Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 @I'm nuts Everybody says she is a good girl, those who know her personally and those who just pass by and say hello.. She is very sexual, she has been open about alot of sexual experiences she had, and has not tried to hide who she has slept with in my town(that I know of).. I know of at least 4. She was married for many years, I think she had lots of fun after the divorce and moving here.
january2011 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yookie that is interesting and may help me relax some, any other ladies wear sexy underwear with no intentions of showing them? or know someone who does? thank you for your replies If I'm going to wear sexy underwear, you'd better believe I'm going to show my SO. And no, I don't know anyone who wears sexy underwear to go out but doesn't want to show their SO.
Chi townD Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yeah, those texts sound very fishy. You now know she was in a hot tub with another dude. And for her to say that he's too much of a temptation means that they didn't just sit in the hot tub and talk about the meaning of life and the universe. Sounds like the dude was putting the moves on her and she let "some" stuff happen...just not all.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 she had a Friends with benefits thing going with him for a while.. By saying your too much of a temptation , I thought it could be a nice way of saying no, then again she brought up the hot tub.. She left him hanging and did not reply or course I was at her place then.. We saw him at the park one day and she said " oh god it's (guy's name) he was far away but, she did not attempt to say hello to him.. then a couple weeks ago we saw him when we were leaving a bar, it was dark, and he said " hey is that (GF's name)" and they hugged and said hello..
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 are you female? I'm guessing yes..
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 @I'm nuts Everybody says she is a good girl, those who know her personally and those who just pass by and say hello.. She is very sexual, she has been open about alot of sexual experiences she had, and has not tried to hide who she has slept with in my town(that I know of).. I know of at least 4. She was married for many years, I think she had lots of fun after the divorce and moving here. Of course they say she's a good girl she drops her knickers for them Maybe we are different but I'm not really in to girls who sleep with other any old tom, dick and harry. I think the signs are clearly there for you to see but you want to ignore them.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I mean her girlfriends, people from her work, customers who see her at work, my friend, they all think she is a good girl.. Haven't talked to her ex or people she slept with.. She works very hard and has a good rep at work too.. I really am unsure.. I know most of the time she doesn't really have time to cheat.. I usually know where she is.. when we first got together she would tell me she was at a friends or eating some place, I would drive by and check and she always was.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 this is a good point Chi, she knows I'm not an idiot though..
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 Girls in the other forum are saying they will wear sexy underwear even when they are not planning to show anyone , just to make themselves feel good , another girl said it looks better in pants without panty lines..
Maeva Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I wear sexy underwear when I go out too even though I have no intentions of showing anyone what I'm wearing under my clothes. It just makes you feel sexier and boosts your confidence. Only women can understand this. I do that too. Even if it's just to go to work, and it means nothing.
Maeva Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 If I'm going to wear sexy underwear, you'd better believe I'm going to show my SO. And no, I don't know anyone who wears sexy underwear to go out but doesn't want to show their SO. Well, if I am dating someone you bet I'll wear sexy underwear for them! But I can also wear sexy/matching underwear even if no one is going to see it that day/night! It makes me feel sexier.
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Girls in the other forum are saying they will wear sexy underwear even when they are not planning to show anyone , just to make themselves feel good , another girl said it looks better in pants without panty lines.. Nothing wrong with sexy underwear, in fact it's lovely, but the question here is, for who's eyes and benefit is/was it for?
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I really don't know what to do.. going to see her after work today part of me says ask why she wears sexy stuff to the bar but, afraid to wear it around me, and pay really close attention to her reaction.. other part says let it go, just keep a close eye on her. which I do most the time, I don't think I'm overbearing though last night I really just let her go for the first time, I didn't want to seem nosey at all.. and did not want to interrupt her time out.
