Newflor32 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 (edited) Well..... I havent posted on here in quite awhile but just wanted to share a little about the last few months. This break up has been the worst experience of my life thus far and the only two things that truly helped was distance(nc) from the ex and time. Its approaching 4 yrs since actual break up but it was back and forth for a peroid of time. The last time i saw him was when my divorce was finalized in january. He acted as if all was well between us and that i had been hiding from him. In fact, i needed to get over that person and the pain i experienced. I can truly say i have moved on but this doesnt mean i have forgotten everything that happened. It simply means i have accepted it and no longer see this person as my present nor future but rather as apart of my past. I no longer wake up or go to bed thinking of him nor do i go around thinking what goin on in his life. Until ur focus is youself and not your ex, you havent moved on. My point to this post is we never know what may happen. I have forgiven n moved on. The ex called my dad to have me call him( i changed my number) but what could he possibly have to say that I care to hear? NOTHING! I dont hate him but i dont like the person he truly is. I has visit my house 4 times during the summer inquiring about me(which he has never done)..... His relationship may be in trouble, he may want to get back together or he may just wanna talk. Whatever whichever it is, it really doesnt matter as i can finally say the same words he said to me ' im just not there anymore and it feels good to to feel that after all the things we went through. My ex prior to him has resurfaced and wants to explore a new relationship. Im not there either but lesson in this all is both exes decided to end relationship for different reasons and while it hurts in beginning we must take these paths. Always love n respect ur partner no matter what and fix the things u can when you are given the chance to cause sometimes u dont always get a second chance at that relationship. After u have tried ur best, n given it ur all in the end you will know you gave it a fighting chance on your part. Take care of ur broken heart and everything will work out just fine. Edited September 7, 2012 by Newflor32
beyond Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Well..... I havent posted on here in quite awhile but just wanted to share a little about the last few months. This break up has been the worst experience of my life thus far and the only two things that truly helped was distance(nc) from the ex and time. Its approaching 4 yrs since actual break up but it was back and forth for a peroid of time. The last time i saw him was when my divorce was finalized in january. He acted as if all was well between us and that i had been hiding from him. In fact, i needed to get over that person and the pain i experienced. I can truly say i have moved on but this doesnt mean i have forgotten everything that happened. It simply means i have accepted it and no longer see this person as my present nor future but rather as apart of my past. I no longer wake up or go to bed thinking of him nor do i go around thinking what goin on in his life. Until ur focus is youself and not your ex, you havent moved on. My point to this post is we never know what may happen. I have forgiven n moved on. The ex called my dad to have me call him( i changed my number) but what could he possibly have to say that I care to hear? NOTHING! I dont hate him but i dont like the person he truly is. I has visit my house 4 times during the summer inquiring about me(which he has never done)..... His relationship may be in trouble, he may want to get back together or he may just wanna talk. Whatever whichever it is, it really doesnt matter as i can finally say the same words he said to me ' im just not there anymore and it feels good to to feel that after all the things we went through. My ex prior to him has resurfaced and wants to explore a new relationship. Im not there either but lesson in this all is both exes decided to end relationship for different reasons and while it hurts in beginning we must take these paths. Always love n respect ur partner no matter what and fix the things u can when you are given the chance to cause sometimes u dont always get a second chance at that relationship. After u have tried ur best, n given it ur all in the end you will know you gave it a fighting chance on your part. Take care of ur broken heart and everything will work out just fine. Really like this post NF. You seem to have really accepted the relationship for what it was and hold neither bitterness for what happened nor false hope for getting back together. Anyone struggling with NC will do well to read this and learn from it. Thank you for sharing xx
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