Romantic_Lefty Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 This is my heartbreak story. Feel free to read and comment and I’ll try to keep it as short as possible. Back in High School, my junior year, I got soo completely captivated by this girl. You know, the whole shpeel. Loving the way she walks, talks, etc. But not until my senior year was I able to literally win her over, as another guy wanted to date her too. Life couldn’t have been better that whole year. We even had no problem with wanting to continue our relationship after I went to college and she had her senior year to complete. And there again with a long distance relationship, there were no major hookups. Not counting the times she called missing me. It was her first relationship and serious one. But shortly after our two year anniversary and nearing summer, she just, dropped off. Lost interest it seemed and idk. After some fights, she broke up with me saying we shouldn’t be fighting and her mom and friends say she needs to get out there. She greatly values her mom with her dad leaving her mom and shes the only one whose been around. I have always understood and respected that. Anyways, at the end of that summer with pretty much NC, she texted me. Feelings of regret for listening to her mom, thinking she made the wrong choice, wondering how I felt, etc. After talking it through for several days, and being an honest man, I told her I did still have feelings for her and wanted to get back together. But, she couldn’t tell her mom or even put It on facebook that we were dating again. Again, I understood her situation and went through with secretly dating her, probably ignoring better judgement. So going into my third year of college and her second year, we saw each other. I always had to sneak around or plan even the simplest of hangouts ahead of time. Dates were next to impossible. And yeah, I do enjoy taking a girl out on a date, I get to show her off and have fun with her. So for a couple months, I was publicly her friend and introduced that way to friends she just met. And then she just dropped off again, saying she wanted her freedom and she still loved me but couldn’t keep this up. Ughhh, giving soo much to only end up back alone again is such a bitch! So I deleted her number from my phone, unfriended her on fb, got rid of some stuff I actually liked that I got from her (college clubhead covers) and tried to move on. It went on like this into the second semester of my third year in college, absolutely noo contact. And just when I start believing I’m over her, I meet a girl. She was beautiful, nice, fun, and wasn’t afraid to drink! Sounds pretty awesome doesn’t it guys? But low and behold, guess who texts me outta the blue? Yeah, I could still tell it was her number. She was upset I was dating someone else. Still trying to get over her, I tried to stay strong and didn’t give her much. But after about a week of her texting and wondering about me, and telling me of the good times we use to have, I gave in. I also realized that I do have feelings for my ex whether I liked it or not. At the time I did what I thought was best, and told my then current gf that it wasn’t fair if I dated her still having these feelings. About a week later, I met with my ex to talk, completely trying to go into it with the realization that I probably shouldn’t get back with her. And one of the first questions I ended up asking her is if she was serious about us again and really thought our relationship would go somewhere. So we tried again. And this went on really well other than the sneaking around for a good 6 months. And right before summer ended she seemed soo excited to be going back to school so we could see each other more. Then the first day hit. And once again she just dropped off the table in interest. Saying she had other friends she wanted to hang out with too, even though we hadn’t seen each other in three weeks. I feel like I’ve been here before because I know I have and I still don’t know what to do, why does she always do this? Why does it have to hurt so much? Am I the idiot for ever taking her back? Does she just like the idea of me and not me?
Calico Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Am I the idiot for ever taking her back? Does she just like the idea of me and not me? She's just young and exploring relationships, trying to find out who she is, what she wants, and all that. I wouldn't read too much into her behavior, and she's probably always been fairly honest with you, both when she wanted to be with you and when she said she'd like to hang out with other people. No, you're not an idiot for taking her back. It's what felt right at the time and you did have another six months of shared time, which at your age is a pretty long time. Those moments of romance, longing and quite possibly fantastic sex won't be taken away from you. The pain is normal. It takes time for it to get better. If you can, avoid contact with her and don't chase after her. What happened to the sexy girl you had met? The one who would even drink with you? Any other girls around that you are curious about?
Author Romantic_Lefty Posted September 9, 2012 Author Posted September 9, 2012 Having a boyfriend yet not telling him you went to a party with other guys and then texting him your drunk on a Wednesday night after just getting accepted into the pharmacy program, oh and then hanging up on him when he tries to see if your alright annd letting a guy wrap his arm across your chest (fb photo)...isn't exploring, thats sketchy as all hell in my book. But i do see what your trying to say. thats just not the case i don't think. Other people i have talked to mostly agree. Its just time for me to try and forget her and move on...she was being immature and full of herself not valueing what she had in front of her. In regards to the other girl. I thought i was doing the right thing by letting her go because i still had feelings for my ex. I still stand by that although it just adds to the pain to see someone as fun as her now in a relationship and makes me wonder. And as far as other girls? well ya know, trying to keep my hopes up and options open! thanks for the input again!
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