Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 My GF went out with her two girlfriends last night, she doesn't go out with them often, maybe 5 or 6 times since we have been together for 8 months. She usually texts me when she leaves her place, she didn't last night but, had told me her plans...Fine no big deal She was out somewhat late even though she has work real early in the morning..Fine no big deal When she got home I called and asked her how things went.. I always ask about her nights, not suspicious most of the time.. when I asked her she said "it was ok nothing really happened" which was weird. then she told me she had about 4 drinks and went to 2 other bars.. She has dated or hooked up with 2 or 3 regulars at the bar that I know about, before we dated. One of them works there. She doesn't ever go to the bar anymore since we've been together, even when she is out with her friends. So when I came to her place last night I looked in her laundry basket and saw she wore a see thru top.. Which I'm still kind of ok with.. then I see she wore a sexy see thru thong.. Which made me think, She would only wear this if someone was going to see it.. She wears it once in a while, but rarely shows me when she does. She is somewhat insecure around me about her body and doesn't turn around and let me see her in it.. She has put on some weight since we've been together but, alot of guys here still want her, she is not fat.. What would you think if you were me? would you ask about her wearing a thong/ dressing sexy? should I let this one go? She gets very horny after a few drinks and can orgasm through intercourse easier..
january2011 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I find it odd that she would wear provocative items of clothing in public but not in private. Other than that, unless you have any other evidence that she might be cheating, file this away for now.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 It is really bugging me.. I can't get it off my mind.. If I ask her she will be really upset about me being nosey.. She may know something's not right when I see her tonight.
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Bad news my friend, she went out to go on the pull and probably did.
Chi townD Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I would keep an eye on her. Do some snooping. It's one thing to go out dressed rather sexy. But, it's another when part of that sexy dressing involves clothing that you can't see in the general public. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, then go with your gut.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I'm thinking of asking her why she dressed that way, She will be really pissed I snooped, at the same time she should respect my feelings? I don't know this is really bugging me, I can't focus
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I'm thinking of asking her why she dressed that way, She will be really pissed I snooped, at the same time she should respect my feelings? I don't know this is really bugging me, I can't focus
CarrieT Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Without confessing that you looked through her laundry (CREEPY!), there is nothing you can do but wait it out. You pretty much dug your own hole (in dirty clothes) and are going to have to lie there or face the consequences of confessing that you were checking up on her.
Chi townD Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Okay, rule number one. Without concrete evidence, a cheater will NEVER tell you the truth. Even if they admit that something happened, they will only tell you the bare minimum to make it seem not as bad as what it truely is. Therefore, her dressing sexy isn't evidence enough for her to admit to anything. And you're right, she'll turn it on you for snooping. And then you've got nothing. So, my question is does she live with you?
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I stay with her at night , and live with her on the weekends
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, then go with your gut. Dead right, I'm the same, always trust that gut, 99.9% it is right, be patient, the truth always comes out.
Yookie Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I wear sexy underwear when I go out too even though I have no intentions of showing anyone what I'm wearing under my clothes. It just makes you feel sexier and boosts your confidence. Only women can understand this.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 she may notice I did check the laundry, and she will probably know something is off when I see her tonight, when she asks what's wrong.. I'm going to want to tell her.
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I'm thinking of asking her why she dressed that way, She will be really pissed I snooped, at the same time she should respect my feelings? I don't know this is really bugging me, I can't focus Ask all you like, you wont get the 100% truth, think snakes with t.ts
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 Yookie that is interesting and may help me relax some, any other ladies wear sexy underwear with no intentions of showing them? or know someone who does? thank you for your replies
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 mainly just want to ask..How come you don't dress like that when we go out?... You go out to Ladies night with your friends and dress sexy..
KatZee Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yookie that is interesting and may help me relax some, any other ladies wear sexy underwear with no intentions of showing them? or know someone who does? thank you for your replies Yeah, I do this too.
Chi townD Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Well, snooping on her is going to be hard. The only thing you could do is look at her phone when she's in the shower and she what her text logs look like. She who's texting her. Look for numbers that you don't recongize or one specific number that has been called a lot. Write down the number and do a reverse look up to see who's number that belongs to. Do NOT show your sources. Do not accuse her of anything!!!! The more she thinks you're an idiot about what she's doing, the more she's going to screw up. The moment she thinks you're suspicous, then she's going to hide it well, and it's going to be hard to find anthing.
Quiet Storm Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yookie that is interesting and may help me relax some, any other ladies wear sexy underwear with no intentions of showing them? or know someone who does? Yes. Sheer thongs look better under pants. No panty lines.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 She hardly ever gets texts anymore from guys when I'm with her on the weekend.. I looked at her phone one time months ago and a text off went like this.. She had been sexual with him before and was not hiding it Guy: hey how's it going GF: been working really hard GF: miss your hot tub Guy: well your welcome over anytime GF: you're too much of a temptation Guy: nope it's all you Then I came over that night guy sent one more Guy: you out? I admitted I snooped and we talked alot about it, she cried the next day, I thought maybe it was a guilty cry.. she said break up with me now, if you're going to do it.. Now she deletes all her texts right away when they are from guys, she will tell me who they are and what they said tho..
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 her ex texted her late one night a while back when we were sleeping.. she rolled over in bed and seemed to hide them.. Then she smiled and said it was "ex's name".. I said what did he want? she said he asked if she was still seeing someone.. SOrry for rambling
Gab09 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Wow man, that sucks.. I think that insecurity is the worst part, atleast if you knew she cheated, you would have something to grab on to as motivation to break up and move on.. But just not knowing sucks. It is awfully suspicious why she would do such a thing.. Maybe trying to make herself look sexy? Did at any point, did she ever consider calling you up and maybe meeting her up after her night to have sex? The scenarios are endless tbh. I personally would have confronted her, but that's just been me all the time. Again, if you decide to do so, just ask her nicely but intrigued at the same time. Try to notice her reaction, that gives them away a lot of times.
I'm nuts Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Dude, don't waste time on a snake like this, they are pointless, waste of time, go find a nice loyal girl, giver her the boot.
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 I text her a sad face while she was at work today she replied after not responding to my other texts said she was really busy and asked what's wrong? didn't reply yet, She texts a kissing face, didn't reply for 20 mins now look at my phone, she asks if I'm mad at her? sorry for rambling
Author Chong1987 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 @Gab she asked me if I was coming over last night when I called, I said yes.. I usually do and she only had a few hours before work.. I initiated sex with her.
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