Mycteria Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yeah...sexy underwear just boosts confidence. It's a girl thing. Wearing it out to a bar when she knows no one is going to see it is probably less of an issue for her than wearing it for you, when she knows you're going to see it. The latter takes more confidence. 1
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I really don't know what to do.. going to see her after work today part of me says ask why she wears sexy stuff to the bar but, afraid to wear it around me, and pay really close attention to her reaction.. other part says let it go, just keep a close eye on her. which I do most the time, I don't think I'm overbearing though last night I really just let her go for the first time, I didn't want to seem nosey at all.. and did not want to interrupt her time out.
venusianx13 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Regardless of if I’m in arelationship or not, when I go out with girlfriends, I still want to look attractive/sexy. I have no intention of cheating or evenflirting, but why should I go out looking like a bum if my girlfriends are all sexed up? Women do this for attention, whether they respond to it or not. It makes us feel good. While on one hand, I don’t feel you have anything to worry about, on the other hand, if your gut is telling you something is wrong, just keep your eyes open. And perhaps instead of telling her you snooped through her laundry (yes, that IS weird), maybe tell her that you felt your interactions were off lately and ask her if there’s anything you should be concerned about. 1
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 She hardly ever gets texts anymore from guys when I'm with her on the weekend.. I looked at her phone one time months ago and a text off went like this.. She had been sexual with him before and was not hiding it Guy: hey how's it going GF: been working really hard GF: miss your hot tub Guy: well your welcome over anytime GF: you're too much of a temptation Guy: nope it's all you Then I came over that night guy sent one more Guy: you out? I admitted I snooped and we talked alot about it, she cried the next day, I thought maybe it was a guilty cry.. she said break up with me now, if you're going to do it.. Now she deletes all her texts right away when they are from guys, she will tell me who they are and what they said tho..
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 her ex texted her late one night a while back when we were sleeping.. she rolled over in bed and seemed to hide them.. Then she smiled and said it was "ex's name".. I said what did he want? she said he asked if she was still seeing someone.. I figure I repost these posts even though they are unrelated, as my two forums were merged.. I think I should let it go for now..
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I really don't know what to do.. going to see her after work today part of me says ask why she wears sexy stuff to the bar but, afraid to wear it around me, and pay really close attention to her reaction.. other part says let it go, just keep a close eye on her. which I do most the time, I don't think I'm overbearing though last night I really just let her go for the first time, I didn't want to seem nosey at all.. and did not want to interrupt her time out. Honestly still unsure, thank you for all the replies!!
truth_seeker Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 I really don't know what to do.. going to see her after work today part of me says ask why she wears sexy stuff to the bar but, afraid to wear it around me, and pay really close attention to her reaction.. other part says let it go, just keep a close eye on her. which I do most the time, I don't think I'm overbearing though last night I really just let her go for the first time, I didn't want to seem nosey at all.. and did not want to interrupt her time out. Honestly still unsure, thank you for all the replies!! I'm sorry you're going through this. It's a terrible feeling. She is bored right now and wants some attention. She knows what she has in you, so now she wants to get some attention from different guys. It's hard, but I would break it off based on the history she has with other men in your town. She has no respect for you by texting an ex-fling and most likely fooling around with him. What I would do: Play it like nothing is bothering you. Make her feel everything is okay. Next night she goes out, whatever belongings you have in her place, grab them, take off. When she comes home and sees you're not there and your stuff is gone, she will get worried and start blowing up your phone. Ignore her. Wait till she actually hunts you down to talk face to face. This is when you give her the brush off. Tell her you're moving onto better things and it doesn't include her. Then you walk away or shut the door on her, depending where the conversation takes place.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 can't move on yet, she treated me like **** all weekend.. Makes me think she is trying to get rid of me but, make it seem unintentional.. Or she feels really guilty about her night out on Thursday.. Friday I texted her and said something was off, she texted how much she missed me and how I make her feel so good, when I got to her place she treated me like **** all Friday night.. I told her she was treating me like ****, and not to treat me this way if she wanted me.. She didn't say much and she started to cry.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 she had a Friends with benefits thing going with him for a while.. You can stop right there. Your GF is way to promiscuous for my personal tastes. Women like that do not suddenly change over night... or stop acting trashy when the right guy shows up. Just dump her and go find a woman with some class. Leave the barflys where they lay.
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