Any Dumpers here, How do you feel about your ex?

[blue_jay_bird]

I'v found it interesting to talk to dumpers. You see how much they just don't care. How much they just aren't interested. This help's me reflect and understand how my ex feel's. And how we are completely on a different page, when it comes to how we feel about each other.

 

Any Dumpers here, How do you feel about your ex?

[Tree_Salmon]

I'v found it interesting to talk to dumpers. You see how much they just don't care. How much they just aren't interested. This help's me reflect and understand how my ex feel's. And how we are completely on a different page, when it comes to how we feel about each other.

 

Any Dumpers here, How do you feel about your ex?

 

I love my ex still. Just as much as ever but I know its a mess.

 

Not every situation is the same though.

[Mike_d]

my ex is human -flawed, twisted up, suffering, but I still love the hell out of that girl. I honestly doubt I could ever love someone else like I love her, but I remain very open to the possibility of love if the universe decides that this is in my future. I'm still dealing with the shock of knowing that I won't spend the rest of my life with her, that's always been like the sun coming up in the east, and humans breathe air, where the other immutable fact was that this was my partner. I'm torn apart by whats happened, and still too dazed to be much more than a blob of flesh occupying space still. but we both know this is for the best in the end, but the level of pain is unlike anything I've ever experienced. there isn't a moment that goes by during the day that she is not on my mind front and center. I'm working towards better balance and forward movement, soon I hope, because that life is dead, I just need to stop giving mouth to mouth to the corpse of the past that no longer exists. miss you baby more than I can ever begin to describe

[Squidoo]

I adore my ex, and it was the biggest mistake I could of made. We split 3 months ago and haven't gone more than 2 weeks without contact in that time. But I can't seem to find a way back to him. I think about him daily, he is never far from my thoughts.

[blue_jay_bird]

my ex is human -flawed, twisted up, suffering, but I still love the hell out of that girl. I honestly doubt I could ever love someone else like I love her, but I remain very open to the possibility of love if the universe decides that this is in my future. I'm still dealing with the shock of knowing that I won't spend the rest of my life with her, that's always been like the sun coming up in the east, and humans breathe air, where the other immutable fact was that this was my partner. I'm torn apart by whats happened, and still too dazed to be much more than a blob of flesh occupying space still. but we both know this is for the best in the end, but the level of pain is unlike anything I've ever experienced. there isn't a moment that goes by during the day that she is not on my mind front and center. I'm working towards better balance and forward movement, soon I hope, because that life is dead, I just need to stop giving mouth to mouth to the corpse of the past that no longer exists. miss you baby more than I can ever begin to describe

 

 

You sound very much in love, and you dumped her. Have you thought of going back, why not?

[fucpcg]

my ex is human -flawed, twisted up, suffering, but I still love the hell out of that girl. I honestly doubt I could ever love someone else like I love her, but I remain very open to the possibility of love if the universe decides that this is in my future. I'm still dealing with the shock of knowing that I won't spend the rest of my life with her, that's always been like the sun coming up in the east, and humans breathe air, where the other immutable fact was that this was my partner. I'm torn apart by whats happened, and still too dazed to be much more than a blob of flesh occupying space still. but we both know this is for the best in the end, but the level of pain is unlike anything I've ever experienced. there isn't a moment that goes by during the day that she is not on my mind front and center. I'm working towards better balance and forward movement, soon I hope, because that life is dead, I just need to stop giving mouth to mouth to the corpse of the past that no longer exists. miss you baby more than I can ever begin to describe

 

Wow, I feel you.

[Tree_Salmon]

my ex is human -flawed, twisted up, suffering, but I still love the hell out of that girl. I honestly doubt I could ever love someone else like I love her, but I remain very open to the possibility of love if the universe decides that this is in my future. I'm still dealing with the shock of knowing that I won't spend the rest of my life with her, that's always been like the sun coming up in the east, and humans breathe air, where the other immutable fact was that this was my partner. I'm torn apart by whats happened, and still too dazed to be much more than a blob of flesh occupying space still. but we both know this is for the best in the end, but the level of pain is unlike anything I've ever experienced. there isn't a moment that goes by during the day that she is not on my mind front and center. I'm working towards better balance and forward movement, soon I hope, because that life is dead, I just need to stop giving mouth to mouth to the corpse of the past that no longer exists. miss you baby more than I can ever begin to describe

 

This is how I still feel. But it changes nothing

[barese1]

I've dumped in the past and I guess my current ex who dumped me probably feels this way about me too now...

 

I'm really happy for the time we spent together and I think you're a great person. I really did like you but you weren't the one for me. Sorry but I just don't see you in that way at all and I see myself with someone else.

 

Easier to be in that position then on the recieving end of it!

[oldshirt]

It's actually rare for guys to be the dumper unless there is some kind of cheating or something really bad happening. Usually guys just stop calling or stop coming around.

 

That being said however I have been the dumper in two serious LTRs and a couple lesser relationships.

