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miz_barby

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Okay GENERAL question (again not from personal experience I just want to know how things work in other relationships) ;)

 

When you're in a relationship do you find yourself telling your partner you love them and then not quite getting the response you want....responses like:

 

--uh huh :mad:

--me too :mad:

--okay :mad:

--yeah, ect, ect, ect :mad:

 

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Do you have to ask him/her...."do ya love me baby?" ??? :confused::rolleyes:

 

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Does she/he tell you often and freely without you saying it first?? :love:

 

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Is it spontaneous or routine?? Once or several times a day?? :o;):love:

 

Sorry for the questions (I guess I don't get out much) I just want to see how different many other relationships are from my own and from each others' Thanks in advance for giving your input! :bunny::D:bunny:

miz_barby

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hahaha! Sorry I just wanted to get this higher back in the "new threads" so maybe someone else would respond to my post......come on guys I'm curious about these things! :confused:

tiki Established Member

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I get the response I want. Now, on the other hand, I've been in my own little world a couple times and when he tells me that he loves me, I'm so out there...just realizing how happy I am...and I just smile. Then BOOM! His feelings are hurt and I didn't really realize that I didn't say it in return, I was just kind of in the moment! Hope that answers your ?.

cherished

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BTW neat pic.

 

 

 

Sometimes I have to ask my guy "do you love me" sometimes when I tell him I love him he says "me too" I think it depends on the guy's mood. But I think if you have to tell him first all teh time or you have to ask him then he probably is only telling you to keep you quiet and happy.

miz_barby

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Thanks tikibrandy and cherished! Yes I like getting different responses. I know my questions are sometimes cheesy but I can't help it I like to ask questions.

HoldOn Established Member

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Well, my bf and I say ILY all the time, especially before bed or when leaving, but not necessarily when getting off the phone.

 

But if we're feeling like we need to hear the words, one of us will say "Still love me, baby?" And the other will say ILY along with something sweet.

CurlyIam Established Member

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I remember my ex was at my place and had a shower - we weren't intimate yet. Anyway, he had the blakest nicest hair I ever saw in a man. And it was all wet and he looked kinda funny. As he wak very good at making me laugh, he said one of his jokes and it felt so well, so worm, like a real relationship, so I told him in the thrill of the moment that I loved him. It surprised me more than him, trust me.

 

He did not answer right back, which made me feel like s***. Anyway, I was quite heartless at the time, the ending is that I did get my "I love you" that evening (we were together for a couple of months but we had a great start).

 

 

With my bf it was a French problem. We were having some problems and alsoI really liked him, I just wasn't willing to risk anything and was thinking of leaving him. So he wrote me this lovely email saying that "il m'aime beaucoup" which if I try to translate in English means "I love you very much". Well, in spoken French it means "I really care about you".

 

I was quite impressed, but did not comment on that. Other 2 months down the road, we have this big raw, so at the end of the week end he calls. We eventually make up - I was backing out as I was already emotionally involved" and he does it again, telling me the same "beaucoup" thing... I was quite impressed, I was a bit emotional, so at the end of our talk I end the conversation with "ok, talk later, I love you too". He confessed he was shocked. Anyway, he still doesn't believe me when I tell him that I did not know :mad: !!!! Yeah, he made me "confess" alright... Men, you know ?!?

 

So we kind of laugh about it.

 

 

It does not bother me that I said it, I was telling the truth, although I did felt a bit pressured to respond - I swear to God, he told me during that conversation like three times that phrase! What was a girl to do?

miz_barby

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I was worried I was too cheesy (and maybe my BF was too) we say ILY all the time, when getting off the phone, a couple times here and there when we're just chit chatting, and when I drop him off at his home everynight. He calls me in the middle of his work shift "to check on me" hahaha and tell me he loves me.

 

It's nice and I would be lost without it and think something was wrong if it didn't happen but I wanted to know how many other people feel this way or are cheesy like me. :o

HoldOn Established Member

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Every relationship is different!

