Dsmarlatt Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Yes how does a girl allow herself to be left four times. But when a man comes to you and he says all the right things in your mind you are thinking, this is it. He finally wants to be with me. So for the fourth time of him returning, I said lets try. We had four months of love and it was so lovely. Then this last week we fought more than usual and he could not take it. In my eyes you figure that stuff out with the person you love. But with him, he wanted out. On the phone crying saying he could not do it anymore, after Me being left so many times from the same guy, I become very physically sick. I was throwing up everywhere asking him not to leave it ene with him leaving. I sent him such a heart felt letter with the hope he would reach out to me again. Nothing. He did nothing. So I feel worthless and am scared of going through a break up again. I am taking pills to numb the pain and it is my only escape. Someone pleeeeeassse help me, it has been 3 years I need to let him go. I worry he will come back again, what do you think?
TaraMaiden Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I think you need counselling to find out why you're so "Needy" and why, when you know it so wrong, you keep taking him back. He keeps coming back - because he knows he can. You're weak, and you let him back in, because you have low self-esteem and you are desperate to be loved. Not necessarily by him - but it's what you want. He keeps coming back, and you think "this is it, this time, he's back to stay! he loves me!" Nope. he loves that he can screw you over, until something makes him pissy, then he's off again. So, lady - how long do you figure you can keep doing this? because one day, he will get tired and just stop. 2
soccerrprp Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Yes how does a girl allow herself to be left four times. But when a man comes to you and he says all the right things in your mind you are thinking, this is it. He finally wants to be with me. So for the fourth time of him returning, I said lets try. We had four months of love and it was so lovely. Then this last week we fought more than usual and he could not take it. In my eyes you figure that stuff out with the person you love. But with him, he wanted out. On the phone crying saying he could not do it anymore, after Me being left so many times from the same guy, I become very physically sick. I was throwing up everywhere asking him not to leave it ene with him leaving. I sent him such a heart felt letter with the hope he would reach out to me again. Nothing. He did nothing. So I feel worthless and am scared of going through a break up again. I am taking pills to numb the pain and it is my only escape. Someone pleeeeeassse help me, it has been 3 years I need to let him go. I worry he will come back again, what do you think? This relationship should have ended after the second break-up, imho. This guy is not good for you no matter how you fantasize that he is. He's shown his lack of commitment. He's really taken over you and that type of control will only lead to much worse things if you do not break out of his "control" and move on! If he does try to come back, DON'T LET HIM! Please move on, it is your best move here.
Calico Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Stop taking the pills unless they were prescribed by a proper professional and you take the correct dosage. If you don't, you'll have bigger problems than a broken heart.
KatZee Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 You probably wanted to believe he finally felt for you, what you feel for him. Unfortunately, you're just convenience for this guy. He's with you when it's good but when times get hard, he runs. He's not interested in making anything work with you, he's not actually interested in fixing problems. He just runs away like a coward, and he continues to come back because you continue to allow it. He's not coming back because he's so in love, he probably just misses a warm body next to him at night. Honestly, you BOTH sound extremely co-dependent. Instead of him just being single and working through his issues he keeps coming back for whatever reason. But I can guarantee you that the reason isn't love. You continue to take him back due to self esteem issues. Low confidence. Your desperate need to be loved by the person you love. You can't control him however. You love him, but he doesn't love you... and the sooner you realize that no amount of your tears, or begging, or letters is going to make him love you, the sooner you'll start to move on. Stop begging. It's really not flattering. It makes you look extremely weak... taking him back time after time doesn't show him you respect yourself either... in turn, he doesn't respect you. You need to wake up. This guy will never be with you the way you want. He will just keep leaving and you'll keep being hurt. And stop with the pills. You NEED to feel your emotions. That's the only way to start moving on. Continue masking it and it will come back 1,000x worse and with a nasty bite. Accept he is gone. Erase him from your life. Rely on your friends and family. Become a new you. Take this as an opportunity to grow, to learn to love yourself, and to realize what you actually deserve from a relationship.
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