultimately worthless. The more you maintain control, as you definitely seem to be, the better things will go... And really address whatever caused the breakup initially.
Author Brokendude Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Thanks for all the support and input guys. I def will be careful as a matter of fact im not anxious at all, i still love her and i still can def see a future but things have to change on both sides, and ty roger for the amazing advice i will really be mindful and take it as slow as i can
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