 

I know my bf loves me and he says it ALL the time, but I can't get enough. That's why I have to ask him again sometimes and he always makes me feel good!

CurlyIam Established Member

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I'll be leaving Paris the after tomorrow for a months and a half, so there'sa lit of ILY on the phone, when we see eachother, when we part... I could't tell if that's the reason, but I sure like it!

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One of the greatest ways my b/f tells me he loves me is with his hands...and no, it's not sick! During a very quiet moment, if we are just kind of enjoying each other's company, or if we are out in public or hanging out with friends....he squeezes my hand three times for "I Love You" and I always squeeze back four times for "I Love You Too." It's our little secret and we don't have to hear our friends bitch about us being too lovey-dovey. And, it's just nice, it makes me all warm and fuzzy inside when he does it...more meaningful that him just saying it sometimes. Of course, we say it to each other often, but the hand-squeeze is more meaningful to me.

tiki Established Member

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My boyfriend writes it out (with his fingers) when he's scratching my back. Um, I melt. :love:

JarrodsLady Member

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Mine says it a million times a day. Of course our relationship is new and is still so full of love...hehe. J/K.. :). He says it so often and sometimes I just smile to let him know that I love him too. He hates that. If I don't say it back he just keeps repeating it until I laugh and say I love you too. But I do say it a lot too.

 

:p JarrodsLady

Kizzyfur Established Member

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Originally posted by miz_barby

I was worried I was too cheesy (and maybe my BF was too) we say ILY all the time, when getting off the phone, a couple times here and there when we're just chit chatting, and when I drop him off at his home everynight. He calls me in the middle of his work shift "to check on me" hahaha and tell me he loves me.

 

It's nice and I would be lost without it and think something was wrong if it didn't happen but I wanted to know how many other people feel this way or are cheesy like me. :o

 

HEH, Kinda leary of posting to these sort of threads as the last time I did someone (won't mention any names) made a snyde remark.

 

Anyway, I would have to say me and my beau are as cheesy as you and yours, miz_barby. We tell each other "I love you" all the time. I have never had to ask him if he loves me, nor have I had to wait for a response if I say it first.

Fayebelle Established Member

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My BF and I are SO CHEESY and we love it! ILY is thrown around constantly- and one of our cheesy couple things is one of us will ask the other "do you love me?" and the other says "of course" 1st says "just wondering cuz you haven't said so for a wk, all day, a month, etc..." 2nd says "OH NO you've been so deprived!" and we drop everything to cuddle for a few.

 

 

:o I can not believe I'm actually telling that. Oh well it's out there now.

Demented Member

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Originally posted by CurlyIam

So he wrote me this lovely email saying that "il m'aime beaucoup" which if I try to translate in English means "I love you very much". Well, in spoken French it means "I really care about you".

 

Actually...I thought "Je t'aime" was the proper way to say "I love you"...the way the sentence above is structured, it's almost like he was saying "He loves me very much"...hehehe

 

back to topic...I'm an "I love you" freak. I always say it first and often...

Redwinged Member

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Does she/he tell you often and freely without you saying it first?? :love:

 

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Is it spontaneous or routine?? Once or several times a day?? :o;):love:

 

 

 

 

 

For us, it is frequent and spontaneous. He often says it first, and he is just as openly loving with our kids!

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seahorse Established Member

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My man told me first, it was a lovely moment. We tell each other a lot. No matter how much I know he does, I still like to hear him say it.

 

 

Redwinged, I love your avatar. It made me laugh out loud, what a cross little face. Is the cat yours?

 

seahorse

Johnny16 Member

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Routinely....at least 5 times a day......

mehim Established Member

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ok, i personally think saying i love u too much, like many times during the day, evertime u hung up the phone, it gets pretty meaningless. like its just something to say cuz people get used to saying it, it gets like a routine, thats my personal opnion though.

 

me and my bf say i love u once to twice a week, usually he is the one that says it, i say it when i know he really needs to hear it, and sometimes when i feel like saying it, or it would just come out of without thinking about it.

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