Why is my ex so nosey?

[Consultant]

So I have written a post about my breakup here before. But basically I got into a relationship when I was in college with a girl and we were together for 4 years, engaged, and then she broke it off. We were best friends but definitely lost some of the spark we had early in our relationship. She told me she wasnt "in love" with me anymore, dumped me, and immediately got into a relationship with another guy. This was a little over a month ago.

 

I have been going no contact since, although occasionally she reaches out to me about "logistical" things that need to get done (i.e., "do you have any of my mail?", "I think I left something there that I need", "I am getting the cable transferred and need the equipment"). This means I need to see her more often than I would like but still at most maybe once or twice every 2 weeks.

 

Every time I talk with her or see her, she asks if I am dating someone else. She says "we are FRIENDS, friends tell each other these things". I have told her its none of her business and I don't want to know about her love life either. Despite telling her this multiple times, she always moves a relatively superficial conversation to this topic. One time she even asked me "was I special to you?" and "do you still find me attractive?". I feel like she is just trying to either get an ego boost, rub things in my face, or control me.

 

What do you think?

[bluefairy812]

So I have written a post about my breakup here before. But basically I got into a relationship when I was in college with a girl and we were together for 4 years, engaged, and then she broke it off. We were best friends but definitely lost some of the spark we had early in our relationship. She told me she wasnt "in love" with me anymore, dumped me, and immediately got into a relationship with another guy. This was a little over a month ago.

 

I have been going no contact since, although occasionally she reaches out to me about "logistical" things that need to get done (i.e., "do you have any of my mail?", "I think I left something there that I need", "I am getting the cable transferred and need the equipment"). This means I need to see her more often than I would like but still at most maybe once or twice every 2 weeks.

 

Every time I talk with her or see her, she asks if I am dating someone else. She says "we are FRIENDS, friends tell each other these things". I have told her its none of her business and I don't want to know about her love life either. Despite telling her this multiple times, she always moves a relatively superficial conversation to this topic. One time she even asked me "was I special to you?" and "do you still find me attractive?". I feel like she is just trying to either get an ego boost, rub things in my face, or control me.

 

What do you think?

 

 

Oh dear. She made a big mistake getting into a relationship with someone else! She will regret this sooner or later. It sounds like she is trying to manipulate you into giving her information. Ex's have a problem seeing their former lover move on! Don't give in. I would honest pull a NC on her!!! Sounds like she wants to keep you there just in case.

[Regrets58]

Had a similar thing with mine.Was in an ill advised "friendship" with ex.

Began to realise it was only ever going to be that.

Became interested in seeing other women.She found out through my

Daughter.Much quizzing and "thought we were friends",like I had to keep

her informed(she dumped me!).

Most recently asked "how is your love life",whilst requesting some property

back.She is with someone else now too lol.The property is still awaiting

collection.

Fortunately can take it all with a pinch of salt now.

[weallfalldown]

So I have written a post about my breakup here before. But basically I got into a relationship when I was in college with a girl and we were together for 4 years, engaged, and then she broke it off. We were best friends but definitely lost some of the spark we had early in our relationship. She told me she wasnt "in love" with me anymore, dumped me, and immediately got into a relationship with another guy. This was a little over a month ago.

 

I have been going no contact since, although occasionally she reaches out to me about "logistical" things that need to get done (i.e., "do you have any of my mail?", "I think I left something there that I need", "I am getting the cable transferred and need the equipment"). This means I need to see her more often than I would like but still at most maybe once or twice every 2 weeks.

 

Every time I talk with her or see her, she asks if I am dating someone else. She says "we are FRIENDS, friends tell each other these things". I have told her its none of her business and I don't want to know about her love life either. Despite telling her this multiple times, she always moves a relatively superficial conversation to this topic. One time she even asked me "was I special to you?" and "do you still find me attractive?". I feel like she is just trying to either get an ego boost, rub things in my face, or control me.

 

What do you think?

 

that's the spirit.....

[SandRat]

So I have written a post about my breakup here before. But basically I got into a relationship when I was in college with a girl and we were together for 4 years, engaged, and then she broke it off. We were best friends but definitely lost some of the spark we had early in our relationship. She told me she wasnt "in love" with me anymore, dumped me, and immediately got into a relationship with another guy. This was a little over a month ago.

 

I have been going no contact since, although occasionally she reaches out to me about "logistical" things that need to get done (i.e., "do you have any of my mail?", "I think I left something there that I need", "I am getting the cable transferred and need the equipment"). This means I need to see her more often than I would like but still at most maybe once or twice every 2 weeks.

 

Every time I talk with her or see her, she asks if I am dating someone else. She says "we are FRIENDS, friends tell each other these things". I have told her its none of her business and I don't want to know about her love life either. Despite telling her this multiple times, she always moves a relatively superficial conversation to this topic. One time she even asked me "was I special to you?" and "do you still find me attractive?". I feel like she is just trying to either get an ego boost, rub things in my face, or control me.

 

What do you think?

 

Never, I mean never, answer those kinds of questions! I guarantee you her intentions/motives are NOT pure! Avoid her like the plague and don't discuss any of your personal life with her. Also, don't listen to any of her personal experiences. Move on dude!!