AustenLover Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 So my boyfriend of a year dumped me a month ago. We had been fighting a lot, and to be honest, I had gone a little crazy, mostly due to some family issues I had been going through and the fact he's extremely busy with school and work. We were very close before that and had talked about moving in together and getting married one day. When he broke up with me (it started out as a fight), he said we should not talk but meet up in a couple weeks to get coffee. He also said he would miss me for the next couple weeks. Well, I didn't hear from him for over three weeks, except I did break no contact once (I know) and ran into him once at a pizza place. Finally, I texted him and said that we should not drag it out and exchange our stuff. We did that last week, but beforehand, he mentioned getting coffee in a week or so from that date. When I questioned why, he said he would like to be able to meet up at some point to have a friendly catching up conversation. Why is he doing this? Does he just feel guilty? Should I go? In all honesty, I want him back, but don't know how healthy it is to keep encouraging that hope. When he mentioned it before we exchanged our stuff, I told him that i couldn't promise I'd want to do that because I wasn't sure it was a good idea to be around someone who didn't want to be with me. However, I just emailed him saying thanks for bringing my stuff, and if he still wanted to get coffee, to let me know.
johan Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Catching up is something you do with someone you haven't seen for a long time. A month is not a long time. And you don't "catch up" with a recent ex. You avoid them.
Hawaii50 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Not if you want to get back with him. Give him a date/time/place and meet up. see what he has to say and go from there.
Author AustenLover Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 So he never replied to my email, and it's been a week. Also, at one point I ran into him at school, and before we made eye-contact, he turned and bolted in the other direction. I really don't get this behavior considering he was the one who broke up with me and he asked to get coffee. I feel like I'm just not speaking his language.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 So he never replied to my email, and it's been a week. Also, at one point I ran into him at school, and before we made eye-contact, he turned and bolted in the other direction. I really don't get this behavior considering he was the one who broke up with me and he asked to get coffee. I feel like I'm just not speaking his language. Manipulating you and trying to get the satisfaction of getting you to behave on his own terms. Or something along those lines.
Author AustenLover Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 So he finally replied, said he's super busy but would like to next week (he is, in fact, crazy busy). Can I assume I have zero chance at this point?
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