Communication Frustrations

[lsunshine]

Hey, is it just me or do you find it frustrating having difficulty communicating in your relationship while not wanting to go to a relationship counselor?

 

What do you guys do?

[Larj87]

My hubby and I have frequent "miscommunications" On a day to day basis I have to say that normally they aren't huge miscommunications but on the occasion we have what I would rather call "misunderstandings" or "misinterpretations" We solve our misunderstandings by sitting down and simply talking about them and even when I get frustrated and want to walk away he will not move until the misunderstanding is understood. For us it's simple, he talks I listen, I talk he listens. We come to a mutual understanding and that's usually it. Somethings come back up in conversations down the road and we get a little defensive here and there but it's the general understanding that we have for one another that helps. If something is not understood or I don't understand why he thinks a certain way I ask questions and he does the same. Sometimes it's as simple as why and other times it gets more in depth. Talking is the best way to solve any communication issue and figuring out what the "miscommunication" is! Good luck!

[Silly_Girl]

In my view NO relationship can flourish without strong communication.

 

It's a question of finding what works for you. Taking that to an extreme, I had a long relationship with an angry person and so we would start the most difficult conversations on MSN (no lie!!) even in the same house. It meant we could identify the issues clearly and without giving off a blame vibe. After a while that was tiresome and we'd start talking face to face.

 

Sometimes being out on a nice walk is a great way to start a constructive, low-conflict discussion, where you aren't 'facing up to each other' and there are distractions but you can share views and thoughts.

 

What specifically are you struggling with?