For the women: turned on by guys who play chess?

[Eclypse]

Here's a question for the ladies. Are you turned on by men who enjoy intellectual hobbies such as chess for example. I used to be on the school team and was actually quite good. Last few months I've gotten back into it and been playing heaps online. It's a heck of a lot more fun than getting wasted at clubs. So if you were talking to a man and it emerged he enjoyed chess, would that increase his value in your eyes? Or is it considered a nerdy pastime?

[SmileFace]

For me yes. However it should have a balance. Intellectual, educational, recreational and social outings.

[Janesays]

It wouldn't increase or decrease my opinion of him. Everyone I know plays chess. Now, if he could beat me, THAT would be different.

[Emilia]

I don't mind nerdy, chess is cool

[Els]

Not necessarily chess, but intellectual hobbies, definitely. Always fun to have someone to play with.

[El Brujo]

Funny, when I asked that very same question a couple of months ago, women replied with a lot of negativity.

 

Maybe I have B.O. or something...

[KathyM]

Turned on by that isn't the word for it, but I'd certainly have more respect for a man who knew how to play. I think the ability to play chess shows the guy has some intelligence, some patience, some perseverence and some planning skills. My first blind date with my husband consisted of double-dating with my sister and her boyfriend, and at the end of the date, after visiting for awhile, he asked if I played chess, and we spent some time doing that on our first date. He's very good at it, and I could give him a challenge as well. We taught our sons to play also. I wouldn't recommend suggesting to the girl to play it that much though, because generally people are most impressed by more exciting activities, so I wouldn't make too big of a deal out of it.

[Untouchable_Fire]

I think women like it better than guys who play Dungeons and Dragons.

[Ugh1]

Not necessarily turn me on, but it would definitely make me feel more like this could be a relationship eventually. This is because I want my mate to be intelligent. It takes some intelligence to play chess and to enjoy chess.

[GirlontheLam]

Not a turn on, not a turn off. But I would love to play with you!

 

I generally am more excited about nerdy guys in general, and focus on meeting them. So the activities that are like bonus points for me are the creative interests: music, arts, writing, cooking..... Oh and being able to dance is bonus points.

 

Playing chess just makes me assume you are at least a little nerdy, which is basically a requirement in my book.

[Art_Critic]

All guys play chess... dating is a chess match, it's all about the checkmate

[denise_xo]

Chess isn't really a criteria for me one way or the other. But I like men with intellectual hobbies/ interests.

[Disillusioned]

Chess is one thing, but you never want tp play Scrabble against any woman who can't spell and has a temper like a volcano.

 

Trust me on that.

[jobaba]

Things like hobbies cannot create attraction. They can give you points if she already is physically attracted to you.

 

Trust me on this one. My hobby is a lot cooler than chess.

[gaius]

No women find chess sexy.

[TheFinalWord]

Here's a question for the ladies. Are you turned on by men who enjoy intellectual hobbies such as chess for example. I used to be on the school team and was actually quite good. Last few months I've gotten back into it and been playing heaps online. It's a heck of a lot more fun than getting wasted at clubs. So if you were talking to a man and it emerged he enjoyed chess, would that increase his value in your eyes? Or is it considered a nerdy pastime?

 

Basically, do women like nerds? Yeah, lots do. Lots don't too. Just find a nerdy girl and you'll have a match made in heaven.

 

PS: By nerd, I mean someone that enjoys intellectually stimulating activities, hobbies, i.e. you take a college class for fun. Different from a geek, which is a nerd combined with social awkwardness, i.e. Kip. And even Kip got married lol

 

[Forever Learning]

I think smart men are extremely sexy. And those with hobbies, and skills, and interests.

[Els]

No women find chess sexy.

 

My bf used to play in tournaments.

 

Chess is one thing, but you never want tp play Scrabble against any woman who can't spell and has a temper like a volcano.

 

Trust me on that.

 

Pff, the Scrabble dictionary is chock-full of words that most people wouldn't consider words anyway. Cwm aalii qi xi zo?

 

Things like hobbies cannot create attraction. They can give you points if she already is physically attracted to you.

 

Trust me on this one. My hobby is a lot cooler than chess.

 

Oh, certainly, this goes without saying. I don't think anyone is assuming that playing chess is ALL they have to do to get a mate. At least, I would hope not, because that would say a lot more about their intellect than whether or not they do play chess.

[threebyfate]

I think smart men are extremely sexy. And those with hobbies, and skills, and interests.

Well said!

 

H and I play chess sometimes. Whomever wins gets to call the shots for the rest of the night which results in some creativity.

[CarrieT]

No women find chess sexy.

 

I do. And the fact that my BF sings sea chanties and Russian liturgical songs, knows the

by heart and can talk at length about space travel, WWII, and medicine just makes me weak in the knees.... :love:

[Necris]

Basically, do women like nerds? Yeah, lots do. Lots don't too. Just find a nerdy girl and you'll have a match made in heaven.

 

PS: By nerd, I mean someone that enjoys intellectually stimulating activities, hobbies, i.e. you take a college class for fun. Different from a geek, which is a nerd combined with social awkwardness, i.e. Kip. And even Kip got married lol

 

 

Yeah I don't think women like the more "geeky" type of men, I'm extremely nerdy myself but I'm also extremely socially awkward so I don't get any female attention. I do have a little brother whose a little less nerdy, perhaps slightly more socially awkward, but also a little better looking than I am so while he also hasn't ever had a girlfriend (he probably needs to approach more) he does actually get girls talking to him.

[darkmoon]

i'm a female chess-player, been out with two chess-playing guys, something in common plenty to talk about, but not a must

[Taramere]

I like to have a game of chess now and again, but I'm not "turned on" by it. I'm trying to imagine how a game of chess could be incorporated into some sort of sexual role playing. You'd have to have a special chess set made up of naked figures. Maybe every time one of your pieces got taken, you'd have to remove an item of clothing or perform a sex act on the other person. There's probably a chess porn film out there somewhere, where the pieces perform atrocious sex/torture acts on eachother.

 

To be honest, though, I'd like to keep the sex out of chess. Especially as it's a game I sometimes play with other family members. I would be pleased if a male partner played it, but it wouldn't be something to get wet about.

[Crusoe]

There's probably a chess porn film out there somewhere

 

One where Bishops take Queens? They like to keep that very hush, hush.

[Taramere]

One where Bishops take Queens? They like to keep that very hush, hush.

 

I'm more worried about allegations of bestiality involving the Knights.