pink_sugar Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 What is age difference to you and where do you draw the line when you consider dating someone? My dad is almost 50 and has no issue with going for women my age (23) or even younger. He thinks there's nothing wrong with it and goes on about how he cannot help how attractive he is. Yet, he has the audacity to say that he thought it was weird for me to date someone out of high school when I was 16 and boyfriend was 22. (Platonic relationship at the time until I was 18) Asked him how he'd feel if I dated a man his age. He was drunk at the time, but his answer: "I'd still love you" LOL. Guess he would have preferred I eye men in their 40's and 50's.
january2011 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 If I were single again, I wouldn't consider anyone younger than me. And I'd only consider someone 2-3 years older than me. With regard to your dad, as much as you disagree with how he conducts his personal life and the choices he makes, as an adult, it's still his life. All you can do is be there to support him if it all goes downhill.
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 My H is 5 years younger than I. I think that's about my limit..... But in different circumstances, who knows? My mum and dad had 11 years between them. 57 years, their marriage lasted....
Maeva Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I am 28 and I wouldn't date someone who's more than 10 years older than me. I prefer men around my age anyways, 28-33 is what I usually go for. I dated someone (for a few months) who was 34 or 35 when I was about 26 y/o. But that's the oldest I went.
MercuryMorrison1 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I'm 24 and I personally prefer women my own age, I'm willing to relent a few years either way, maybe 4 years or so at most, but that's about it. As far as how socially acceptable dating someone who's older go's...Well it really depends on both parties age...For example...If a 13 year old is in an intimate relationship with a 19 year old...That wouldn't be acceptable on the 19 year olds behalf. But if you take the same people and make them a couple at 20 years old and 26 years old, its really not a big deal at all...As far as people in their 50's and 60's dating other people who are in the 20's and 30's and in some extream cases their late teens, well, as far as I am concerned once someone turns 18 years old they can date whomever they want...Be it another 18 year old or a 95 year old on their death bed. When you turn 18 its your choice who you date. 1
FitChick Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 It depends on the person's level of maturity. I have a guy chasing me who is fourteen years younger although if you saw us together you'd think he was the same age because he is balding, about 25 lbs. overweight and going gray (and I'm not!). He thinks he is only four years younger. Then there is another guy four years younger than I, who thinks I am six years younger than he is. To confuse you even further, he is ten years older than the first guy but they look the same age (he is cuter). The younger you are, the bigger the same age gap will be. The age gap shrinks, as you will, with age.
Ami1uwant Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 It really depends on your age... If you are in your early 20s..then stick with +/- 3 yrs If you are in your late 20s/early 30s...then +/- 5 yrs If you are in your late 30s/early 40s...you can go +/-7 yrs If you are 50+ you can go +/- 12 yrs. Bigger issue is where you are in your life. If you are in your mid to late 30s and you havebt started a family you are likely need to find someone who wants that too. You dad dating an early 20s person is purely based on sex and midlife crisis. there is no hope of any long term relatinship success here. 4
Hawaii50 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I'm 30.. as of about 2 minutes ago. and i'm looking 25-30.
veggirl Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 lol what does your dad have in common with 23 yr old girls? I am 29 and I would date like 27-33 4
LC1976 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 First, I think having a hard rule on this topic is kinda silly. All these people that are saying "oh I would only go up 3 yrs and down 2". What happens if you met someone like Fitchick that doesn't even look remotely her age (I have never actually seen her...but my impression is that she looks younger then her actual age). And you find them fun, interesting and cool...what then? But having said that, for me getting into anything past 15 yrs is problematic. I feel that the generations kinda bleed together now on the edges. But dating a girl in college would drive me crazy. 3
mesmerized Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 No offense but I'd be grossed out if I had a dad like yours. If my mom and dad ever split and he goes for someone my age, our relationship would probably be over. 3
TaraMaiden Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I'm 30.. as of about 2 minutes ago. and i'm looking 25-30. Happy Birthday!! 1
tpandrews Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 ok I'm 24 and my gf is 38. I've never had a problem with it but she gets itchy feet every now & then thinking that I'm going to leave her in 10 years and leave her 48 & single. It's never mattered to me. My attraction to her is mental as well as physical. She looks young for a 38 yr old and I look old for a 24 yr old so we're effectively 28 & 32!! So many people think it's wrong but I quite simply don't care, if two people care for each other and the mental attraction is there then why shouldn't they be with someone that makes them happy? 3
Author pink_sugar Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 It really depends on your age... If you are in your early 20s..then stick with +/- 3 yrs If you are in your late 20s/early 30s...then +/- 5 yrs If you are in your late 30s/early 40s...you can go +/-7 yrs If you are 50+ you can go +/- 12 yrs. Bigger issue is where you are in your life. If you are in your mid to late 30s and you havebt started a family you are likely need to find someone who wants that too. You dad dating an early 20s person is purely based on sex and midlife crisis. there is no hope of any long term relatinship success here. You nailed it!
