2.50 a gallon Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) Yes, I can see how on super rare occassions the affair might be truly accidental. However, it is my belief that even with the conditions that the author was trying to lay down, he failed to mention that in almost every affair there is one who takes the lead in leading the other down the path of infidelity. This person, we know as a POSOM or a POSOW, both are preditors Edited September 13, 2012 by 2.50 a gallon missing words
2.50 a gallon Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 I have no idea what is happening, this is the second time that LS on its own decided to post the message that I was working one
2.50 a gallon Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 What I was trying to say in my previous posts, is that there is a breed of men, who target married women for their sexual needs. Why, because they are easy to seduce if you know how to do it. Part of the reason they get caught up in the game is because the OM is so sneaky good that they don't see him as a threat until it is too late. For example I know of a woman who threw away a marriage with this great looking in shape, well educated and very successful business man, for this weasely, yes he actually had a narrow pointed face and nose, that reminded me of a ferret, skinny, just out of prison, drug dealer, who was still living with his mother. She moved in with the OM and his mom and gave up her dream house, her large yard, pool and her kids for this POSOM, who barely made minimum wages when he could find work. Of course, being the character that he was his no where jobs never lasted very long. At the time of the affair there was no talking logic or sense with this woman, she was in love with the OM, and had never been in love with her Ex husband. A year of two later, our paths once again crossed and she desparately wanted to talk to an old friend. Once her money ran out, the OM had kicked her to the curb, and by that time the divorce was final and her Ex being a good catch had quickly developed a new love interest. With her she had never seen it coming. When she first met him, she too thought he looked like a ferret and did not think that he was good looking in the slightest. That meant her guard was down. They worked together, and he had pretended to be a nice guy trying to straighten out his life. That and he had a motorcycle. At a company picnic he was giving the kids short safe rides on the back of his motorcycle inside the park. When she mentioned she had never ridden on one, he took her for a ride on the street and found it very thrilling and that was the start of their affair. Had her husband not been out of town fishing that weekend she never would have taken the ride.
Radagast Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 There is a world of difference between not talking about day to day mundane things...and deliberately and intentionally LYING BY OMISSION in order to start/maintain an affair. I think the comparison is completely irrelevent. One is done with the sole and full intention of DENYING that information to their spouse for their own personal gain at the expense of that spouse...and THAT is the key difference. Perhaps my post was unclear. It is not the day to day mundane things that get ruled out of communication. Those are the only acceptable topics left. It is the deeper, meaningful topics that become fraught with raw emotion that become unacceptable. And in the run-up to an affair, before an affair becomes a real option (in the case of these "accidental" affairs) there are many such "meaningful" discussions between the spouses that should be had - but can't be, because it has been repeatedly and sustainedly communicated over the years that such discussions are "off limits". And so at the point where the affair becomes a real option, that path of silence is already well ingrained.
Owl Posted September 13, 2012 Posted September 13, 2012 Perhaps my post was unclear. It is not the day to day mundane things that get ruled out of communication. Those are the only acceptable topics left. It is the deeper, meaningful topics that become fraught with raw emotion that become unacceptable. And in the run-up to an affair, before an affair becomes a real option (in the case of these "accidental" affairs) there are many such "meaningful" discussions between the spouses that should be had - but can't be, because it has been repeatedly and sustainedly communicated over the years that such discussions are "off limits". And so at the point where the affair becomes a real option, that path of silence is already well ingrained. I still disagree that there is any comparison between avoiding discussion on emotional topics and deliberately lying by omission to allow yourself to engage in and continue an affair. It's not "ingrained"...it's "convenient" when you use it to hide actions that are unacceptable.
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