Tabatha1000 Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 Yeah I know, I should feel proud to be with such a hot guy, but seriously, we can't even drive down the road without some woman walking past, grinning at him while we're stopped at lights. We walk through town and he gets smiled at or stared at. He gets flirted with by co-workers, friends, strangers. I feel like I'm married to a rock star or something. I find myself feeling jealous and I know it's unreasonable, but still.. damn. Do any of you get jealous by your SO getting stared at or flirted with so frequently? Or am I just being a nut lol? And yeah he's always telling me that i'm beautiful and that I have no reason to worry etc.
kae Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 my ex-boyfriend was like that. honestly i had no issues with it except that slowly i felt like he started to underappreciate me but he was a selfish sociopath. I think the real problem is how women have a lack of respect for eachothers relationships. women are predators is what i learnt with my cute ex. my friends my sister everyone was weak in his presence.. which is funny cuz i wasnt even intially attracted to him.. um someone told me to ignore it. i find this advice to be true. Mind games/wars are created by accepting information. Dont`accpet it and it wont matter. he will sense it and feel you are confident and they will sense it and feel threatened.. and back off or take it to a overtly obviouse level your man will feel disgusted by their advances.. so play it cool.. and you win. good luck...
LadyGrey Posted September 6, 2012 Posted September 6, 2012 The bigger question should be is what does your husband do when he gets that attention? What is his reaction? Does he do anything to instigate getting this attention?
KathyM Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Yeah I know, I should feel proud to be with such a hot guy, but seriously, we can't even drive down the road without some woman walking past, grinning at him while we're stopped at lights. We walk through town and he gets smiled at or stared at. He gets flirted with by co-workers, friends, strangers. I feel like I'm married to a rock star or something. I find myself feeling jealous and I know it's unreasonable, but still.. damn. Do any of you get jealous by your SO getting stared at or flirted with so frequently? Or am I just being a nut lol? And yeah he's always telling me that i'm beautiful and that I have no reason to worry etc. I'm in the same boat--my husband has a handsome face, a fit and muscular physique, and a charming personality; consequently, women will hit on him or convey the message that they are interested. He gets this reaction from clients, from business associates, acquaintances, and strangers out and about. I don't feel jealous, since I'm confident in our relationship and what I have to offer, but I do sometimes get annoyed if women are too blatant or persistent about it. I've taught my husband how to set appropriate boundaries with these people, and how to discourage them, and he does a pretty good job of that.
anne1707 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 I've taught my husband how to set appropriate boundaries with these people, and how to discourage them, and he does a pretty good job of that. You've taught him??? Sorry but if I had to teach my husband to do/not do something, he would not be the man for me and I would not be the woman for him. 1
KathyM Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 You've taught him??? Sorry but if I had to teach my husband to do/not do something, he would not be the man for me and I would not be the woman for him. The more blatant things he would know how to deal with, but when you have clients and business associates who need to be in contact, it gets a little tricky with where the line should be drawn, and that is where I come in. I've studied all about proper boundaries in a marriage, being that I'm getting into the field of marriage counseling, so I do discuss boundaries with him and how they should be set. For example, there's one client in particular who I know has a romantic interest in him, and she has told him that if he weren't married, she'd want to be with him, and she does things that show interest above what a client would normally do, such as calling him under the guise of business during non-business hours and then turning the conversation into other topics, or hanging around him much more than she needs to for business. (I hear this from other people who witness this, plus I can witness it for myself with the phone calls while I'm in the room, the Emails that are non-business related, which he never responds to, but she keeps sending. With strangers who come onto him, he knows what to do. One women came up to him in the grocery store, complimented his hair, and then touched it. He stepped away and just mumbled a thank you. Those types of things are more cut and dried how to set boundaries with people, but when it is people you know and the interest they show is less obvious, it becomes more tricky how to set those boundaries, and I have studied and discussed the topic with him. He's good at setting those boundaries now with people. 1
whichwayisup Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 The bigger question should be is what does your husband do when he gets that attention? What is his reaction? Does he do anything to instigate getting this attention? This is it exactly. If he is just enjoying it for what is, be proud that you have a hot husband that many women desire. You love and trust him, right? Try not to worry...
Summer Breeze Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 My daughter is engaged to someone who is a professional model and as much time as I spend with them I've never seen women do such things. I'll have to ask her if she's come across it but in the 3 years they've been together she's never mentioned it. I've actually never seen a woman going ga ga over someone in the street like that but hey, it must happen. I have a question for you OP. Why are you posting this in the OW forum?
Author Tabatha1000 Posted September 7, 2012 Author Posted September 7, 2012 He's very friendly and does smile back sometimes but he says that he's just being a human being and not flirting back. When women are blatantly obvious he slips into the conversation in a subtle way how he's married and happy. The woman who grinned at him while we were both in the car this week made it so obvious and not once did she acknowledge I was sat next to him. As she was walking up the road while we were stopped at lights he looked at her and commented on how much she looked like a younger version of his boss. I guess she saw him looking and thought he was checking her out in front of me (which he wasn't) and she responded to that. I guess I can't be mad at him for giving her that impression since it's not his fault how she interpreted it but it did tick me off. I know he behaves in a way that is good regarding women who flirt, but by nature he is extremely friendly and kind to people so I do feel that his friendliness can be misinterpreted by other women, particularly those who have the hots for him. Sometimes I struggle to suppress jealousy over it but I am trying really hard to not let it bother me. He's not a model or anything but he does have an extremely handsome face and good physique so he does get noticed a LOT. Thankyou so much for the replies. Sometimes it's hard to talk about these things without sounding like a jealous control freak.
Hawaii50 Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Just wait till you put a ring on it You women love a man with a ring!
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