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My ex text to say she will be back for a few days and wants to meet

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Chi townD Established Member

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I will try and stay out of her way while she is here, I don't know if i will regret never seeing her again because the last time i saw her we were together but i definitely think it could do more harm than good. hopefully she will see that it wasnt easy for me and respect that and stay away from me and not contact me.

 

 

Just how long is she going to be in town for? If it's only for a few days or a week, I would strongly recommend going away for the week. Take a trip, go camping or something. The thing is, she's going to have this guy around her. They're going to hit the town together, she's going to show him the sites. There's a strong possibility you're going to see them together out and about. That's probably why she wanted to meet up with you. To warn you so you didn't find out from someone else. And probably lie to you and say that he's just a friend and it's not what you think....blah....blah... Just thank your stars that her friends boyfriend was stupid and accidentally spilled out the truth while you were there. She probably laid into him after you left and then she probably got on the phone with your Ex immediately to tell her what happened.

 

Look, just leave....don't be there. Go take a trip and enjoy yourself.

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Bravo K100danny, you have real depth, you know the healthy paths, walk in your peace and take care.

 

Actually, this has me worried....

 

Posted today.....

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I did think about taking a trip but with work ect it's not really a posibility.

 

She is in england for two weeks but part of that will be here and part with her family as she is from a different town but has a lot of friends here, she didn't say exactly how long she would be here but she had mentioned spending most of the time here if she could as she prefers it to her home town.

 

The chance of me bumping into them is very slim indeed. With work as it is at the moment im not really out partying and The city i live in is quite large. I don't think she planned on telling me he was coming with her and just hoped I wouldnt bump into them which is more than likely. If she hadnt have got in touch im 995 sure i would never have known she was here unless one of our mutual friends mentioned it but i told them when we broke up i wanted to hear nothing about her and since then all have kept their promise and told me nothing.

 

We will have to wait and see what I do, because at the minute I really don't know what is for the best. I would like to see her I think, But at the same time i know it will be hard. She has said she will contact me while she is here from her friends phone and see if it is something i want to do. If i don't and im not ready she said she understands and she will just leave the few things of mine with her friends for when she has left.

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Dont do it K1d! (I.e. please avoid her!). Your FEAR of regret is a strawman, a windmill, a quixotic fantasy.

If you do the smart thing here you will have no moral grounds for regret, and hopefully in time no emotiinal grounds because it will have passed.

 

And please I wish everyone would realize that if you do the healthy thing and maintain your NC, years down the road if they really want to they can get intouch again, dont fret about that, unfortunately its more than likely in many cases (dblock). Happens all the time. Stay strong, keep your resolve and move on.

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