Age difference

[Woggle]

I don't know whether it is good or bad to say cougar. I only find it funny when I see people in general who just accept the fact they are not 19 anymore. 40 year olds who still have their mentality back in high school are pretty funny and that is for either gender.

[The Way I Am]

I only find it funny when I see people in general who just accept the fact they are not 19 anymore. 40 year olds who still have their mentality back in high school are pretty funny and that is for either gender.

 

Agreed.

[suladas]

I am 23 and recently dated a women who was 35. I don't see any issues with it, her family/friends all objected until they met me and realized that I was very mature for 23. It was by far the best relationship i've had, and hope one day we get back together. She had mixing feelings about it the entire time, even though she was as crazy for me as I was for her.

 

We are next door neighbors and that's how it started, just talking casually, well I though we were she was actively pursuing me the entire time making excuses to talk to me all the time, so was I to a point but just because I enjoyed her company not that I wanted to date her. Anyways I had no interest she had kids and knew she was older but just getting to know each other I realized how much we had in common and when she officially asked me out I was quite happy.

 

There is no doubt the age gap has it's issues. She made it very clear she would never have another kid, and if I wanted kids I had to find someone else. At 23 that is a tough thing to decide, and I though about a lot, would I be happy with her and her kids, or would one day I say I have to have at least one of my own. She's been married, kids all that stuff and had different life experiences then me, and felt guilty and said if I was with her i'd miss doing a lot of things at my age.

 

A lot of people don't get it, all of my friends just though it was a fling, and to say I was with someone that much older. To be honest going into it I didn't know what it was going to be, but the age was only ever a issue in our heads, never when we were together.

 

In my opinion you can't just lay a blanket statement about age different relationships, it's going to be different for everyone.

 

But having done it, I can't say for sure i'd do it again. I don't know why she ended it for sure, but I do believe it was largely due to the age difference and I couldn't handle falling for someone again and having it end just because of that.