 

In all of those instances I harbored no ill-will or animosity or bitterness towards any of them. I still thought of them as good people and I still cared about them and wished them no harm or pain.

 

To this day I see one periodically where I work and while I have no romantic/sexual feelings for her I don't have any bad blood toward her either.

 

In all the cases I did not dump them because they did anything wrong or bad and there was no "event." I just grew increasingly disconnected and disinvested in them and in the relationship untill I realized that they weren't "the one" and I wanted to move on in search of 'the one.'

 

I wished them well and I while I can't say I never felt a little bit of wierdness when they found other people and married etc, I was glad for them that they found someone special in their lives that worked out for them.

[barese1]

It's actually rare for guys to be the dumper unless there is some kind of cheating or something really bad happening. Usually guys just stop calling or stop coming around.

 

That being said however I have been the dumper in two serious LTRs and a couple lesser relationships.

 

In all of those instances I harbored no ill-will or animosity or bitterness towards any of them. I still thought of them as good people and I still cared about them and wished them no harm or pain.

 

To this day I see one periodically where I work and while I have no romantic/sexual feelings for her I don't have any bad blood toward her either.

 

In all the cases I did not dump them because they did anything wrong or bad and there was no "event." I just grew increasingly disconnected and disinvested in them and in the relationship untill I realized that they weren't "the one" and I wanted to move on in search of 'the one.'

 

I wished them well and I while I can't say I never felt a little bit of wierdness when they found other people and married etc, I was glad for them that they found someone special in their lives that worked out for them.

 

That bit in bold is what hurts the dumpees. We used to have romantic feelings from the dumpers but when they dump they get over that soon. As dumpees we still have this which is why its so hard!

[blue_jay_bird]

It's actually rare for guys to be the dumper unless there is some kind of cheating or something really bad happening. Usually guys just stop calling or stop coming around.

 

That being said however I have been the dumper in two serious LTRs and a couple lesser relationships.

 

In all of those instances I harbored no ill-will or animosity or bitterness towards any of them. I still thought of them as good people and I still cared about them and wished them no harm or pain.

 

To this day I see one periodically where I work and while I have no romantic/sexual feelings for her I don't have any bad blood toward her either.

 

In all the cases I did not dump them because they did anything wrong or bad and there was no "event." I just grew increasingly disconnected and disinvested in them and in the relationship untill I realized that they weren't "the one" and I wanted to move on in search of 'the one.'

 

I wished them well and I while I can't say I never felt a little bit of wierdness when they found other people and married etc, I was glad for them that they found someone special in their lives that worked out for them.

 

To me this is what bothers me. I was once the "the one" and now im not. Hurts to lose the person you think is "the one".

[red.velvet]

I still love my ex, I think of him a lot and wish him the best. He will be a great boyfriend to the right girl.

[youngnlove89]

I broke up with 2 guys in my past.

 

The first guy I broke up with because I had absolutely no feelings for him. After 8 months of trying to get feelings for him, I couldn't fake it anymore. He was a great guy, Mr. Perfect actually, but no chemistry. I didn't regret it ever. I didn't think about him either after the breakup although he was very hurt from it. I stayed his friend but eventually he went full NC because he couldn't handle being just friends. Good for him.

 

The second guy I broke up with was a guy that originally broke up with me first, then we got back together after he realized he made a mistake, then I broke up with him because in that time of our breakup, I had moved on emotionally. When we got back together I realized I didn't want to be with someone who didn't know what they had when they had it. I couldn't trust him anymore, I was afraid he would break up again. I lost all feelings.

 

I have no feelings for either ex-bf. And I am relieved they are out of my life. I treasure the memories, but that is it.

 

Would I be friends with them? No, because they still have feelings for me and they will take everything I say into hope that I might like them again. (the second ex still tries to reconnect with me at least once a week after we broke up 3 years ago!) I don't want to confuse their feelings, they need to move on. I'm going NC so they can learn to live without me, because I am not coming back.

 

I love them as a person. I care for them. Love may be a lot, but sometimes it's not enough.

[DuvalDown]

I love my ex. But we've only been broken up for 24 hours and have a 10 month old son together.

 

I love her so much and I miss her desperately right now. But it's like when she was around I needed my space. It was either be smothered or lose the blanket. I thought I was the tough guy and I'd 'lose the blanket' but now im sitting here shivering in the cold.

 

I got like some kind of weird power trip when I told her I couldn't do it anymore. Seeing how hurt she was kinda made me feel like 'man this girl loves you so much, tell her you want out, she'll coming running back to you if you change your mind'.

 

Maybe I'm a narcassist I don't know. But the only person who's trying to make contact is me and I'm getting the cold shoulder.

 

I love her and I have had a few 'hers'.

[blue_jay_bird]

wow that sounds to messed up on your part. I personally think the more upset, mean the more hurt she is, the higher... much high chance, if you ask her back, she will say NO.

[Sav]

I still love my ex that I dumped 2.5 years ago . I do miss her still, but things just werent right for us