Cbbwink Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Let me start by saying this is such a awesome forum. Anyways its been 4 months since I came out of a 3 year relationship with my first love. First everything, trips, pics, the whole thing. It was hard. I always convinced my self if I improve my self she will get jealous and will be dieing to have me back. Dont focus on this idea, you will only set your self up to fail. Comparing my self to the day we broke up a lot has changed. I forced my self to hangout with anyone all the time, I go to the gym now, I go to school, I have so much to be grateful for. Now I was stuck on this "edge" for a while now and the "edge" for me was no closure. I did NC for 4 months and I got curious and went on her twitter. I found out she must have cheated on me and that she is in relationship. I was in shock at first but I went for a walk. I found my self getting angry, sad, jealous, then finally I realized, im free. I have so much to be thankful for, and realized that everyone has a relationship in there life but always find someone new. My advice is, find what makes you happy not who makes you happy and life will throw you a bone and lead you to another love. I haven't found it or even came close but I believe shes out there. Im excited about my new life, I go out, I see friends, I upgrade my self all the time, and I guarantee ill bump into someone perfect sooner or later (; Keep improving, make your self into a icon, dont kick you self, go out, do different, be free, be optimistic! Things really do get better! 3
g450 Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Very well said. Most people here who are fresh out of a breakup or are in the process of ending a marriage just dont get that. Stay here for a while and help others get that message. Some will but sadly most some wont. I personally would have left this forum a year or more ago but I like to think Im helping people by posting. Even if it means telling them what they dont want to hear. Logic sometimes goes out the window when we are emotionally raped and having to start life all over again. It traumatic I know. Been there done that but I try to help people out when I can.
fallenheart Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Sorry OP, but life does not "throw you a bone." The people we loved left us for a reason....we weren't good enough, and we never will be. They are happier and more fulfilled without us. They will never look back. We aren't the ones "better off".....they are! We will not "find someone new." The only thing life gives us is pain.
Calico Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 The people we loved left us for a reason....we weren't good enough, and we never will be. They are happier and more fulfilled without us. They will never look back. We aren't the ones "better off".....they are! Perhaps the people who left us weren't good enough for us! Maybe we are better off without those who ... ... can't communicate, ... can't deal with conflict, ... are shallow and always go for the easy route, ... aren't considerate, ... lack compassion and maturity, ... need a new and shiny toy to get validation, ... are so spineless that they listen to "friends" and society, ... are too weak to work through conflict, ... betrayed us when we needed them the most, ... never loved us as much as we loved them. We will not "find someone new." The only thing life gives us is pain. With that outlook on life, yes, that's what you are likely to get. It's a matter of perception. Getting dumped sucks, I'm going through the worst time of my life so far, I barely eat, my work suffers, I dread every night and the dreams it brings, but I will not lay down and play dead! My heart is broken, my self-esteem is in shambles, and I'm lonely, sad, depressed, needy and desperate, but you know what? I will NOT let this break my soul on top of everything! And neither should you. 3
Sameold Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Too right Calico! Keep going buddy we are all here for you!
DBella Posted September 9, 2012 Posted September 9, 2012 Great post! Yes, things do get better, just gotta be patient and while you wait for that special person to come across your life, you do things to better yourself that way you feel happy with the person you are.
riverratt Posted September 10, 2012 Posted September 10, 2012 Perhaps the people who left us weren't good enough for us! Maybe we are better off without those who ... ... can't communicate, ... can't deal with conflict, ... are shallow and always go for the easy route, ... aren't considerate, ... lack compassion and maturity, ... need a new and shiny toy to get validation, ... are so spineless that they listen to "friends" and society, ... are too weak to work through conflict, ... betrayed us when we needed them the most, ... never loved us as much as we loved them. Thanks...This was great....
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