Author pink_sugar Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 If I ever were single, I honestly couldn't see myself with someone more than 10 years older, but it really does depend. There are circumstances where some people are in immaculate shape for their age, there are also generational differences to consider. I've never really saw myself with guys the same age or younger, because I feel pretty mature for my age. Not into drinking, partying and I'm very comfortable with where I'm at and going with my life. Mid-late twenties works for me.
gaius Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 He thinks he is only four years younger. Do you end up telling them the truth eventually? I'm dating an older woman right now. If I ever end up single again I'd probably consider maybe a few years younger and 30+ years older.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 You sure do post a lot about your dad. Aren't you a grown up married lady?
FitChick Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I'm 30.. as of about 2 minutes ago. and i'm looking 25-30. Happy Birthday! Have Thawholigan do your natal chart and tell you what type of woman would be best for you. You should expand your age range to at least 33. Older than that and women might find you too young. 1
Badsingularity Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 It really depends on your age... If you are in your early 20s..then stick with +/- 3 yrs If you are in your late 20s/early 30s...then +/- 5 yrs If you are in your late 30s/early 40s...you can go +/-7 yrs If you are 50+ you can go +/- 12 yrs. There are plenty of people that have age gaps that don't fall into these rules that are happy together. What is realy important is how the two people feel about eachother and if they are happy together.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Commenting on your dad, if indeed he does decide to go a girl in her early 20s he will most likely be acting based on sexual instincts and hormones. As for an age gap, my boyfriend is officially 10 years older than me and I'm 22. However, the age thing never really comes into play because physically he looks younger than his age and sometimes he gets into antics that makes you wonder if he's a kid trapped in a grown man's body. Personally to me, what makes my relationship work so well is our chemisty, our mental compatibility and understanding of each other. He is incredibly intelligent, and we oftentimes have stimulating conversations about philsophy and religion. Having met him, I truly believe is merely a number. What it does comes down to are physical attraction, chemistry and mental compatibility between two individuals. A perfect example, Celine Dion. She met her husband at a very young age and then when she grew up she married the guy. I believe they shared an age difference of 10+ years but they're still together til this day. 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 ok I'm 24 and my gf is 38. I've never had a problem with it but she gets itchy feet every now & then thinking that I'm going to leave her in 10 years and leave her 48 & single. It's never mattered to me. My attraction to her is mental as well as physical. She looks young for a 38 yr old and I look old for a 24 yr old so we're effectively 28 & 32!! So many people think it's wrong but I quite simply don't care, if two people care for each other and the mental attraction is there then why shouldn't they be with someone that makes them happy? check back in 10 years when you are looking at a 26-29 yr old....shes a cougar
Ami1uwant Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 There are plenty of people that have age gaps that don't fall into these rules that are happy together. What is realy important is how the two people feel about eachother and if they are happy together. My suggestion were ball park numbers...there are exceptions to the rules..... usually there is also bias in that men go for younger women while women go for older men.
MuscleCarFan Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 You sure do post a lot about your dad. Aren't you a grown up married lady? My father-in-law is a raging sex-addicted narcissist. There's always something interesting to post about him, lol. In regards to him, he likes 'em young and whenever he refers to one of these young women, it's always about their age, who tall they are, and how much they weigh. He's an extremely shallow douchebag who thinks women over 110 lbs are chubby. It's quite annoying to hear, which is why we spend minimal time around him.
Forever Learning Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 My father-in-law is a raging sex-addicted narcissist. There's always something interesting to post about him, lol. In regards to him, he likes 'em young and whenever he refers to one of these young women, it's always about their age, who tall they are, and how much they weigh. He's an extremely shallow douchebag who thinks women over 110 lbs are chubby. It's quite annoying to hear, which is why we spend minimal time around him. You are too cool! Sorry to hear about your father in law. The age difference dilemma is always a head scratcher. Life is short, I suppose if you click, maybe age shouldn't matter. 2
MuscleCarFan Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 You are too cool! Sorry to hear about your father in law. The age difference dilemma is always a head scratcher. Life is short, I suppose if you click, maybe age shouldn't matter. He likes to. Liam that he doesn't search out younger women, but jokes constantly how he will let the next one go she turns 30.
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