PepperPotts Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 My LDR started as an in-person relationship, and is very temporary. My boyfriend was a year ahead of me in school, and he had to move home after graduation for work and professional licensing exams. I will be graduating in May and following him. "home" is 1200+ miles away, and we've been LDR for almost four months. So far we've had no trouble-- we have a plan and good communication. But we can only see each other every 75 days or so because of school and work. I've been ok with this all summer, but I put a little too much on my plate in an effort to stay busy and make time pass faster this semester, and I'm super stressed out. All i want is to be with him. I miss him even more than I did in the summer... And the last day or two I just keep thinking "I don't want to do this anymore." By "this" I mean "being so far away." I have *zero* desire to break up, and we aren't having trouble. In fact, I hope to spend the rest of my life with him, and that's our long term plan. I just mean that it's killing me to have him so far away right now. I know it'll be easier once I get back into the swing of things, and I'm probably pretty hormonal right now too, but right now it really sucks. I went to lunch with a friend today, found time for a nap this afternoon and worked out this evening, but I'm still incredibly sad. I want to hug him more than anything. My question: how do you deal with those days where the missing/loneliness is overwhelming?
bluegreen Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 By thinking you will see him again By thanking God he is well alive and you will see him again And by knowing that what for you its two month's for some of us its year two three and we have triple of those days where curling up and bawling our eyes out its all we wanna do but somehow we grit our teeth and go on another day. Am sorry you are sad and we don't miss our guys more then you do yours its just that you will get to see him and hug him in few weeks hold on to that call him e mail him send him something cute and if you feel like crying then cry girl who is gonna or has a right to judge you and it will lift some of that sadness I assure you. If all above fails there is always chocolate and this forum : ))) 1
Author PepperPotts Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 If all above fails there is always chocolate and this forum : ))) Both of which I'm indulging in right now! I'm so grateful I get to see him in six weeks, and I know it's not as long as some people have to wait... and yet I still keep wishing I could fall asleep in his arms *tonight.* Thanks for your support... it really does help to know there are other people dealing with the same thing. 1
bluegreen Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 You welcome doll : ))) Yes thank God for this forum sometimes I think this place might have saved me nervous breakdown or two sometimes it breaks my heart to read some stuff and sometimes I read about someone's good news and it makes me happy and glow inside.
justwhoiam Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 I put a little too much on my plate in an effort to stay busy and make time pass faster this semester, and I'm super stressed out. All i want is to be with him. I miss him even more than I did in the summer... And the last day or two I just keep thinking "I don't want to do this anymore." By "this" I mean "being so far away." I have *zero* desire to break up, and we aren't having trouble. In fact, I hope to spend the rest of my life with him, and that's our long term plan. Positive thoughts: he loves you, you love him you're both in love with one another you're not having fights the **only** downside is temporary distance bluegreen made a quick good summary for you already
HeavenOrHell Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 It must hard being used to living with him close by in the first place But you're doing all the right things, and yes hormones don't help, tell me about it I want to be cuddling him more than ever when I'm feeling low or hormonal. Have as much contact as you can both manage. But keep positive, and stay busy, but maybe not quite as busy as you have been as being stressed from being too busy will be counter productive You'll see him in six weeks it will be here before you know it, try not to think about it as six long weeks, but think how it will fly by, think about how you'll feel when you see him again, and you've only got to keep doing this for 8 months, and out of a lifetime together that's nothing Some of don't have an end in sight, I'm sure you see it as blessing that you do You're in each other's hearts, so you're not far apart Both of which I'm indulging in right now! I'm so grateful I get to see him in six weeks, and I know it's not as long as some people have to wait... and yet I still keep wishing I could fall asleep in his arms *tonight.* Thanks for your support... it really does help to know there are other people dealing with the same thing.
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