BassWalker Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I tried a new tactic in using Facebook in trying to find a suitable girl took hook it up with. Now basically what I had in mind is to first go solely on attraction, then check off certain pro and cons until I came up with a certain number of hopeful candidates. Finally I removed any from the list who weren't single. I was left with three choices and I decided to try this attempt on only one. I went ahead and added her a friend she accepted. I made a few random comments and a liked a few of her comments. Then I wrote a simple I'd like to get to know you message and waited. Well four days have come and gone and no reply. I was hesitant on using facebook but does have the nice option of screening potentials. Anyhow before I go and discount this method, what I would like to know is if my message was clear enough. This is what I wrote: "Hi (her name). I want to try and stick my foot in the door see if I can get to know you. You impressed me on a number of points. Plus you have glam-glam look that I like." Now did I say enough to get the point across that I would like to get know her better? What it be a good idea to use a follow-up message, and if so what we be a good follow up? I just want to have one good attempt and if it doesn't work then I stick with tried and true methods. I just think that either she needs time to think about to reply with or I didn't say what I needed to say in my message. Any advice for this? I'll even take an entire message to resend her for this attempt.
jgregory4614 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 Sounds like it's to late for that. I would'nt send anything else to her. Should have made a better rapport first then pop her with the question of wanting to hang out. The FB theory is a good one I tend to use it myself. Next time use a better pick up line too. Just being honest.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) Doing it through facebook most likely wont work. Women will picture you creepily sending the same message to other women sitting on the computer trying to hook up with women instead of doing it in person, the less creepy way. That isnt attractive because it comes off as cowardly. If you have to resort to messaging strangers on the computer, the perception is that you dont know what youre doing in general since you cant do it in person. So you will not hook up with anyone that way. But if you insist on doing it this way, you have to send her a message that has to do with a post of hers, try to find something in common and build a rapport before telling her youre interested. Just like on dating sites. She will know youre interested in her already when you request her and message her out of the blue. "Hi (her name). I want to try and stick my foot in the door see if I can get to know you. You impressed me on a number of points. Plus you have glam-glam look that I like." What youre telling her here is that that you dont think youre good enough for her, ( to SEE if you can get to know her) but youre going to try to be cocky by seeing if she will impress you. Thats too direct and they see right through it. Instead, Comment on something she said, dont ask her anything, but make it so compelling that she has to respond. Edited September 9, 2012 by Eddie Edirol
bdash Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 If you are adding/talking to girls you have never met this is going to come off very creepy to them. If youve met the girls first you should just try to get their number and leave fb out of the picture. If, for whatever reason, you don't have their number try and start a conversation over fb. For instance I once did this by asking a girl about an assignment in a class I was in. She was talkative and it turned into a conversation, and eventually lunch.
Shaun-Dro Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 (edited) I tried a new tactic in using Facebook in trying to find a suitable girl took hook it up with. Now basically what I had in mind is to first go solely on attraction, then check off certain pro and cons until I came up with a certain number of hopeful candidates. Finally I removed any from the list who weren't single. I was left with three choices and I decided to try this attempt on only one. I went ahead and added her a friend she accepted. I made a few random comments and a liked a few of her comments. Then I wrote a simple I'd like to get to know you message and waited. Well four days have come and gone and no reply. I was hesitant on using facebook but does have the nice option of screening potentials. Anyhow before I go and discount this method, what I would like to know is if my message was clear enough. This is what I wrote: "Hi (her name). I want to try and stick my foot in the door see if I can get to know you. You impressed me on a number of points. Plus you have glam-glam look that I like." Now did I say enough to get the point across that I would like to get know her better? What it be a good idea to use a follow-up message, and if so what we be a good follow up? I just want to have one good attempt and if it doesn't work then I stick with tried and true methods. I just think that either she needs time to think about to reply with or I didn't say what I needed to say in my message. Any advice for this? I'll even take an entire message to resend her for this attempt. I find Facebook a waste of time in pursuing women because 9 out of 10 times they won't reply unless they're really attracted to you or at least know you a little bit from a another friend's circle. Most Facebook women only use the network to either connect with real life associates or for validation, period. Edited September 10, 2012 by Shaun-Dro error
Author BassWalker Posted September 10, 2012 Author Posted September 10, 2012 Yeah all great advice. I should have posted something before I made that dumb decision, but lesson learned.
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